Kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo, xa abafazi babetshata, batshintsha ngokuzenzekelayo ifani yabo ukusuka kwintombazana bayisa eyomyeni wakhe, bebeka isimaphambili "de" embindini. Kwamanye amazwe, iqhagamshela lisetyenziswa phakathi kwegama lobuntombi kunye nelo lendoda esayinika "ewe".
Okwangoku, le meko ibonakala injalo yomhla kwaye ibuyela umva ngokukhawuleza. Yonke imihla uninzi lwabasetyhini luthatha isigqibo sokugcina igama labo lobuntombi emva komtshato, ngaphandle kokucinga ngokongeza elomyeni wabo.
Ndatshata kwiminyaka emi-3 eyadlulayo kwaye ayikhange iwele engqondweni yam ukutshintsha ifani yam okanye ukongeza eyomyeni wam. Ndicinga ukuba, kule mihla kwaye ngokuhamba kwamaxesha, ukutshintsha ifani ngento yokutshata ucinga ilahleko epheleleyo yesazisi somfazi kunye nesimaphambili «de» kuvakala kuyinto engaqhelekanga kum kwaye ndiziva ngathi, phambi komthetho kunye abanye, andinguye "nabani" nabani na ... ukuba ngokweemvakalelo zam noxanduva lwam. Ke ngoko, andifuni ukutshintsha igama lam lokugqibela.
Ngoku kukuwe mpikiswano… ucinga ukuba abafazi abatshatayo kufuneka batshintshe okanye bongeze ifani yamadoda abo?
Ndicinga ukuba ixhomekeka kakhulu kuhlobo lobudlelwane onalo nomyeni wakho. Xa umntu etshata kufanele kube yeyobomi bonke, ubuncinci xa nditshatile, leyo yayiyingcinga yam; Kwaye ndineminyaka engama-20 nditshatile kwaye ndiyavuya, ukuze ndiphile konke okuseleyo kobomi bam nendoda endiyikhethileyo. Kwaye kwimeko yam ndiyazingca "ndisuka" Candelario. Ngoku ukuba utshata ungakhange uqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukunye nendoda eza kukukhapha yonke imihla yakho, uyakuthandabuza ukuba uyayisebenzisa le "from". Kwaye uya kuwubona lo mbuzo njengokulahleka kwesazisi, isazisi nguwe hayi ifani, xa umthanda ngokwenyani, uya kuyibona njengenxalenye yokunikezelwa kwendoda ekufaneleyo.
Madam ndixelele ngoku uba umyeni wakho ebethembekile emzimbeni nasengqondweni
Kwaye kutheni umyeni wakho engakhange alifumane igama lakho lokugqibela uNksk Brenditta okanye kungenxa yokuba akukho nikezelo lukhulu kuye ??? Ukuhanjiswa kuphela kwinxalenye yakho maan?
Ndinegama elingalunganga, la magqabantshintshi ngawaseZuleyma… ..ka….
Ndineminyaka eli-19 ubudala kwaye ndiphupha ukudibana nendoda yobomi bam. Indoda yokwenene, njengangaphambili. Mhla ndifumana indoda (okwangoku ihlala emaphupheni, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba izakuvela kuba ndinokholo lokuba ayingabo bonke abantu abanyamalalayo) njengoko benditshilo, ngala mini ndiceba ukuzinika umzimba nomphefumlo kwaye Ndizimisele ukusebenzisa igama lakhe lokugqibela. Andiqondi ukuba ndizakuphulukana nobuntu bam, endaweni yoko, ndizakuziva ndiyinxalenye yosapho olutsha endilukhethileyo kwaye ndiza kuqhubeka ndikhula.
Lowo uyavuma ukuphatha igama lokugqibela lomyeni wakhe ngumfazi ngaphandle komnqweno wokoyisa umfazi ayiyonto kabani, mhlawumbi sizizilwanyana ezincinane esinokuzithatha kulomfo NDIYAMTHANDA umyeni wam kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ndingowakhe emzimbeni Umntu onjengaye wayendithanda kwaye endixabisile, kwaye yayiyi-husava ngala maxesha xa abafazi babehlaziswa, ngoku ngamanye amaxesha :)
Brenditta uvakala ngathi uyintombazana enomsindo kum. Akukho sidingo sokucaphukisa nabani na ukuba avakalise ipinion yakhe.
Mhlobo othandekayo, andikholelwa ukuba isazisi sakho silele kwifani. Imbi into oyikholelwayo. Ndiyiminyaka eyi-25 kwaye ndanditshatile iminyaka eyi-2 edlulileyo. Ndinxibe ngebhongo ifani yomyeni wam. Kwaye andiziva kwaphela, ndithotyiwe.
Kuya kubakho umzuzu apho uzibuza khona :)
Nditshatile kwaye ndonwabile ukusebenzisa igama lokugqibela lomyeni wam, njengoko uZuleyma ecinga, yinxalenye yokuzinikezela komntu kwindoda ayithandayo kwaye ndikholelwa ekubeni kufanele ukuba njalo.
jajajjajaj ukuba kuphela ngumfazi nendoda enikezela noppp?
Molo ndithanda uluvo lwakho !!! Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ngexesha lokuthatha igama elitshatileyo awulahli isazisi sakho, ngokuchaseneyo, oko kubonisa ukuba ngoku uyinxalenye yosapho olunye !!! yintoni engafaniyo nokuphatha igama lam elitshatileyo? Igama lam ndinguSybila Gonzales Ushiñahua kwaye igama lokugqibela lomyeni wam nguVélez …… Ndingaluvuyela kakhulu uncedo lwakho xk ndingavuya kakhulu ukuba negama lokugqibela lomyeni wam… enkosi 🙂
Ewe, kodwa akukho namnye kumyeni wakho otshintshe amagama abo okugqibela okanye uthwala i "DE" ... Ngaba kungacaciswa kumagqabaza akho ukuba amadoda akho azimisele ukuhlala nawe ubomi babo bonke? Okanye baphulukana nesazisi sabo ukuba batshintsha ifani? okanye ngaba akunakwenzeka ukuba bazinikezele ngokupheleleyo? ...
Kudala ndingenaxesha lokungena, kodwa namhlanje ndibona uluvo olungavumelaniyo, unokuba uchanekile, kodwa kwimeko yam, umyeni wam ngekhe abenangxaki yokusebenzisa igama lam lokugqibela kuba ukuhanjiswa kwakhe kuphelele njengam, kodwa kuphela inokuyenza ukuba umthetho uyayinyanzela, kodwa ekubeni kungenje, asinakho ukwenza ngathi amadoda azenza isidenge ngokuthetha ifani engahambelani ngokusemthethweni nayo. Ukubulisa
azuuu uqiniseke njani noba kungathi kuyaxoka kusekho abafazi abafana nawe kulihlazo
Ngokunxulumene nengcaciso ka "Andivumi". Umbuzo ujikeleze kuthi, abayeni bethu ababuzwa, eVenezuela kuqikelelwa ngokusemthethweni ukuba ngumfazi ophethe ifani, hayi indoda. Ngokutshata sobabini samkela into ethethwa yile meko yethu intsha: sitshatile; Ukuba esinye sezibophelelo ebezithathiwe ngumyeni wam kukuphatha igama lam lokugqibela, ndiyakuqinisekisa ukuba ebezakusebenzisa, njengoko ethathe zonke ezinye izibophelelo.
Ndicinga ukuba uluvo lukaBeatriz de carolo luchanekile, sinezimvo ezifanayo. Wonwabile u-2010!
NDICINGA UKUBA UKUBA UMNTU UFUNA UKONGA IGAMA LOKUGQIBELA LENDODA LISEKULUNGWENI KWABO, KWAKWANYE NGOKUFANELEKILEYO UKUNGAYENZI, NGAPHEZU KOKWENZIWA KWENKQUBO YONKE, NGOKUMISELWA KWABASetyhini ABANINZI, KODWA KULUNGILE KODWA ASIKHO MBOPHELELO, NDIYAMBEKA OMNYE UMYENI WAM, KODWA XA NDICASUKILE NAYE, NGENXA YOKUBA BAYEKE BANDILALE, AMADODA AKAYONA INGCALI KWISWETHE KODWA UKUTYIKITYA AMAXWEBHU NGOKUSEMTHETHWENI UKUBA UBONA ISITAYIBA ESIKHULU, UKUBA NDICACISA, IGAMA LOKUGQIBELA LABANTWANA LIHAMBA PHAMBI, NGOKUBA NDIZIQHESHE NGEGAMA LOKUGQIBELA LABAZALI BAM, NGAKHO INTO ENDIYA KUYISUSA. NDIBULISA NONKE.
Andivumelani kwaphela nokusebenzisa ifani yomyeni. Olu luhlobo lokungeniswa komfazi endodeni, kuba akukho mntu ungowamntu; Sihlangene ukuze sabelane ngobomi obunye. Ikwangukungabi nambulelo kumagama ethu okugqibela, nto leyo esisiseko esiyiyo. Ukusebenzisa igama lokugqibela lomyeni akusenzi ukuba sibengcono okanye siphakamise, ewe, kuya kuba neentloni ngegama lethu lokugqibela. Ndinonyaka nditshatile kwaye akuzange kwenzeke kum ukuba ndithathe ifani yakhe. Ndisebenzisa ifani yabazali bam
UMBUZO, PHAMBI KOMTHETHO, NGABE KUYIMBOPHELEKO, NOKUBA KUNYE "KA" OKANYE NESIBHALI "-" ???
hahaha Intetho engavumelaniyo iyandihlekisa ngoba ndiyiphakamisile indoda yam soooooooooooooooolo njengesiqhulo wandixelela ngoluhlobo: Ngubani othe ndatshata uTata wakho ??? hahaha ndikutshatile !! kwaye inyani kukuba ndizithanda zonke iikhomenti kakhulu!
Kuyothusa kum into yokuba abantu basetyhini, iminyaka emininzi kangaka, bangenise kumandla endoda, besebenzisa igama lokugqibela lomyeni xa betshata.
Andiyiboni le njengesenzo sothando. Inokuba njalo ukuba bobabini bafakele ifani yeqabane labo. Kodwa akunjalo.
Eyona nto ibuhlungu kum kukuba ndibone abantu basetyhini abakhusela esi sikhundla, ekuthi kuwo babathobele abafazi kwizinto ezinabayeni babo.
Kwangokunjalo, kubonakala kum ukuba abantwana banokuba neefani zombini, ingengoyise kuphela, abanokhetho lokukhetha u-U_U womama
kwaye sithanda uluvo "andivumelani"
Ndiyithandile intetho yakho
Ngokwenyani, kufanele ukuba kuqondwe ukuba ifani ayitshintshi ubuntu bakho, isigqibo sokuyisebenzisa okanye akufuneki sibe nefuthe kwinto ekwenza uzive ukhululekile, wonwabile, ukuba kunjalo, akufuneki sibonise ubunzima kwabo bathatha isigqibo ngokwahlukileyo, isigqibo yinto esondeleyo kumfazi ngamnye Kuya kufuneka ukuba saneliseke kukukwenza ngaphandle kokuxuba isini kunye nabafazi okanye ukugweba ukuba uzalisekisiwe ngenxa yokuba uyenza okanye awukwenzi oko kusisigqibo somnqweno wethu kunye nokuphelela kunye nokuhlonipha izimvo zombini isiphelo simalunga nokuba sonwabile zizenzo zethu kunye nezigqibo zethu, imibuliso….
UBrenditta. Ukuba nefani yomyeni ayisiyimbophelelo, lukhetho njengoko umyeni wam wandixelelayo xa sitshata kwaye ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndamkele ifani yakhe. Khange ndilahle isazisi sam. Ngokuchasene noko. Ndifumene imbeko kuye, nakwicala leentsapho zethu. Kwaye andiziva ngathi ndingumfazi ngaphandle komnqweno wokuphucula. Ndicinga ukuba kunokuba kukubethe ngazo zonke iimpazamo zopelo. Okanye kukuba ebengenaxesha lokuya esikolweni? NdineNkosi kwiilwimi zangaphandle. Ndikwathetha iilwimi ezi-5 kwaye ndisaphethe ifani yomyeni wam ngokuzingca.