Khumbula ukungazizwa unecala ngokufuna ukuqeda ubudlelwano obungenampilo noma ubudlelwano obungasakujabulisi, ikuncike esikhathini esitshaliwe kulobo budlelwano. Isehlukaniso noma ukuhlukana ngemuva kobudlelwano besikhathi eside kungaba ngesinye sezimo ezibanga usizi nezicindezelayo empilweni.
Umuzwa wokusondelana nokwabelana ngempilo yakho yonke nomlingani wakho nakanjani kukuholela ekutheni ubandakanye umlingani wakho kuzo zonke izinqumo ozenzayo nsuku zonke. Kungaba okulula "Ufuna ini ngesidlo sasemini?" Noma okudala "Sthandwa, ngisekhaya", singazizwa kabi ngombono wokwehlukana. Isehlukaniso singaba buhlungu ngokweqile njengoba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lezi zithandani zihlakulela umuzwa owabiwe wobunikazi. Noma kungaba buhlungu kanjani, kunezinto ezimbalwa okufanele uzikhumbule ngaphambi kokuthatha i-plunge.
Cabanga ngezizathu zakho
Okokuqala kufanele ucabange ngezizathu zokuthi kungani ungacabanga ukushiya umlingani wakho ... Ingabe ubengathembekanga kuwe? Izinto azisebenzi? Mhlawumbe ufuna ukwehlukana kepha kunezinto ezimpilweni zakho ezenza kube nzima kakhulu. Mhlawumbe unezingane, mhlawumbe uzinikele empilweni yakho yansuku zonke, mhlawumbe uyithola icindezela kakhulu, njll.
Noma ngabe yisiphi isizathu ofuna ukushiya umlingani wakho isikhathi eside, cabanga ngokucophelela ngaphambi kokwenza kanjalo. Ungenzi noma yini ongazisola ngayo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Hlala kude nemithombo yezokuxhumana
Amaphutha ajwayelekile kakhulu lapho izithandani zihlukana kuvuleka ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, njenge-Facebook. Sonke mhlawumbe siyamazi umuntu osebenzisa imithombo yezokuxhumana njengedayari yakhe yomphakathi. Okubaluleke kakhulu, lapho sibhala okuthile ku-inthanethi, ukukhumbula ukuthi ihlala lapho ingunaphakade futhi ingabonwa yibo bonke.
Ngakho-ke, kungcono uzisindise enkingeni futhi ucabangele ukubuyekeza okuthunyelwe ngaphambi kokushaya inkinobho ethi "hambisa". Noma okungcono, gcina ubudlelwane bakho noma izingqinamba zakho zivela ku-Facebook. Gcina ikhanda lakho liphakeme futhi ukhumbule ukuthi kukhona impilo ngemuva kokwehlukana.
Ngaphambi kokuyeka, thatha ikhefu ebudlelwaneni
Kwesinye isikhathi yonke imibhangqwana idinga isikhathi esithile ngokwenyama nangokomzwelo. Izikhathi eziningi, abantu abasathandana baphendukela esehlukanisweni noma ekuhlukaniseni bese bethola ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukuthi bakulahlekile abakwakhile ndawonye. Ngakho-ke esikhundleni sokwenza lokho, cabanga ukuthatha isikhathi kude nomlingani wakho. Ngokwesibonelo, ungaya eholidini nabangani bakho futhi ujabulele isikhathi sekhwalithi wedwa.
Kunzima ukubhekana nokuhlukana ngaphandle kosizo lwabangane nomndeni. Kodwa-ke, ababaningi abantu abangochwepheshe ngomshado noma isehlukaniso, kanti abanye kungenzeka ukuthi bebengakaze babe sebudlelwaneni obunzima phambilini. Ngakho-ke, khumbula ukuthi akufanele uthinte laba bantu ngezinkinga zakho zobudlelwano. Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu imibhangqwana engayenza ukwelashwa kwemibhangqwana. Kufakazelwa ukuthi konga ubudlelwano futhi kuzokufundisa izindlela zokuxazulula izingxabano.
Uma naphezu kwakho konke okhetha ukukuhlukanisa, kuzofanela ucabange ngemali nokuthi ungakuvikela kanjani okungokwakho, kanye nokufuna iseluleko sezomthetho uma kunesidingo.