Ezimweni eziningi, ukufika kwengane kungabangela ubuhlobo bombhangqwana obubonakala buphelele qala ukuxukuza. Izibopho zeqembu ngalinye, kanye nokunakekelwa okuzodingeka umntwana, kuyinto engaphula ukuzwana kwabashadile. Ukuze ugweme konke lokhu, kubalulekile ukukhetha umzali ohlanganyelwe, okwenza bobabili abathintekayo bajabule futhi abubeki engozini ubuhlobo ngokwabo.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokutshela kungani ukwabelana kwabazali kusiza ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano bababhangqwana.
Ukubaluleka kokwabelana ngomzali maqondana nombhangqwana
Hlukanisa imisebenzi ehlukene mayelana nokukhulisa umntwana, kuyinto engasiza ekwenzeni imibhangqwana ijabule futhi ihlale isikhathi eside. Ukubambisana ngokulinganayo ekunakekeleni omncane kuyinto eyenza ubudlelwano bombhangqwana buvumelane kakhulu. Ngakho-ke kujwayelekile ukuthi ebudlelwaneni lapho omunye wabathintekayo ephethe yonke into, izingxoxo nezingxabano ziba semini.
Ngenhlanhla futhi ngokuhamba kweminyaka, izinto zishintshile futhi Abazali abaningi bachitha isikhathi esiningi nezingane zabo. Lokhu kumqoka kwabashadile ngoba kukhulula omama emithwalweni eminingi. Ngakho-ke ukuba umzali okwabiwe kuhle ngempela kumbhangqwana ukuba uqine futhi ungahlala ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Amathiphu okuzuza ukubeletha okwabiwe phakathi kwabashadile
Akulula noma kulula ukwenza ubudlelwano bomzali busebenze. Naphezu kwentuthuko ethile, kusenengxenye yomphakathi ecabanga ukuthi ukunakekelwa kwezingane kufanele kwenziwe ngumama ngezinga elikhulu.
Lokhu kuyinto engabuzuzisi nhlobo ubuhlobo futhi yingakho uchungechunge lwezici kufanele lubhekwe:
- Gcina inkhulumomphendvulwano noma ingxoxo nozakwethu ukuze kutholwe izibopho mayelana nokukhulisa izingane. Kuhle ukuhlanganisa imisebenzi ehlukene, ngoba kuyinto ezuzisa ubuhlobo.
- Gcina ukuzola okuthile lapho wenza izinqumo ezithile. Kufanele ubonakale uzolile futhi ukhululekile ukuze ugweme izingxabano ezithile.
- Iqembu elilodwa akufanele livunyelwe ukuphatha iningi lokunakekelwa kwengane nomsebenzi wasendlini. Ukukhuliswa komntwana kumele kwabiwe futhi kulingane.
- Ukusebenzisana ngokubambisana kuzosiza ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka nokukhathala kwabashadile. Lokhu kuyinto ngokungangabazeki ezuzisa wena.
- Akufanele uxoxe phambi kwezingane zakho. Konke okuphathelene nemfundo nokukhuliswa kwabo kumele kuxoxwe ngasese.
- Uma kuziwa ekubekeni ingane icala ngokuziphatha kwayo okubi, Kubalulekile ukuthi nikwenze ngokuhlanganyela nangokuvumelana.
- Kufanele sikhulume ngendlela ecacile neqondile maqondana nombhangqwana futhi ugweme izingxabano noma ukulwa okuthile.
Ngamafuphi, ukukhetha ukuba umzali okwabiwe kuyinto esiza ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano njengombhangqwana. Ukwabelana ngokulinganayo kokubili izibopho nokunakekela, Kuyinto enhle kakhulu ngekusasa elihle lanoma yimuphi umbhangqwana. Awukwazi ukuvumela omunye wezinhlangothi ukuthi aphathe wonke umsebenzi bese omunye enze okuthile, ngoba lokhu kuhilela umonakalo omkhulu ebudlelwaneni.
Okufanele kube khona lapho kuba nomntwana ukuthi ukunakekelwa kwansuku zonke kwenziwa ngendlela elinganayo bobabili ubaba nomama. Kuye kwaba nokwenzeka ukuqinisekisa, ngenxa yezifundo ezihlukahlukene, ukuthi ukuba umzali okwabiwe kusiza umbhangqwana ukuba ujabule kakhulu futhi usungule ukuzwana okuqinile ebudlelwaneni.