Nakuba abantu abaningi behlobanisa ukulutheka nezinto eziyingozi njengotshwala noma izidakamizwa, Iqiniso liwukuthi nawe ungaba umlutha wothando. Njenganoma yiluphi uhlobo lokulutheka, umuntu owumlutha wothando unenkinga enkulu ekuphileni kwakhe okufanele ayixazulule ngokwakhe noma ngosizo lwabanye abantu.
Inkinga ngokulutheka okunjalo ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi umuntu owumlutha akafuni ukubona inkinga abhekene nayo futhi uncamela ukuhlala ezweni lokukhohlisa futhi alale nomlingani wakhe. esihlokweni esilandelayo sikhuluma ngokuluthwa uthando kanye nemiphumela engemihle eyikhiqizayo kunoma ibuphi ubudlelwano.
uthando ukulutheka
Umlutha wothando ubeka yonke into ngaphambi kokuthatheka anakho ngomlingani wakhe. Empilweni ayikho into edlula uthando azolukhuluma kumuntu anobudlelwano naye. Lokhu kuyinkinga njengoba umuntu oyisigqila akazinaki ngokuphelele. Ukulutha othandweni kuphakamisa isidingo esiqhubekayo umbhangqwana ongakwazi ukusigcwalisa, okubangela izingxabano eziqhubekayo ezingazuzi nhlobo ikusasa elihle lobuhlobo. Umuntu owumlutha akaphili iqiniso elidala ukuthi ukuxhumana okuqhubekayo nomuntu omthandayo kushube futhi kube yinkinga.
Ukubaluleka kothando olunempilo ebudlelwaneni
Lapho ubhekana nokulutheka okunjalo kumlingani, kubalulekile ukuthi umuntu omluthayo akwazi ukuqonda ukuthi uthando ngaphakathi kobudlelwane bungaba nempilo.. Kufanele ukulahle ngokuphelele ukuziphatha okucindezelayo futhi uzame ukwenza uthando lube nomthelela omuhle enhlalakahleni yombhangqwana. Kukhona uchungechunge lwezenzo nezenzo eziguqula ubudlelwano obunobuthi bube obunempilo ngokuphelele:
- Kubalulekile ukunaka lokho umuntu akufunayo futhi akudingayo.
- Kufanele uzinakekele futhi usuka lapho, unakekele umbhangqwana.
- Yamukela umlingani njengoba enjalo, ngezinto zayo ezinhle nezimbi zayo..
- Kufanele ube neqiniso futhi ukwamukele njengoba injalo. Awukwazi ukuphila emhlabeni wemicabango, njengoba lokhu kunomthelela omubi ebudlelwaneni.
- uphile futhi ujabule nawe
Ngamafuphi, ukuluthwa uthando kuwukuziphatha okunobuthi okungaqeda noma yibuphi ubuhlobo. Umuntu owumlutha akajabuli kuye ngokwakhe ngokufuna injabulo ngokuziphatha okungenangqondo kumlingani wakhe. Ngaphezu kokuluthwa uthando, kuyodingeka sikhulume ngokusondelana ngokweqile nombhangqwana. Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa othandekayo kwenza ukuhlupheka kukhulu kakhulu futhi ubuhlobo buba yingozi kakhulu. Khumbula ukuthi njengoba kwenzeka kwezinye izinhlobo zokulutheka, umuntu owumlutha kufanele aqaphele ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi uhlushwa inkinga futhi ufuna ukuqeda isimo esishiwo. Okubalulekile ukuthi uqale ngokuzithanda bese usuka lapho, usho uthando nothando kwabashadile.