Kutheni thina siyamanga? Abantu banesidingo sendalo sokubonisa uthando lwethu ngokubanga, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ngaphezulu kokubonisa uthando okanye uthando, ikwaluluhlobo lolwimi. Unokumangaliswa kukufumanisa ukuba ayizizo zonke ukwanga ezifanayo. Ngaphezulu, usenokude uqonde ukuba ukwanga ngakunye oye wakunika kona kwahlukile
Siphuzana ngothando, ngokufudumeleyo. Siphuzana ukwehlisa umsindo emva kwengxabano. Sivuke ngo kiss sithi ndlela ntle nomnye. Akukho namnye onambitha ngokufanayo. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba uphuze isibini ngasinye obukhe wanabo ebomini bakho ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Ukuphuza okunzulu kokufikisa. Abo bazele yimincili kubudlelwane obufutshane basehlotyeni ... ukwanga kunjalo Inxalenye yolwimi lwethu njengezidalwa ezineemvakalelo. Makhe sithethe ngayo namhlanje ku Bezzia.
Yintoni injongo yokwanga?
Ngokutsho UGordon G. Gallup, ingcali ye-biopsychologist kwiYunivesithi yaseAlbany, imilebe yethu yavela ngokwahlukileyo ukuze isebenze ngenjongo enye: ukuququzelela ukukhetha iqabane. Le datha inokukumangalisa, kodwa zininzi izazinzulu ezisikhumbuza ngento enomdla wokwenene:
- Ukwanga yinkqubo entsonkothileyo esingazihlalutyiyo ngokungazi ukuhambelana kofuzo esisebenzisana nabo.
- Ukongeza kolu "tshintshiselwano lwamathe", sibona izinto ezinje ngevumba, ulwazi oluchukumisayo okanye ulwazi lwasemva ...
- Ngokuchanekileyo abafazi olona khetho xa ukhangela iqabane. Thina sinika ukubaluleka kokumanga, ukufumana zonke ezi zinto zibalulekileyo ngendlela engekho zingqondweni.
- Ngokumanga, abantu bafumanisa ukuzibophelela kweqabane lethu. Abafazi kwakhona banomdla kakhulu. Thina esibona ukuba kukho ukunyaniseka okuyinyani kweso senzo silula, okanye ukuba sichasene, luthando olulula ngaphandle kwemvakalelo.
Ukwanga yi-barometer yeemvakalelo
1. Injongo yebhayoloji yokumanga
Ukwanga ayilulo umanyano olulula lwemilebe. Ukusuka emlonyeni. Siqinisekile ukuba nawe ngokwakho uza kubona izinto ezininzi xa uye wancanywa. Siphawula ukubanda okanye uxanduva, umzekelo. Inkqubo ye- ukungabikho komdla kwesibini mhlawumbi esingasakhathaliyo ngathi.
Siphawula ukuba, amandla emvakalelo kwabo abanye abantu abasithanda ngokwenene. Oko kunye nokwanga kwabo, basixelela okungaphezulu kunamazwi. Singatsho ukuba abazalisekisi kuphela ulwazi lwebhayoloji kunye nengqondo. Ikwayi barometer yeemvakalelo zethu. Nangona kunjalo, baninzi abacinga ukuba ukwanga akusebenzi kwinjongo yebhayoloji. Kodwa yimpazamo. Masibone ukuba kutheni:
- Ukwanga zi Uhlobo lolwimi. Kungenxa yabo ukuba sikhethe amaqabane esinokuba nawo.
- Ukwanga kukuqala kwesondo. Ngawo lawo maxesha apho umnqweno kunye uchulumanco, isithethe esifunekayo ekuveliseni kwakhona umntu.
- Masikhe sibeke ecaleni ukwanga ngendlela esiziqonda ngayo. Ezo zenziwa kwinqanaba lesibini. Olu phawu luzele luthando, lukwabalulekile kwi ukukhuliswa wabantwana bethu. Umanyano oluncinci ngalo, lomeleza iqhina lothando kunye nenkathalo. Kubalulekile kuphuhliso lomntu.
- Ukwanga, njengoko ubona, yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yebhayoloji yethu. Bazalisekisa umsebenzi weemvakalelo, wengqondo obalulekileyo iintlobo zethu.
Ukuzanga nokubaluleka kwazo empilweni
Ngokuqinisekileyo ngaphezulu kwesihlandlo esinye uvile malunga nezibonelelo zokuncamisa umzimba wethu kunye nolungelelwaniso lweemvakalelo zethu. Ezi zibakala zinomdla ekufuneka sizithathele ingqalelo. Qaphela:
- Las izibini ezizinzileyo nezonwabileyo, qinisekisa ukuba enye yeemfihlo zolonwabo lwabo kukumanga ngokuchanekileyo.
- Ukwanga yindlela entle nesebenzayo yokunciphisa uxinzelelo. Akukho nto ingcono yokuphelisa ingxoxo.
- Ukwanga kuqinisekisa uthando lwethu. Zizimpawu ezilula ezithi zoyise uloyiko, amathandabuzo okanye ukungazithembi.
- Ukwanga komeleza eyethu majoni omzimba. Olu luvo lwentlalo-ntle luthomalalisa uxinzelelo, lucoca iityhefu kwaye lomeleze ukuzikhusela kwendalo.
- Isenzo sokuncamisa uthando ngomkhukula sikhukula umzimba wethu ngee-endorphins eziluncedo. Ezo hormone zovuyo ezisizisela impilo entle kunye nokulingana.
- Ukwanga kulawula okwethu ifuthe legazi. Ukubetha kwentliziyo yethu kuyakhawuleza, kodwa zilandela isingqisho esaneleyo esifana nesiya kuba naso ukuba besinokwenza uhlobo lomthambo olulula.
- Ukuzanga kutshisa iikhalori. Ukuba sikwenza okungenani isiqingatha seyure ngendlela enomdla, siya kutshisa phakathi kwe-8 kunye ne-17 yeekhalori.
- Ukuphuzana rhoqo neqabane lethu komeleza eyethu ukuzithemba. Iyasiqinisekisa kubudlelwane bethu, siziva sithandwa, sithandwa kwaye emva koko, sinika uthando komnye umntu. Isenzo esilula esilayishwe ngemilinganiselo emininzi ebaluleke kakhulu kubuntu bethu.
- Ngokwezibini ezihlala ixesha elide nezonwabileyo zisixelela, ukwanga kubalulekile kusasa nasebusuku. Xa sivuka kusasa kwaye sijonge amaqabane ethu, nini sithi ndlela-ntle yazo kwaye xa silala ebusuku.
Njengoko ubona, akukho nto inomvuzo kwaye isempilweni ngaphezu kokumanga. Ezo zibonakaliso zothando zinyanisekileyo ekufuneka sizenze ngokuzimisela ngakumbi ngeli xesha Usuku lwezithandani.