Kuthiwa ngubani onetshomi, unobuncwane. Kodwa oku akusoloko kunjalo, kuba abanye ubuhlobo buyajika baba ngokuchaseneyo kwaye baqale ukudala iimvakalelo ezimbi kunye neengxaki ezingafanelekanga ukuba zibonakale ukuba bubuhle obuhle. Sibhekisa kwigama osele ulinike igama njengo 'ubuhlobo obunetyhefu'.
Ubuhlobo obunetyhefu bunako ibonakaliswe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo Kwaye nokuba sikwazi ukuba yityhefu kule ngqondo kwabanye abantu. Ukuziqonda kunye nokuqonda iimeko apho senzakalisa abanye abantu ngokuziphatha kwethu kuyinto eyimfuneko kakhulu ukuze sikwazi ukonwabela ubuhlobo obulungileyo, into eyimfuneko ngokwenene kulonwabo lwethu.
Iingxaki zakho zihlala zibaluleke kakhulu
Kobu buhlobo Ngokwenene akukho kubuyisana. Aba bantu bazingcayo kwaye ke bahlala bethetha malunga neengxaki zabo iiyure, besoyikisa wonke umntu kwaye belinganisa yonke into, kodwa xa kufikwa ekuphulaphuleni nasekuncedeni abanye abamameli kwaye batshintshe umxholo ngokukhawuleza. Baza kusebenzisa amabinzana aqhelekileyo ukusika isihloko esithi 'dlula kuwo' okanye 'kuya kugqitywa' okanye 'chwayita' kwaye baya kudlulela kwisihloko esilandelayo, esihlala sinento yokwenza nabo. Kobu buhlobo asiziva sineembuyekezo, kuphela ngabo baphambili kwaye basisebenzisa ukuxelela iingxaki zabo kunye nokukhathazeka.
Azikho xa kufuneka njalo
Ukuba siyazidinga nokuba ziyintoni na, nokuba zisise kwenye indawo kuba asinayo imoto okanye ukusixhasa kuba sishiye iqabane lethu, baya kuhlala benento engcono yokwenza. Buhlobo obuthathaka, obusekwe kuphela kumaxesha amnandi kunye nokufumana okuthile kuthi. Yiyo loo nto xa kufuneka babenakho ukubaleka okanye bangaphenduli, kuba ayisiyonto ibanceda ngandlela zonke.
Abonwabanga ngempumelelo yakho
La umona nokuzingca ayinandawo kubahlobo abalungileyo. Ukuba umhlobo wenza kakuhle, siyavuya sonke. Abahlobo abanetyhefu abonwabanga kuba ayingobabo kwaye bahlala befuna ukuba zezona zilungileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kukho izihlobo eziza kwabanye abantu ngenjongo yokuphakamisa ukuzithemba kwabo, ngenxa yoko abathandi ukubona aba bantu bephucuka, kuba kubenza bazive bengaphumeleli kwaye bengazithembanga. Ke ngoko iinjongo zabo zobuhlobo zizinto zokuzingca kwaye azinyanisekanga.
Awunakubathemba
Ixesha elingaphezulu uyekile ukumxelela izinto aba bantu kuba bengenakuthenjwa. Nokuba baxelele iimfihlo zakho kubantu besithathu okanye baye bakugxeka phambi kwabanye abantu ngezinto obaxelele zona kwaye zibalulekile kuwe. Ukuba awunakubathemba abahlobo bakho ke abanabungane.
Bathetha nawe kuphela xa bafuna into
Le yinxalenye yobuhlobo obuhamba umdla omsulwa kunye nokuzingca. Bathetha nawe kuphela xa befuna into kuwe, nokuba inomdla okanye inkxaso yengqondo. Ukuba umntu uvela kuphela xa eziva engaphilanga kwaye efuna ukukuxelela ngeengxaki zakhe okanye xa efuna wena ngenxa yokuba engenaye nabani na umntu angazonwabisa naye, kungcono ubaleke, kuba ayisoze ibabuhlobo bokwenene kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha uzakube uchitha ixesha kunye nomzamo.
Abakwamkeli njengokuba unjalo kwaye abakuxhasi
Obu buhlobo bunokufikelela ndifuna ukutshintsha izinto ngawe okanye ukugxeka kabukhali ngehambo yakho. Siyazi ukuba abahlobo abalungileyo bathetha izinto ebusweni bakho, kodwa aba ngabantu abangazidibanisi nawe kwaye kukho izinto ngawe abangazithandiyo yiyo loo nto bezama ukukutshintsha.
Benza uzive ngathi awunamandla kangako
Obu buhlobo bathoba isidima sakho, zibaluleke kakhulu kwaye kwizihlandlo ezininzi zifuna ukuqaqamba ngeendleko zakho. Xa ukunye naba bantu awunakuba nguwe kwaye awuziva ukuba ungoyena uguquguqukayo, uzithembile, womelele kwaye wonwabile. Ukuba uhlala uziva mbi kakhulu xa ujikeleza aba bantu, lixesha lokuba utshintshe ikhosi yakho ubayeke bahambe.