Kuyaye kuthiwe ebudlelwaneni obunempilo umuntu unikeza ngaphandle kokulindela ukubuyiselwa. Kodwa-ke, kunabantu abacindezelekile futhi okunzima ukubheka ukuthi balunikeza kanjani uthando nothando ngaso sonke isikhathi kwabashadikazi futhi bangatholi lutho ngokubuyisela.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo sikunikeza imihlahlandlela yokwazi ukuthi ngabe uthola okungaphezu kwalokho ovame ukukwenza phakathi kwezithandani.
Ungazi kanjani ukuthi uthola okungaphezu kokunikeza ngaphakathi kombhangqwana
Abantu abaningi abazi kahle ukuthi ebudlelwaneni babo, bahlala bethola ukuboniswa kothando, ngaphandle kokubuyisela noma yini. Kunezimpawu eziningi ezingakhombisa lokhu:
- Isinyathelo sithathwa kuphela elinye lamaqembu kungaba lapho uhlela amaholide noma lapho wenza okuthile kokungenzi lutho. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, enye yezingxenye zezaziso zombhangqwana nezinkinga ziyavela. Awukwazi ukuvumela elinye lamaqembu ukuthi likhombise intshisekelo kukho konke kanti elinye linqikaze kangangoba ligcina selilimaza ikusasa elihle labashadikazi.
- Kujwayelekile ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kube khona ukungqubuzana noma ukulwa okuthile. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, kujwayelekile ukuthi bobabili ababandakanyekayo benze konke okusemandleni ukuthola uhlobo oluthile lwesisombululo esizuzisa ubudlelwano. Noma kunjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi elinye lamaqembu ligcine liwele izingalo zalo futhi unethemba lokuthi umlingani wakhe nguyena ogcina exazulule le nto. Ukudlula akulungile kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo noma kunempilo.
- Noma ngubani ebudlelwaneni uthanda ukumangazwa ngumlingani wakhe ngezikhathi ezithile ngokumangala kwezothando. Lokhu kuyisihluthulelo uma kukhulunywa ngokugcina ilangabi lothando luvutha. Ukubuka iminyaka ihamba futhi kungakatholakali imininingwane yothando, kumisa ubudlelwano ekuqhubekeleni phambili futhi kumile ngendlela eyingozi. Akudingeki uhlale futhi ube nemininingwane ethile kaningi esiza umbhangqwana ukuthi wazi ukuthi uthando luyaphila.
Iyini imiphumela yokwamukela nokunganikeli ngezithandani
Kunochungechunge lwemiphumela esimweni sokwamukela nokunganiki lutho kwabashadikazi:
- Kuyisikhathi ngaphambi kokuba enye ingxenye yezithandani igcine ikhathele futhi izimpi nezingxabano ziyaqala. Ukuqina kunomkhawulo futhi uma kufinyelelwa kubo, ubudlelwano bungaphela.
- Ukuchitha sonke isikhathi futhi unganikeli noma yiluphi uhlobo lothando kungathinta isimo somzwelo sabashadikazi. Ukuzethemba nokuzethemba kusemhlabathini, okungekuhle ukuthi izithandani ziqhubeke.
Ekugcineni, akukufanele ukubandakanyeka ebudlelwaneni lapho ungatholi lutho yize unikeza omunye umuntu konke. Lezi zithandani aziwona umncintiswano, kodwa kumele kube khona ukubandakanyeka kwamaqembu ukuze konke kuhambe kahle futhi lobo budlelwano bunempilo ngangokunokwenzeka.