Emva kokulala nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni Ungayibiza kwakhona "umhlobo onezibonelelo" okanye "umhlobo onezibonelelo", njengoko ibizwa ngokuba yindlela esisiseko. Mhlawumbi ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni, ewe, kodwa into ecacileyo kukuba ugqithe kumda wobuhlobo ngenye into. Ukuchukumisa, uthando, ukuphulula kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo buhlala benza abantu badideke kwaye bacinge ukuba ubuhlobo obuhle kunye nomhlobo osenyongweni kunokudibanisa iimvakalelo ezisondeleyo kuthando.
Ukuba uye walala nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni kungaphezu kokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ngoku wenziwa okanye wenziwa isiphithiphithi kwaye awuyazi indlela yokwenza. Uya kuziva ungaqhelekanga okanye ungaqhelekanga kodwa uhlala uneendlela ezininzi zokuthatha ithuba: ungaqhubeka nokwenza ngokwesiqhelo okanye ube nencoko encinci naye. Kakade ke, ukuba uye wawathanda la mava, mhlawumbi eyona ndlela ilungileyo kukuzinandipha ngaphandle kokuphulukana nobo buhlobo buhle. Akukho lula, kodwa abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba ukwabelana ngesondo nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni kunokwenza izinto zibe nzima ngakumbi. Namhlanje siza kukuxelela ukuba kutheni kunye nokunye okuninzi ongafanele ukuphose.
Kwenzeka ntoni xa ulala nomhlobo wakho?
Abantu abaninzi bazibuza lo mbuzo ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke. Kuba ukuba sicinga ngayo, ngumba onzima kakhulu, yinyani. Kodwa asinakuze sithi 'andizukusela la manzi'. Kwabaninzi kusenokuthetha ukuphela kobuhlobo njengokuba kunjalo, ngenxa yokuba imida yayo igqithiwe kwaye akukho nto iphinda ifane kwakhona. Kodwa kwabanye kuthathwa njengento entsha yomanyano kubudlelwane. Nto leyo eyenza ukuba ikwazi ukomeleza. Ngenxa yoko, akukho mpendulo ingqalileyo, ekubeni iya kuxhomekeka kubantu ababini, indlela abavakalelwa ngayo nento abayifunayo.
Nangona kuyinyani ukuba xa izifundo okanye izibalo zibekwe etafileni, xa uphendula, uninzi lwabantu luya kukhetha umntu ongamaziyo ukuba alale naye ngaphezu komhlobo wabo. Oku mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba bayayazi into abazibhenca kuyo nangenxa yokuba utshintsho kulwalamano lusemnyango ukuba inyathelo elinjalo liyathatyathwa. Ngoko ke, simele siyixubushe nelinye iqela elinomdla size sicinge ngoko kufunwa ngokwenene, ngaphambi kokuba ubani enzekaliswa ngakumbi kunomnye.
Ziziphi iingxaki ezinokubangelwa kukuba nolwalamano nomhlobo?
Kwelinye icala sibhidekile yaye kwelinye sithabathekile. Ngoko ke, asikwazi ukuthetha ngeengxaki ezinjalo, nangona sinokuthetha malunga neengxaki ezithile malunga nobudlelwane, nokuba ngcono okanye akunjalo. Ukuba sifikelela kwixesha lokubhideka kungenxa yokuba kukho into etshintshileyo. Oko kukuthi, ngamanye amaxesha kukho abantu abayithatha njengomzuzu wonxibelelwano phakathi kwezi zimbini, amaxesha ngamaxesha kwaye ngaphandle kokuzinikela, kwaye oko akuyi kubangela naluphi na uhlobo lokungaqondi. Kodwa ukuba siyathandabuza, ngoko mhlawumbi iimvakalelo nazo zidlala indima ebaluleke ngokwenene enokukhokelela ekuthandeni omnye wamaqela amabini. Asimele silibale ukuba amathandabuzo awakhokeli nje kuphela kwiimvakalelo eziphathelele intabatheko kodwa akwabhidanisa nezo zobuhlobo ngokwazo.
Kananjalo asikhange siyeke ukukhankanya ukuba ukungavisisani okuthile kunokubonakala njengengxaki. Masithi ukungonwabi kuxhaphakile kwiqela naxa aba bantu bebodwa kwakhona. Oku kugungqisa iziseko zobuhlobo obuqinileyo. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuyinyanga ngaphambi kokuba iphuke ngokupheleleyo. ¡Abahlobo zibalulekile kwaye zomelele akusoloko kulula ukuzifumana!
Yintoni omele uyenze emva kokulala ngesondo nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni
Ukushiya yonke into esiyikhankanyileyo malunga nobuhlobo kunye neemvakalelo, umbuzo usetafileni. Okokuqala, siya kukuxelela into ekufuneka uhlale uyikhumbula:
- Intlonipho
- Unxibelelwano
- Uxanduva
- Novelwano.
Ngaphandle kokulibala ukuba emva kokulala nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni kubalulekile ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo, nangona ngaphambi kokuba uthe ubudlelwane, kakhulu. yicinge loo nto uvukile nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni ecaleni kwakho, emva kokwabelana ngesondo ... ngoku uyazi yonke into ngawe, kwanabona basondelene kakhulu, kwaye oku kunokothusa, akunjalo? Kodwa ungoyiki kuba ngokulandelayo ndiza kukuxelela into omawuyenze ukuze ukwazi ukumelana nale meko. Okokuqala: ungakhathazeki! Awuyi kuba ngowokuqala okanye wokugqibela le nto yenzekileyo.
- Yenza ngendlela eqhelekileyo Phambi kwabanye kunye naye, sukuphula izicwangciso ngokulala ngesondo.
- Thetha ngokwenzekileyoKuya kufuneka uyenze le ncoko kwaye ucacise iimvakalelo ezinokubakho okanye ukudideka, kodwa kufuneka uthembeke kwaye unyaniseke.
- Cinga ukuba ngokwenene yayisondo nje okanye ukuba ibiyenye into. Ngaba uyafuna ukulala naye amaxesha amaninzi ngaphandle kwesibophelelo? Wathandana? Ngaba uyayithanda kodwa ukhetha ukugcina ubuhlobo? Kufuneka uyicoce intliziyo yakho.
- Ngaba uziva ngokufanayo nawe?
Ukuba ubhideke kakhulu okanye ubhidekile zinike ixesha lokucinga okanye uvumele iimvakalelo zakho zikukhokele ukwenza le nto uyivayo ngomzuzu ngamnye.