Ukuxhalaba kunye noxinzelelo kuhamba kunye nemihla yethu yemihla ngemihla. Kuba bobabini bahlala bekhona kwaye siva malunga nabo ngaphezulu kwemfuneko, ngelishwa. Yiyo loo nto ngamanye amaxesha siye sibangenise. Kodwa kuyeza ixesha apho kufuneka sazi kakuhle ukuba yintoni umahluko phakathi kwezi zinto zimbini.
Kungenxa yokuba unxunguphalo noxinzelelo kubonakala ngathi ziyafana kodwa zinemvelaphi eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Ke azinakusetyenziselwa okufanayo kuba azinjalo. Lixesha lokuba wazi imvelaphi nento eyahlula ezi zinto zimbini. Masifumanise!
Yintoni uxinzelelo
Kuyinyani ukuba lelinye lawona magama asetyenziswayo kule mihla yethu. Kodwa ngaba uyazi ukuba uthetha ukuthini? Emva koko Yimpendulo okanye impendulo kwinto enokuthi ithathwa njengesoyikiso emzimbeni wethu. Yonke into kungenxa yokuba ingqondo ngokwayo yiyo etolikayo injalo. Ke ukuba inika umqondiso, umzimba unoxanduva lokukhupha imiqondiso ethile ukuze ikwazi ukuyilwa kwaye uninzi lweempawu esiza kuthi sizikhankanye zavela apho.
Ukususela kumzuzu waloo mqondiso, ukungalingani kuba yinto ephambili yomzimba wethu. Kungenxa yokuba izama ukuzikhusela kule ngxaki kwaye ngenxa yoko ivelisa ukutyeba okugqithisileyo. Yiyo loo nto Iimpawu ziqala ukubonakala kwaye zikwimo yokungabikho kwamandla, iintloko, ukudinwa okugqithisileyo. Intamo eqinile okanye umqolo kunye neengxaki zesisu, phakathi kwabanye. Kodwa kukuba ukongeza emzimbeni, intloko iya kuchaphazeleka ukusukela kwimizuzu esicinga ngayo ngesoyikiso kodwa ayikho ngokwenene. Zombini ukungabikho kolwazi kunye nokufunwa kwakho kunokubangela uxinzelelo.
Yintoni ixhala
Ixhala kukusebenza komzimba okanye impendulo kwinkqubo yovalo. Kubantu abaninzi yimeko yeemvakalelo kodwa kuyinyani ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu oyichaza ngendlela efanayo. Kule meko kuyinyani ukuba iimpawu zinokwahluka kancinci kwaye kuxhomekeke kumntu ngamnye. Njengomgaqo ngokubanzi, akukho sisongelo njengoko bekukho noxinzelelo, kodwa kunokubangela ukudityaniswa kweemvakalelo. Yintoni eyenza ukuba umzimba uqaphele Xa sijamelene nexhala ebomini bethu, isiqendu soxinzelelo sinokuvela. Amanqanaba obomi ekufuneka siwenzile phambi kovavanyo lwekhonkrithi, iimviwo ezibalulekileyo, emva koko uxinzelelo lunokwenzeka.
Ayisiyongozi kwimpilo yethu, kuqala, kodwa kufuneka kuthiwe Iimpawu zinokubangela uxinzelelo. Kuba ukubetha kuya kubakho, ukungcangcazela, ukubila okanye ukukhathazeka isisu, phakathi kwabanye. Xa singakwazi ukulawula onke la maxesha, emva koko singathetha ngoxinzelelo lwe-pathological.
Ixhala noxinzelelo, yintoni umahluko?
Ixhala noxinzelelo zibonakala zihamba kunye kodwa zinomahluko ongaphezulu kunokuba sicinga. Kuba unxunguphalo lunokuba lolwantlandlolo ngenxa yoloyiko okanye unxunguphalo, ngelixa Uxinzelelo yimeko yokulumkisa okanye isoyikiso kodwa imfutshane ngexesha kunye noluhlu lweengxaki ezifutshane. Oku kuthetha ukuba uxinzelelo ngokwalo lunokuphela ixesha elide ngaphambi koxinzelelo. Ngoba?
Lo nto Ukuphelisa unxunguphalo akukho lula kangako, kuba le mpendulo iya kuqhubeka ukubakho ebusweni bezinto ezithile. Ukulindela into eza kwenzeka kudala uxinzelelo, olunokuthi ngamanye amaxesha lwenzeke ngamaxesha athile okanye lube yingxaki enkulu. Kuzo zombini iimeko kufuneka sijonge imvelaphi kwaye ukuba sinoxinzelelo, kuya kufuneka sifeze umsebenzi wethu, sizilungiselele kwaye sakuba sigqibile, siya kuqaphela ukuphucuka. Ngoxinzelelo, ayifani kuba inokubonakala ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo, kwiingxaki ezahlukeneyo kwaye ihlala inezimvo ezimbi nezilindelweyo.