Ukungakhululeki kwamasiko kushiya abesifazane behlangabezana nokuphuphuma kwesisu ngodonga lokuthula, ukungaqondi, nesizungu. Ukukhulelwa okukodwa kokukodwa kugcina ngokuphuphuma kwesisu. Kunabantu abangaqapheli lokhu kulahlekelwa futhi umphakathi awububoni ubuhlungu obukhiqizwa yilokhu kowesifazane okhulelwe nokuthi ngokungazelelwe yonke into iyaphela.
Ukukhulelwa kwesisu kuchazwa njengokulahleka kombungu ngaphambi kwamasonto angama-20. Ngokombono wezokwelapha, ukukhulelwa kwesisu kuphathwa kalula "njengenkinga ejwayelekile yokukhulelwa." Ngokomzwelo, noma kunjalo, kungathatha inani elikhulu. Abesifazane abahlangabezana nokuphuphuma kwesisu bazizwa ubuhlungu obukhulu kanye nokuzizwa belahlekile. Bangase babe nokukhathazeka, ukudangala, kanye ne-PTSD emasontweni, ezinyangeni, noma eminyakeni elandelayo yokuphuphuma kwesisu.
Ukubaluleka kwemvelo
Umndeni, abangani, kanye nabasebenzi bezempilo badlala indima ebalulekile ekusekeleni abesifazane abathintekayo ekuphuphumeni kwesisu abakushoyo noma abangakusho kungaba nomthelela ohlala njalo. Ukungahambi kahle kwamasiko kumele kunqotshwe. Ngakho-ke singabasekela kanjani kangcono abesifazane? Yini abesifazane abayidingayo emindenini, kubangani nakubasebenzi bezempilo ngesikhathi sokuphuphuma kwesisu?
Yini ongayenza
Vuma ukulahlekelwa kwakho
Yize kungahle kukukhathaze, ungahle usho into engeyiyo ungahlosile, kepha uma ungamtsheli lutho, uzophatheka kabi kakhulu. Ukungasho lutho kungenza abesifazane bazizwe sengathi awunandaba noma ucabange ukuthi ukulahlekelwa kwabo bekungabalulekile. Konke okudingeka ukusho ukuthi: 'Ngiyaxolisa kakhulu ngokuphuphunyelwa yisisu. '. Ukuthi kuvamile akusho ukuthi akuyona into ebuhlungu kakhulu.
Lalela ngikhale eceleni kwakho
Abesifazane abaningi badinga ukukhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo. Babuze ukuthi unjani. Abanye besifazane bakuthola kuwusizo impela ukukhuluma ngendlela abazizwa ngayo, abanye bangase bangakulungeli, kodwa bayokuthokozela uma ubuza.
Mkhuthaze ukuthi akhulume nabanye besifazane abake babhekana nakho
Imvamisa kulapho kuphela lapho abesifazane beqala ukukhuluma ngokuphuphuma kwesisu lapho bethola ukuthi abanye abantu ababazungezile nabo bake babhekana nokuchitheka kwesisu. Ukwazi ukuthi awuwedwa nokuthi abanye besifazane bayayiqonda indlela ozizwa ngayo kungasiza kakhulu.
Yini engcono ongayenzi
Gwema ukuphawula okujwayelekile
Yize kungukuphawula okunenhloso enhle, ukuphawula okufana nokuthi 'kwenzeke kuwe ngoba bekungadalelwanga ukuthi kuzalwe' noma 'kuvamile kakhulu', kungaba yingozi futhi kube buhlungu kowesifazane owayejabule ngokukhulelwa kwakhe futhi eselahlekelwe.
Gwema ukusola noma ukunikeza izeluleko ongazicelanga
Yiba nozwelo nozwela; unganikeli izeluleko ezingenza owesifazane azizwe sengathi kufanele asolwe.
Qaphela ukuthi usizi alunamkhawulo wesikhathi
Izigaba zokulila kwabesifazane azixhomeki ekutheni bakhulelwe amasonto amangaki: ingane yabo ishonile. Kulungile ukuthi ubhekane nobuhlungu bakho ngesikhathi sakho. Ungamehluleli uma edinga isikhathi esithe xaxa sokuziqoqa.