Ukuba uthando luyacinezela, ukuba uyabona ukuba akukho nto ihambelanayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungakanani umgudu owenzayo kubudlelwane bakho, mhlawumbi lixesha lokujongana nenyaniso. yokukhulula. Siqinisekile ukuba kuwo wonke umjikelo wobomi bakho ubusoloko unemvakalelo yokuba utyale imali eninzi kwiinjongo ezithile, amaphupha kunye neeprojekthi ezingakhange zikuse ndawo. Ngaphezu koko, zikwenze ukuba ulahlekelwe nayinxalenye yokuzithemba kwakho.
Xa kufikwa kubudlelwane, umba untsokothile ngandlel’ ithile. Kuqhelekile ukuba kubekho umahluko ongaphezulu kwesinye ekuqaleni, iiyantlukwano ezincinci ezinokuthi, kancinci kancinci, zikhule zibe yimigama emide. Sizama yonke imihla ukukhupha oku kungalingani, ukufikelela kwizivumelwano, ukulungelelanisa izithuba kunye neeprojekthi. Sifuna ukuba yonke into ilingane ewe okanye ewe. Ngoku, utyalo-mali ngokweemvakalelo olubandakanyekayo Umzamo wexesha elide apho iziphumo zingabonakali zinokuba yingozi kakhulu.. Siyakumema ukuba ucamngce ngayo.
Uthando olubuhlungu, uthando oluphelayo
Kukho uthando olunzulu, uthando lwasehlotyeni, uthando oluqondayo noluqolileyo kunye nothando olungelulo ubungakanani bethu. Umzamo esiwutyalayo ekuqinisekiseni ukuba iiyantlukwano ezininzi ziphela zihambelana zinokudinwa kangangokuba sobabini sigqibele sizenzakalise kakhulu.
Ngoku, ekubeni sonke siyazi ukuba uthando lungaphezu kwayo yonke into esebenza yonke imihla kubudlelwane bomntu ... Sazi njani ukuba iinzame ezixeliweyo azinakusisa ndawo? Makhe sicinge ngale miba okwethutyana.
Ufuna ntoni, ndifuna ntoni
Ukuze ubudlelwane busebenze, akuyomfuneko ukuba sabelane ngezinto ezifanayo zokuzonwabisa, izinto esizithandayo, ukuba sifunde iincwadi ezifanayo okanye sibe nabahlobo abafanayo. Ingcamango "yeqabane lomphefumlo" ihlala inama-nuances angasoloko ehambelana nenyani. Ekuphela kwenkalo ekuyimfuneko ukuba sivumelane ngayo kukuxabiseka kwethu.
- Isibini esihlonelanayo, esithandanayo nesikhule ngokwaneleyo ukuba sivumele omnye umntu abe nelizwi lakhe, izinto azithandayo kunye nezinto azithandayo nabathi ke, babelane naye ngazo, baya kuba besilwela. ubudlelwane bakho.
- Nabani na "ongafanelanga" ukuba omnye umntu aqhubeke ekhula ngokwakhe kwiindawo zabo, ukuba banobudlelwane babo, amaphupha abo kunye neminqweno yabo, ukuvotela inxalenye yento ethandwayo. Ngenxa yokuba isibini sakha indawo eqhelekileyo kodwa kwangaxeshanye, siqhubeka singabantu ababini njengeqela.
- Into oyifunayo kunye nento endiyifunayo kufuneka ifumane iindlela eziqhelekileyo. Siya kuhlonipha ukungafani, kodwa ihlala imalunga nokufumana inqaku eliqhelekileyo apho ibhalansi ifunyenwe. Oku kuphunyezwa ngokuba nemilinganiselo efanayo.
Xa siqonda ukuba "asifaneleki" kubomi bomnye umntu
Akukho nto inzima nentsonkothileyo kunokuzinikela kubungqina. Ngaphandle kothando olukhoyo kwaye uzame ngandlela zonke, akukho nto isebenzayo. Kufika ixesha apho ixabiso leemvakalelo liphezulu kangangokuba kukho inketho enye kuphela: Yekela ihambe.
- Akulula ukuyiqonda okokuqala. Kananjalo akufanele ujonge ityala xa ekugqibeleni ufumanisa ukuba yonke into eyenziweyo ayiloncedo. Ukuqonda ukuba olu thando luyafana nokubandezeleka kunolonwabo, yinyani leyo Siza kubona kuphela emva kohambo olude lokuphoxeka kunye namaphupha angafezekiyo.
- Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona kukho uthando kunye nothando, akukho miba ifanayo. Incoko yababini ayinasiqhamo, akukho luvelwano, akukho kusebenzisana obekunokusivumela ngokwenyani ukuba senze iibhulorho, sidale obo bomi buqhelekileyo, buzolileyo nobunenjongo esibunqwenelayo sonke.
Njengoko sithetha, into yokugqibela ukuyenza kukukhangela aboni. Ngokufanayo, nathi asifanele sizisole ngoko siye sajamelana nako. Uthando luhlala lufanelekile, enyanisweni yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka ilwelwe amadabi abalaseleyo.. Ke, ukuba niyizamile nobabini, akukho namnye kuni oya kuphuma engenanto. Yonke into enamava ibifanelekile, kwaye nangona kunzima, ekuphela kwendlela yokonwaba kukuqhawula olo nxibelelwano kwaye uqhubeke usiya phambili.
Yekela
Ukuyeka ukuhamba yinkqubo yendalo yobomi. Akukho mntu usifundisayo xa sifika apha emhlabeni ukuba kuza kufuneka sincame izinto ezininzi, ukufunda ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka sibandezeleke, uthando alwanelanga ukonwaba kubudlelwane. Konke oku sikufundiswa ngamava kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, ngokubaluleka kwethu ekujonganeni namava ngamnye.
Ukholelwa okanye ungakholelwa, xa ekugqibeleni siqonda ukuba olu thando alukho ubukhulu bethu kwaye kungcono ukuyeka, ekugqibeleni siya kuziva sikhululekile. Nangona kungayi kuba lula ukoyisa intlungu yokuvalelisa, isibindi sokuba ekugqibeleni sikwazi ukuvala loo mnyango usizise ngeenyembezi ezininzi yindlela yokuziphilisa, ukuzinyamekela.
Ukuba awufuni, ukuba usafuna ukuba yonke into ilingane, Okuza kwenzeka kukuba omnye kwaba babini kuya kufuneka ancame izinto ezininzi ukuze “afane” ngamandla kubomi bomnye umntu. Kule meko into eyenzekayo kukuba ukuzithemba kuphulwa, kwaye sisuka siyeke ukuba siziqu zethu.
Musa ukuyivumela ukuba yenzeke loo nto. Ayifanelekanga. Nabani na okuthanda kakuhle uyakukonwabisa, soze akunyanzele ukuba ube yinto ongeyiyo kakade.