Kufanele uqale ngesisekelo sokuthi umlingani ophelele akekho. Kuvamile ukuthi ngezikhathi ezithile izingxabano ezithile noma ukulwa kwenzeka ebudlelwaneni ngokwabo okungafanele kuqhubekele phambili. Okukhathazayo nokuthusayo ebudlelwaneni ngokwabo ukuthi ulaka lufakwa kuphathina ngendlela ejwayelekile. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, kubalulekile ukuthola isisombululo ohlangothini lwenu nobabili futhi kuvimbele ukuthi izinto zingabi zimbi kakhulu.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo siyakubonisa amazinga amathathu okuhlukumeza okungenzeka phakathi kwabashadile kanye nendlela yokwenza phambi kwalolu hlobo lokuziphatha.
Ulaka olungokomfanekiso
Yizinga lokuqala lolaka phakathi kwabashadikazi. Kulolu hlobo lwezinga, amaqembu asenaso isikhathi sokuthola isixazululo ukuze izinto zingabi nzima ngokwedlulele. Ngolaka olungokomfanekiso, uchungechunge lokuziphatha kwenzeka:
- Hay amahlaya alimazayo ngokuqhubekayo.
- Kuyahlekwa njalo ukuziphatha noma ukuziphatha kwelinye lamaqembu.
- Likhona iqiniso izinga lokuthotshiswa.
- Kukhona izinsongo nemishwana ethile lokho zingamcasula umuntu.
Kuleli zinga lobudlova, kuyadingeka ukucabangela ukuthi ukuziphatha okunjalo kwenzeka njalo noma kuyinto ethile. Kuleli cala lokugcina, amaqembu angahlala futhi ubheke uhlobo oluthile lwesixazululo ukuvimbela ukuziphatha okunjalo ukuthi kuphindaphindwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ukuhlasela ngenkani
Izinga lesibili lolaka phakathi kwabashadikazi liyaphoqa futhi kuyo kukhiqizwa uchungechunge lokuziphatha okungeke futhi okungafanele kuvunyelwe:
- Elinye iqembu linqatshelwe ukwenza izinto ezahlukahlukene, ngakho inkululeko yakhe ilinganiselwe.
- Kuyasetshenziswa ukulawula komunye umuntu.
- Ingaphathwa kabi ngendlela engokwenyama.
- Iqembu elilodwa lihlola elinye ngoba udinga ukwazi ukuthi yini ngesikhathi ngasinye sosuku.
- Kunenqwaba yokwesabisa lokho kungabangela ukwesaba kwenye ingxenye yombhangqwana.
Leli zinga lesibili lolaka libandakanya ukwenza ubudlelwano bube nobuthi futhi kubalulekile ukuthi lowo ohlukunyeziwe futhi ohlukunyeziwe abuqede ngokushesha okukhulu. Izimpi nezingxabano kuba yinsakavukela umchilo wesidwaba futhi akufanele kuvunyelwe.
Ukuhlasela okuqondile
Ulaka oluqondile izinga lesithathu lolaka phakathi kwabashadikazi futhi izinga eliyingozi kakhulu, njengoba kusongela ubuqotho bomuntu ohlukunyeziwe. Ukuziphatha kunezici ezilandelayo:
- Ukuhlaselwa ngokomzimba kwenzeka njalo.
- Izinsongo basekukhanyeni kwemini.
- Ubuxhwanguxhwangu bukhona noma nini ukuze kucasule ukwesaba okukhulu engxenyeni eshayiwe.
Leli zinga lolaka ngokuvamile lifinyelelwa uma kungekho zinyathelo ezithathiwe ngalolu daba futhi izinkinga bezilokhu zikhula kancane kancane. Kuleli qophelo kubalulekile ukuqeda ubudlelwano futhi ufune usizo kuchwepheshe omuhle. Ubudlelwano bunobuthi futhi akunakwenzeka ukuhlala kubo.