Siyazi. Siyazi ukuthi uthanda izingane zakho ngaphezu kwazo zonke izinto, kepha kwesinye isikhathi uthando alwanele futhi ezinye izinhlobo zezinto ziyadingeka ukuze uvuselele amabhethri futhi ujabulele ingqondo ephilile. Asisho ukuthi uhamba ngaphandle kwezingane zakho isonto lonke uye kwelinye izwe bese ukhohlwa ngabo, akukho okuqhubekayo eqinisweni.
Iholide elingenazo izingane lingaphuma ekuseni ekuseni liye olwandle nomlingani wakho noma niyodla isidlo sakusihlwa nabangani. Mhlawumbe ucabanga ngeholide lapho usukhathele njengalapho uvuke izikhathi ezi-5 ebusuku kanti ingane yakho isentathakusa noma lapho unezinto eziningi ongazenza ekhaya ngemuva kosuku olude usemsebenzini. Kujwayelekile ukuthi ucabange ngesikhathi ngaphandle kwezingane, ungazizwa kabi ngalokho.
Kodwa-ke, iqiniso lesimo ukuthi kubazali abaningi, umbono weholide elingenazo izingane uhlala uyiphupho. Ziningi izaba zokungakwenzi: imali, umzamo ohilelekile ekukhuliseni izingane zakho, ukunakekelwa kwazo, ukukhathazeka ngokuthi yini engonakala… uhlu olusemakhanda abazali luqhubeka njalo. Udinga ukuguqula leyo mindset njengabazali ngoba izizathu zokuthatha lelo holide elingenazo izingane ziyaphoqelela ... Ungaphuthelwa ezinye zezizathu zokuthi kungani kukuhle ukuba neholide elingena zingane.
Kungani iholide ngaphandle kwezingane kuwumqondo omuhle
Izingane zidinga isikhala sazo, njengawe
Nikeza izingane ithuba lokuthi zizenzele izinto noma zenze izinto ngendlela ehlukile lapho zinakekelwa abanye abantu abadala ibavumela ukuthi bakhule ngendlela abangenakukwazi ngayo lapho konke kuyinto ejwayelekile futhi ibikezela.
Ungaxhuma kabusha nomlingani wakho ngendlela ehlukile
Akunandaba ukuthi ulunge kangakanani ekubekeni phambili ubudlelwane bakho nomlingani wakho, amathuba ukuthi isikhathi esiningi usaqhubeka ubeke izingane phambili. Ukuphuma ngezikhathi ezithile nomlingani wakho kuzokwenza uzizwe uxhumeke kakhulu. Isikhathi esincane sezingane sizokusiza ukuthi uqhubeke nokwenza ubuwena bakho njengabantu abashadile ... uzoba nokuzijabulisa okungcono, ukusondelana futhi uzojabula ngokwengeziwe.
Izingane zakho zizoba nethuba lokuchitha isikhathi nabanye abantu
Futhi labo abanye abantu bangahle babaluleke kubo, njengogogo nomkhulu noma omalume. Akulula ukushiya izingane zakho nomunye umuntu, kepha uma kukhona ugogo noma umamkhulu othembekile noma umalumekazi noma umalume noma umngani otholakalayo wokugcina izingane, izingane zakho zizoba nethuba lokubazi ezingeni elisha lonke. Bazothola ithuba lokwakha izinkumbulo ezintsha nokuqinisa ubudlelwano babo ngendlela engeke yenzeke ngenye indlela.
Ukufanele
Ukuya eholidini nezingane zakho akuyona iholide langempela kuwe… Kungaba iholide emsebenzini wakho, kodwa akukho lapho ungabalekela khona ngokuba ngumzali. Uchitha amahora amaningi unakekela imisebenzi yokuba ngumzali nezinqumo kunanoma yini enye empilweni yakho. Lawo mahora awabheki ngisho nokusebenza ngokomzwelo kwabazali. Ukukwazi ukuphumula nokubeka izinyawo phezulu kuyadingeka empilweni yakho yengqondo. Kungukuzinakekela okungcono kakhulu.