I-Los Ukugona Ziwukukhonjiswa kothando phakathi kwabantu nokukhonjiswa kothando phakathi kwezithandani. Zinikeza okungenakuqhathaniswa izinzuzo zomzimba nezingokwengqondo futhi bakhona intela kulowo mhlaba womuntu siqu lapho ukuxhumana nokufudumala komunye kudlulela ngale kwezingubo zethu nesikhumba sethu ukusilethela ukulinganisela nenjabulo. Ngakho-ke, zinike isikhashana ukucabanga ngakho: Ugaxa umlingani wakho kangaki ngosuku?
Ngabe nihlakulela phakathi kwenu lolo limi olungabizi ngamazwi kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo? Ukucindezelwa, ukwangana, ukushukuma komzimba, ukubuka kancane… yizikolo ezigcwele umculo ezisiphilisa; Zisisekelo futhi kufanele sizisebenzise noma nini lapho sinakho.
Kunezifundo eziningi ezenziwe ngale ndaba. Kwanele ukusho, ngokwesibonelo, ukuthi inkomba ye- ukuhlukana kukhulu phakathi kwemibhangqwana lapho elinye lamalungu lingakuvezi lokhu kusondelana ngokomzimba, ngoba uthando lubonakala "lungalinganiseli" futhi omunye wabo uhlala edinga lezo zingalo noma lezo zingalo ngezinga elikhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunobufakazi obusobala bokuthi lezo zingane ezikhuliswe zafundiswa emakhaya ezintandane futhi azange zikwazi ukukhula nazo ukuthintana ngokomzimba yabazali babo bavuthwa ngokungathi sína ukuntuleka okuthintekayo lokho kuvame ukuholela ezinkingeni ezithile ezingokwengqondo nezenhlalo ezenza ukuhlangana kwazo kube nzima.
Ngakho-ke, isidingo sokuqonda ukuthi lokhu ulimi olungenamibono ye-caresses, ukwangana nokubukeka, kubalulekile ukuthi umbhangqwana uphumelele futhi ucebise ubuhlobo bawo.
Izinzuzo zokuxakwa kanye nokuziphulula
- Ukugona okulula kunciphisa okwethu amazinga okucindezela ngendlela ebaluleke kakhulu. Kungumzuzu wokuthula nobumbano phakathi kwezithandani ezilawula ukukhathazeka kwethu.
- Basinikeza ukuphepha futhi ukuvikelwa.
- Iyaxhumana okuhle, ukunakekelwa nothando.
- Sithuthukisa i- imizwa.
- Okwethu umfutho wegazi.
- Ungakholelwa noma ungakukholwa, ukwangana nokugconwa nakho kuthuthukisa okwethu inkumbulo: lesi simo sokuthula senza ukuthi kucashunwe uchungechunge lwama-neurotransmitter okuxazulula izinkumbulo zethu. Akukho okudlula umzuzwana wokuthula kwemizwa yethu ukuqinisekisa yonke imicabango.
- Okwethu ama-endorphin, labo babambisene ubuchopho bethu obufihla ezingeni le-hypophysis, okusinika lowo muzwa wenjabulo nokuzola.
Isidingo sokuthintana ngokomzimba
Ukugona, izandla, iminwe, ukufudumala kwe-caress... yizinto ezikhuthazayo ezenza ngokushesha umzimba wethu uthumele imiyalezo ebuchosheni bethu, ngokusebenzisa okuningi abamukelayo esinaso esikhunjeni sethu. Kumele futhi sazi ukuthi ubuchopho bethu bungumshini ohlelwe kahle futhi ohlakaniphile; nguyena osivuzayo lapho senza okuthile kahle. Ukuphululwa noma ukwanga kukwahlulela njengokugculisayo, njengokwenza imidlalo, futhi kusinikeza inani elihle lama-endorphin asatshalaliswa emzimbeni wethu, okusinika umuzwa omuhle wenhlalakahle.
Kufanele kuthiwe kuleyo mibhangqwana lapho lolu limi "lungakhulunywa" akukho ukuvumelana okulungile okungahlanganisa ubudlelwano ngokujwayelekile, ama-caresses ayisisekelo sobuhlobo bezocansi, ukufinyelela ku-orgasm ...
Imiphumela "yokungakhulumi" nesikhumba sethu
Iqiniso lokuphila ngaphandle kwe-caresses, ngaphandle kokugona, ngaphandle kwezinga elifanele lokuthintana ngokomzimba kuvame ukuholela ochungechungeni lwemiphumela emibi kakhulu hhayi kulabo abashadile kuphela, kodwa nakwamanye amalungu, ikakhulukazi kulabo abadinga lokhu kuvezwa. Yimiphi imiphumela esingahlupheka ngayo?
- Un ukunciphisa ukuzethemba kwethu: siqala ukucabanga ukuthi asifuneki, nokuthi asihehi ngokwanele umlingani wethu.
- Ukungavikeleki: ngokungabikho kokuthintana ngokomzimba singaqala ukucabanga ukuthi asenzi kahle, ukuthi umlingani wethu akajabuli ngathi nokuthi sengozini yokushiywa.
- Ukuziphatha kokukhathazeka: ukwesaba, ukungavikeleki noma ukuzethemba kwesinye isikhathi kungaholela ekuziphatheni okungalungile, njengokuqala ukudla kakhulu kunokujwayelekile, ukubhema kakhulu kunesidingo noma ukumane uqale ukushintsha indlela esiziphatha ngayo kanye nobuntu bethu.
Akekho ongakuphika lokho ukwanga okuqotho ivezwe ngesikhathi esifanele inamandla okudambisa konke ukungabaza nakho konke ukwesaba. Kodwa-ke, kufanele sibe nomuzwa wokuthi lokhu kuzinikela kuqotho, nokuthi kuthweswa uthando. Futhi ukuthi ukucindezelwa nokugonwa kunamandla acacile okuphulukisa, yingakho kufanele sikwenze nsuku zonke.
Ulimi lokubukeka
Akukhulumi nje kuphela ukuveza imizwa; ukubukeka noma amehlo abhala ulimi olusobala kubantu bethu olunquma nobudlelwano bethu. Ngokuya ngendlela umlingani wethu asibuka ngayo, sizozwa oyifunayo noma cha; Kuya ngobuqotho bamehlo abo, uma besigwema noma besivika, sizohumusha ukuthi basitshela amanga noma bakhuluma nathi ngokusuka enhliziyweni ... Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kunabantu abanamahloni ukwedlula abanye, kukhona labo abangakwazi ukusigqolozela ngenkathi siya kubo, kepha kungashiwo ukuthi lolu hlobo lwama-nuances luyisisekelo ku ubuhlobo bomshado.
Ukubukeka kuyisiqiniseko, ukunakwa nothando… kuyingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yalolo limi eyakhiwa ngabantu nokuthi, ezimweni zemibhangqwana, iyinsika eyisisekelo yokuphumelela ngezibopho ezanele ukuqinisekisa injabulo. Ngakho-ke unganqikazi zwakalisa uthando lwakho nsuku zonke, ukwangana nokucindezelwa yilawo mazwe amahle lapho singazisonga khona ukuthola isiqinisekiso sothando, ukuzizwa sivikelekile futhi sanelisekile ngenjabulo yethu.