Siyaqonda nge ukucindezeleka un I-trastorn yengqondo ebonakala ngokuvela kwesimo somzwelo esilawulwa ukudabuka, ukungabi nathemba nokungabi nandaba nakho konke okuzungeze umuntu. Kunabantu abaningi okuthi ngesikhathi esithile empilweni yabo bahlupheke ngesimo sokucindezeleka. Uma isikhathi eside noma sibonakaliswa ngamandla amakhulu kangako ukuthi siphazamisa imisebenzi ejwayelekile yomuntu othintekile, kubhekwa njenge-pathological.
Yize ukucindezeleka kwenzeka kubo bobubili ubulili, kuvame kakhulu kwabesifazane, ikakhulukazi uma bengasebenzi ngaphandle kwekhaya futhi behliselwa ekunakekelweni kwezingane nasendlini. Laba besifazane bachitha isikhathi esiningi sosuku bengakwazi ukukhuluma nomuntu ozifihla kubo futhi abakwazi ukuxoxa nanoma ngubani ngezinkinga eziqubuka usuku lonke. Yize lokhu kwenzeka eminyakeni eyedlule, lapho bekumbalwa abesifazane abasebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya, nanamuhla ngaphezu kwalokho ebesingathanda, nangenxa yesimo esibi sokungasebenzi esihlaselwe amazwe amaningi.
Ngokuvamile, ukucindezeleka kuvame ukubangelwa inkinga ethile, eyaziwa kogulayo, kodwa kwezinye izimo kubonakala kungenasizathu esicacile noma esithile. Mayelana nobudala bokwethulwa, kunezikhathi ezimbili zempilo lapho kukhona ukuthambekela okukhulu kokucindezeleka. Ibanga elilodwa lisukela eminyakeni engamashumi amabili kuya kwengamashumi amane nanhlanu ubudala, ngesigameko esiphakeme cishe esingamashumi amane. Ngaleso sikhathi, lowo muntu uvame ukwenza ukubuyekeza nokuhlola lokho akwenzile phakathi nokuphila kwakhe. Ezikhathini eziningi, ukungafinyeleli ezinhlosweni ezibekwe ebusheni nokungakwazi ukufinyelela ezingeni lezenhlalo nezomnotho okufisayo kuholela esimweni sokucindezeleka esivame ukunyamalala lapho umuntu ekwazi ukuzibekela imigomo emisha.
Isikhathi sesibili sihambelana nesikhathi sokuthatha umhlalaphansi, isikhathi lapho siqondana nokulahleka kwamandla omzimba nangokwengqondo kwalowo nalowo muntu kanye nenani eliphakeme kakhulu lokushona kwabathandekayo (uma kukhulunywa nje). Umuzwa wokuthi "awunalutho emphakathini" nokungaphatheki kahle okudalwa yizinkinga zokuguga ezijwayelekile kuveza ukucindezeleka ezimweni eziningi.
Izimbangela nokubonakaliswa kokucindezeleka
Izimbangela zokudangala ukulahlekelwa othandekayo, ukungakhulumisani nezinkinga zezimali, ezinye izinkinga zomndeni, ukuguga nokuphelelwa umsebenzi, yize lokhu kuvame ukuba futhi kungumphumela wesimo sokucindezeleka.
Ukudana Kungabonakala ngezindlela ezilandelayo:
- Usizi futhi ekhala kaningi.
- Iyabonakala ukungabi nentshisekelo ngemisebenzi ejwayelekile nejwayelekile.
- Kukhushulwe ukungabi nathemba.
- Ukusebenza okuphansi nokusebenza emsebenzini.
- Ukuphelelwa isifiso sokudla nokwehlisa isisindo.
- Ukwehluleka ukuxazulula izinkinga kanye nobunzima obuvelayo.
- Ukuqwasha.
- Ukwehluka kwezinhlamvu. Ngokuvamile, imizwa imbi kakhulu ekuseni, ngoba kukhona lokho kwesaba nokungafuni ukubhekana nosuku olusha. Noma kunjalo, kuba ngcono njengoba amahora ehamba.
Imiphumela yokudangala
Ezimweni eziningi, umuntu othinteke ekucindezelekeni akazi ukuthi angakubona kanjani lokho futhi abonane nodokotela ngokubonakala kwesifo esithile semvelo okuwumphumela waso kuphela. Ukuhunyushwa okuphilayo kokudangala (inqubo yaso yokwenza okuthile) kuveza okulandelayo ukuguqulwa komzimba:
- Umuzwa oqhubekayo wokukhathala.
- Kunzima ukulala.
- Ukuphathwa ikhanda.
- Izinhlungu zemisipha.
- Ubuhlungu obuphansi emuva nobuhlungu emuva.
- Isiyezi kanye ne-vertigo
- Ukuphazamiseka kokugaya ukudla.
- Ubuhlungu besisu
- Ukushayana nokuqaqamba esifubeni.
Yisiphi iseluleko esingasilandela uma sicindezelekile noma uma umuntu osondelene nathi ehlushwa yiso?
Okokuqala, kufanele kucatshangwe ukuthi umuntu ocindezelekile unethonya elikhethekile endaweni yakhe yomndeni. Kuke kwaba nezimo lapho ukucindezeleka kwelungu elilodwa lomndeni kuye kwathinta, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, wonke noma cishe wonke amalungu alo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, yiwona kanye umndeni ongaba nethonya elihle kwabacindezelekile, wenze ngale ndlela elandelayo:
- Msize bona futhi uhlaziye inkinga ekuhluphayo, futhi ngokuhlanganyela bafune izixazululo kuso.
- Mkhuthaze ukuthi enze imisebenzi yakhe ngokujwayelekile, ngaphandle kokuzizwa njengesibopho, kodwa kunalokho, njengezokuzijabulisa.
- Ungavumeli umuntu ahoxe kuye, ukukhuthaza ukuphuma kwabo kanye nokuvakasha kwabo kubangani bakho nasezihlotsheni zakho.
- Endabeni yomama wekhaya, kufanele uzame zitholele nesikhathi sakho.
Ukucindezeleka ukugula okungafanele sikuthathe kalula.