Ubudlelwano bombhangqwana kufanele bunikeze ukuvikeleka nokwethembana kubo bobabili abathintekayo kanye ukufeza inhlalakahle ethile ephumela esibophweni esidalwe ngokwaso. Ukungabaza nokwesaba yizici ezithinta kabi ubudlelwano. Ziningi izizathu ezingenza ukuthi umuntu angagculiseki ngobudlelwano bakhe.
Ngokulandelayo sizokutshela okumele ukwenze uma usunobudlelwano obungakugculisi.
Izizathu zokuthi kungani ungagculiseki ngobudlelwano bakho
Kunezimbangela eziningi lokho kungenza ubudlelwano bakho bungakukholisi nhlobo nokuthi awujabule kukho:
Ukwesaba ukuba wedwa
Ukwesaba ukuba wedwa kungesinye sezizathu eziyinhloko zokuqhubeka nobudlelwano obungagculisi nhlobo. Ngincamela ukuba nomuntu noma ubudlelwano bungahambi kahle futhi ugweme ukuba wedwa kungekho muntu. Kunoma ikuphi, kumelwe kuboniswe ukuthi umbhangqwana kumelwe usekelwe othandweni nasothandweni hhayi eqinisweni lokuba wodwa.
Ukuncika ngokomzwelo
Ukuncika okuthile ngokomzwelo kungase kube yimbangela yokuqhubeka nothile naphezu kokuqiniseka okuncane. Ukuncika ngokomzwelo kufana nobudlelwano obungenampilo noma obunobuthi. Umbhangqwana kufanele wamanelise ngokuphelele umuntu, into engenakwenzeka uma uncike ngokomzwelo kumlingani wakho.
Umkhuba
Abantu abaningi abakholelwa ebudlelwaneni babo, nokho baqhubeka ngendlela efanayo ukuze bathole ukunethezeka noma isimiso. Kulolu hlobo lwemibhangqwana, uthando noma uthando luye lwathatha indawo yothando ngomunye umuntu. Kunokwesaba okukhulu nokwesaba ushintsho futhi bancamela ukuba nomlingani ongagculisi nhlobo.
Okufanele ukwenze uma umuntu enobudlelwano obungakugculisi
Okokuqala nje ukwazi ukuthi ubudlelwano abusebenzi futhi ukuthi akufanelekile ukuqhubeka ngale ndlela. Kuhle ukuzinika isikhathi sokuzindla nokucabanga ngomoya ophansi. Ochwepheshe ngale ndaba bayeluleka noma batusa ukuthi uzibuze uchungechunge lwemibuzo:
- Ingabe ufanelwe ukuba nobuhlobo engingathokozi ngayo?
- Kungani ngingakwazi ukuqeda ubuhlobo?
- Ukufaneleka qhubeka nobudlelwano?
- Kwakuzokwenzekani uma ngiphule isixhumanisi nozakwethu?
Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi akulula noma kulula ukufinyelela leli phuzu futhi Ezimweni eziningi, usizo lomelaphi luyadingeka.a. Inhloso yale mibuzo iwukwazi ngendlela ecacile ukuthi yini efiswayo futhi ukusuka lapho ungaqhubeki nombhangqwana uma lungekho uhlobo lokukholelwa kukho.
Uma konke sekucacile, kubalulekile ukuhlala eduze kombhangqwana futhixpose okucatshangwayo ngobudlelwano bezithandani. Ukukhulumisana okuhle kubalulekile uma kuziwa ekuxazululeni izinkinga ezahlukene ezikhona phakathi kwabashadile.
Izidingo ezahlukene ebudlelwaneni bombhangqwana
Ochwepheshe abaningi bayeluleka ukucabanga ngalokho okubalulekile nokudingekayo ukuze ubudlelwano busebenze.. Kutuswa ukubala okubalulekile lapho ulondoloza isibopho esithile nomunye umuntu. Khumbula ukuthi umuntu ngamunye uhlukile ngakho izidingo ngeke zifane uma kuziwa ekusebenzeni kahle kobudlelwano. Uma izidingo ezinjengokuxhumana, inhlonipho, ukwethembana noma izinhloso ezihlanganyelwe sezisunguliwe, sekuyisikhathi sokuhlaziya ukuthi zihlangene yini ebuhlotsheni noma uma, ngokuphambene nalokho, zingenziwanga.
Ngamafuphi, Akweluleki noma kuyalulekwa ukuba nobudlelwano obungagculisi. Isibopho esidaliwe kufanele sisekelwe othandweni nasekuthandeni okufanayo futhi ukuze kuzuzwe injabulo nenhlalakahle ethile.