Izingane eziningi zesikole samabanga aphansi zibonisa imiphumela engokomzwelo nengokomzimba yokukhathala ngokweqile kwabazali bazo. Abazali abaningi bakhathele ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo nsuku zonke ngenxa yazo zonke izibopho abanazo emahlombe abo, kepha lokhu kungalungiswa ngokukuqaphela. Ziningi kakhulu izingane ezizizwa zicindezelekile futhi zikhathazekile ngenxa yesigqi sempilo emakhaya azo.
Ukuphela kwendlela yokufaka amabhuleki kulokhu ukuthi wazi ukubaluleka kokucabanga ngempilo oyiphilayo nalokho ofuna ukukudlulisela ezinganeni zakho. Izingane zidinga impilo elinganiselayo lapho abazali bazo bezisekela futhi bezihlonipha kuwo wonke amazinga.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane zinezibopho eziningi kakhulu: ibhola likanobhutshuzwayo, amakilasi angaphandle, imisebenzi ... Kwesinye isikhathi izingane ziyakhohlwa ukuthi kuyini ukuba yingane futhi esikhundleni salokhu, zikhathele, ziyacasuka, zixinekile nsuku zonke futhi zichitha isikhathi sazo sokuphumula phambi kwesikrini. Kwalokhu, Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bacabangisise ngezici ezithile kusukela manje kuqhubeke.
Ingabe ngiyisibonelo esihle sokuphila ngokulinganisela?
Ukuhlolwa kokuziphatha kwakho kwansuku zonke kubalulekile. Ingabe nawe ucindezelekile empilweni yakho yansuku zonke? Ingabe unokudla okufanele? Uma ushesha kakhulu empilweni yakho kungenzeka ukuthi uthumela umyalezo ongafanele enganeni yakho, ukusho ukuthi izinto ozenza ngaphandle kwekhaya njengemisebenzi yangemva kwesikole ibaluleke kakhulu kunokuphila impilo enhle nempilo enhle engokomzwelo. Udinga ukukhumbula ukuthi ukuziphatha kwakho kwansuku zonke kuzoba nomthelela omkhulu ezimpilweni zezingane zakho (ngaphezu kokuthi ziqale ukudlala imidlalo eneminyaka engu-4).
Ingabe ngenzela izingane zami ngokweqile?
Yebo, akekho umzali oyocabanga ukuthi benzela izingane zabo okuningi kakhulu, ngokuphelele ... Bakufanele konke. Kepha uma kunguwe ohlelayo futhi onamandla amakhulu okulawula uhlelo lwabo, kungenzeka ukuthi udala umuntu ohlulekayo ngokuzayo. Izingane kudingeka zifunde amakhono adingekayo ukuphatha impilo, futhi ngalokhu badinga ukukhetha ukuthi bazokwenzani nokuthi bangakwenza kanjani ngezikhathi ezithile.
Abazali kumele bafunde ukufundisa izingane zabo ukubeka phambili nokwenza isheduli abangayifeza. Uma ingane yakho ichitha isikhathi ezintweni ezingayisizi ukuthi ikhule noma ithuthuke, izodinga isikhathi sakho, amandla kanye nezinsizakusebenza ukuze ikwazi ukuthuthuka enhlanganweni yayo. Kepha udinga ukuholwa kwakho, hhayi okwenzayo konke.
Ngabe ngiyazi ukuthi yini okuthandwa yizingane zami nezinto ezithandayo?
Cabanga ngokuthi uyayilalela ngempela yini ingane yakho nokuthi uyazi kahle. Bavumele bakwazi ukuveza imibono yabo nemizwa yabo lapho kunesidingo. Izingane kufanele zizwe ukuthi abazali bazo bazinaka izintshisakalo zabo nokuthi bayazethemba amathuba abo.
Khetha okwenziwayo namathuba avumela izingane zakho ukuthi zithuthuke kwamanye amakhono noma izintshisekelo ezizithandayo. Lokhu kuyadingeka, ngokwesibonelo, ukuze bakhethe imisebenzi ebathakazelisa ngempela nokuthi ngale ndlela, bangaba namandla amakhulu wokwakha ubuntu obuhle futhi, nokuthi bazizwe benempilo enhle ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba.
Ngabe uzigcina izingane zakho zimatasa ngentshisekelo yakho?
Ngabe uzigcina izingane zakho zimatasa ngentshisekelo yakho? Ngabe ufuna ukuncintisana nabanye abazali? Noma ngabe siyini isizathu, khumbula ukuthi kubalulekile ukubheka ngombono futhi ukhumbule ukuthi izifundo zepiyano ezinikezwa yingane yakho, akudingeki ukuthi zibangelwe ukukhungatheka kwakho, noma ngoba ufuna abe phambili entweni ethile ... Uma ingane yakho idlala upiyano, kufanele kube ngoba ithanda ukuyenza ngempela.
Abazali kumele babambe iqhaza elibonakalayo ezimpilweni zabo, ezimpilweni zezingane zabo kanye nasemndenini wabo. Ngakho-ke, izingane zizofunda amakhono adingekayo ukuphatha isikhathi sabo, kanye nezimpilo zabo.