Lo ngumbuzo abantu abaninzi abazibuza wona, kuba kufuneka bazishiye kuso nasiphi na isizathu. Ngokubanzi, ukusasazeka kuhlala kubangelwa ngumsebenzi okanye kungenxa yokuba omnye umntu kufuneka atshintshe idilesi yakhe. Kodwa namhlanje zininzi kakhulu ubudlelwane bemgama kuba abantu abaninzi badibana kwi-Intanethi kwaye abahlali kufutshane.
Ke bonke bayithathela ingqalelo ukubakho kobudlelwane obude obusebenzayo kuba baziva into ngaloo mntu. Kukho izikhokelo zokuphucula obu budlelwane, kodwa kumgaqo azikho lula, kuba umgama wenza unxibelelwano lube nzima kakhulu.
Iingxaki kunye nokungahambi kakuhle kobudlelwane obude
Nangona ukuthandana kuyinto esenza ukuba sikholelwe ukuba singenza yonke into, ngamanye amaxesha oku akunjalo. Zininzi iingxaki ezinxulumene nolwalamano olukude. Enye yazo kukungabikho konxibelelwano nomnye umntu. Nokuba sithandana kangakanani na, kubalulekile ukuba ubambe kwaye uzive omnye umntu ukuze kwenzeke ngakumbi ukunamathela ngokweemvakalelo. Ngaphandle koko umgama uya kupholisa ubudlelwane ngenxa yokungabikho koqhagamshelwano lomzimba.
Enye ingxaki enkulu evelayo kukuba kobu budlelwane akukho sini kwaye isini yinxalenye ebaluleke kakhulu kwisibini. Ukuba oku akusebenzi, ubudlelwane bunokungasebenzi ekuhambeni kwexesha. Oku kuyakhathaza nangakumbi ukuba ubudlelwane bukude kwaye bobabini ababoni.
Los umona kolu hlobo lobudlelwane uqhelekileEwe, asinaye omnye umntu osondeleyo ukuze sazi akwenzayo okanye sazi ukuba usaziva ngokufanayo na. Oku kusizalisa ngokungaqiniseki kunye nokuthandabuza, okuhlala kuguqulela kumona ukuba omnye umntu uyaziqhela okanye uyazi abanye abantu.
Kwezi ubudlelwane kukho ingxaki yokungabikho kokuzibophelela. Abantu abaninzi bakonwabela ukuba kubudlelwane obukude kwaye babone umntu kube kanye ngexeshana kuba abafuni kulalanisa.
Indlela yokuphucula ubudlelwane obude
Kubudlelwane obude obude kuyimfuneko nxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni amaxesha ngamaxesha. Oku kusinceda ukuba simve omnye umntu kwaye siqaphele ukuba ngaba basaziva ngokufanayo. Ukongeza, kubudlelwane obuqaliswe kwi-intanethi apho abantu bengazani, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonana ngobuqu. Kufuneka uhlale uyazi ukuba sinomtsalane ovela ngokwendalo phakathi kwezi zimbini. Singamthanda umntu kodwa nokuba sivakalelwa kukuba umtsalane kuye wahlukile. Yiyo loo nto kufuneka nidibane amaxesha ngamaxesha kwaye nenze umzamo wokuba nikwazi ukubonana.
La Unxibelelwano lubaluleke kakhulu kolu hlobo lobudlelwane. Asinakubonana yonke imihla kwaye kunzima ngokwenene ukwazi ngomnye umntu. Ukuba lo mgama ngowethutyana, kulula ukuwuthwala, kodwa ukuba awukho, ekugqibeleni singayeka ukunxibelelana nomnye umntu. Ukuba sihlala sinxibelelana kwaye sixelelana izinto zethu ezibaluleke kakhulu, siya kwazi ukuba singamthemba loo mntu kwaye usikhathalele. Kubalulekile ukunxibelelana kwaye ubonise umdla kuloo mntu ukuze ugcine unxibelelwano.
La ukuthembana makube yintsika kolu hlobo lobudlelwane. Ukuba kude, ubudlelwane bunokudala ukuthandabuza, kuba asazi ukuba wenzani omnye umntu. Yiyo loo nto kufuneka sithembele kwaye omnye umntu asithembe okanye ithunzi lomona linokonakalisa yonke into, nokuba azikho izizathu zokuba nomona.
Ke ukuba uku ubudlelwane obukude kwaye ufuna ukuba busebenze, gcina ezi zinto engqondweni. Ucinga ntoni ngolu hlobo lobudlelwane?