Ukufunda esahlukanisweni ngokuba ngumzali

Ukuthola isehlukaniso kungaba ngesinye sezimo ezihlukumeza kakhulu noma ubani angaba nazo. Kwabesilisa ikakhulukazi, kunokusekelwa okuncane okutholakalayo futhi amadoda amaningi azizwa engenasici uma efuna usizo. Bangazizwa bengenamuntu abangaya kuye ukuze bathole isiqondiso noma usizo. Abazali abaningi abahlukanisile banomuzwa wokuthi abanye bayaziqhelelanisa, kwesinye isikhathi abanye bangacabanga ukuthi uma umama eshiya ubaba, "kuzoba ngokuthize." Ngaphandle kokungabaza, yizinqumo ezingenabufakazi ezingaba buhlungu kakhulu.

Isikhathi sodwa

Esehlukanisweni lapho umama ewushiya umndeni futhi kungubaba othola ilungelo lokugcina izingane, kungabakhathaza abaningi. Kungahle kuqale kube nemibuzo engathandeki, uma kungenjalo, omama ababuzwa ngoba kufanele bazi ukuthi bakwenza kanjani "kahle".  Ngokuzayo lapho uhlangana nowesilisa odivosile, ungacabanga ukuthi uzizwa enesizungu, enesizungu futhi engenathemba, noma ebukeka emuhle futhi ekuphika.

Ubaba onakekela izingane zakhe kuzodingeka abhekane nezinkinga ezingokomzwelo, ezezimali nezomzimba ngendlela efanayo nokuthi bekungumama osele yedwa ephethe izingane zakhe ngoba ubaba eziyekile.

Ukulahlwa kwamadoda nakho kukhona

Indoda eshiywe ngumkayo ingazizwa ihlukanisiwe, ihlazeka, izinkinga zemali, njll. Bazizwa benesizungu, bencane futhi abethembi muntu. Bayazi ukuthi kufanele bazilwele izingane zabo kodwa bangazibuza imibuzo ebuhlungu: Ingabe ngiyindoda embi kangaka? Ingabe ngiyoke ngikwazi ukuthanda omunye umuntu? Ngabe ukhona umuntu ofuna ngibe nezingane futhi ngingedwa?

Empeleni abesilisa abahlukanisile bangasizana njengamaqembu okweseka. Bangaba usizo njengabazali, ukwazi izindaba zabanye abantu nokuzama ukubasiza kungathuthukisa imizwa yakho ngawe.

Abesilisa futhi kudingeka bazwakalise ukukhululeka ngokwenzekile kubo, badinga nokuba nomuntu abazokhuluma naye futhi abathembe. Ukwazi ukuthi kunamadoda amaningi adlule entweni efanayo nokuthi kunezinkinga ezingokomzwelo nezingokomthetho nezithiyo empilweni. Amadoda ahlukanisile nawo adinga ukuqonda nokwesekwa.

Ngakho-ke uma wazi owesilisa oshiywe ngumkakhe noma odivosile, ungacabangi ukuthi uzizwa kamnandi noma uphila nomunye osemusha. Ngoba akunjalo. Ungazizwa ukhishwe inyumbazane futhi uphelelwe yithemba. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi akuphike ... kepha zama ukucabanga ukuthi ungenzani noma ungathini kowesifazane obhekene nento efanayo naleyo ndoda, ngoba naye udinga uhlobo olufanayo losizo, uthando , ukunakwa nokuvuma.

Kunzima kakhulu ukudlulisa isehlukaniso, ukuhlukana, noma ukulahlwa. Ukubhekana nemizwa ebuhlungu kanjalo nokukhulisa izingane ngobuqotho ukuze ziqhubekele phambili nokuthi imizwa yazo nayo ilinganisiwe, akulula. Ngakho-ke, uma ulazi udaba lomuntu okulesi simo, unganqikazi ukumnika isandla lapho esidinga, Bazokubonga ngempilo yakho!