"Imibala engama-50 engwevu" kunye neenoveli ezilandelayo ezilandelayo, azinyukanga njengempumelelo yoncwadi yomzuzu, kodwa kunye nenguquko yabasetyhini abaninzi. Yile ncwadi siyigcina kwitafile esecaleni kwebhedi kwaye amaphepha ayo abonisa uninzi lweembono zethu. Uninzi lweminqweno yethu evuselela inkanuko yokuba umbhali wayo, u-EL James, kunye neekopi zakhe ezingaphezu kwezigidi ezingama-40 ezithengiswe kwihlabathi liphela, ukwazile ukuvusa abalinganiswa bakhe basizisela imiboniso kude kube ngoko kuthathelwa ingqalelo.
Le trilogy ethandabuzekayo abanye abanokuthi bayithathe njengemveliso ekhethekileyo yorhwebo, inolwimi olusemva kwayo oluza kufunyanwa luluntu ngokubanzi ekufanele ukuba luqwalaselwe. Ayisiyo kuphela intshayelelo elungileyo nethembekileyo kwihlabathi le sadomasochism, ikwayindlela yokufumana amava amatsha, iindlela ezintsha zokonwabela isini. Ulwimi olufuna isivumelwano sokuvumelana phakathi kwabantu ababini, ekufanele ukuba usazi kubudlelwane bethu. Ke, kwaye ukusuka kwindawo yethu, sifuna ukukunika izikhokelo ezilula zokwenza ukuba iingcinga ezicetyiswayo kwi "50 Shades of Grey" zizaliseke, indlela yokwaphula i-monotony kunye nokonwabela umntu omthandayo.
Iindlela zokonwabela isini sakho ngokwe "50 Shades of Grey"
Asingombuzo nje "wokufumana kwethu uthixokazi ongaphakathi kwaye uyikholelwe ». Ngokukodwa malunga nokonwaba ngendlela evumayo kunye nalowo sidlala naye. Ndikunye neqabane lethu. Kufanelekile ukwahlula-hlula ubhalo oluyinyani kwinyani kancinane kwaye uzenze ngokuzithemba, uvumelana neqabane lakho ngeengcinga onqwenela ukuzenza. Kukutshintshiselana, sisivumelwano phakathi kwenu nobabini apho kufuneka sibeke bucala izakhiwo okanye iingxaki ecaleni. Phonononga, dlala, uzive ukhululekile ngomzimba wakho kunye nawe, ngokubona iqabane lakho linjalo ngokuba uyamthanda kwaye unomdla kakhulu kuwe.
1. Yithi hayi ukuba nomkhethe okanye ukuhlazeka
Ubudlelwane bakho bezesondo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku bunokuba nomda kwaye bunqongophele kumnandi. Kuthekani ukuba sibeka ecaleni ihlazo okanye izinto esizenzayo? Inyathelo lokuqala ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo iya kuba kukuthetha neqabane lakho kwaye ucebise ngale nto uyifunayo. Amagama Ziyimfuneko kuba akukho mntu "ungumlingo" oqikelela ukuba sifuna ntoni okanye sifuna ntoni. Thetha, ucacise, ucebise, kwaye ungaze uthi hayi kwinto ongayaziyo okanye ocinga ukuba ingakunika iintloni okanye ingxaki. Ngamanye amaxesha yinto nje yokwazi indlela yokufumana imida yethu ukuze sizazi ngakumbi.
Imihla ngemihla, kwaye ngaphandle kweetaboos, sinokufumana izinto ezintsha. Izikhundla, iithoyi, iimeko ezintsha ... musa ukuzikhanyela. Naluphi na utshintsho oluncinci lunokuba ngumothuko wokwenene.
2. Iziganeko ezintsha
Ukwabelana ngesondo akuphelelanga ebhedini nasebusuku. Nokuba kungaphantsi kokucinywa kwesibane. Kuhlawulela ukuba semngciphekweni kunye nezixhobo. Nayiphi na imeko intsha kwaye inika umdla. Umhla ongalindelekanga elunxwemeni, kwindawo yokutyela ... ayinamsebenzi. Ukwabelana ngesondo kufuneka kuye ngaphaya kwebhedi kwaye kuvuke ngomzuzu olindelekileyo. I-Foreplay, ukukhohlisa yonke imihla kuhlala kubaluleke kakhulu. Itekhnoloji entsha iluncedo kakhulu ukuba sinemfihlo. Ke musa ukuthandabuza ukuthumela kuye imiyalezo, amabinzana avule ifayile ye- umnqweno wangaphambili.
3. Dlala ukudlala
Awungekhe wazi ukuba yeyiphi indima ongathanda ukuyithatha. Kwaye kulapho eyona nto ivula khona umdlalo wokuzazi, ukuhlola kunye nokuzonwabisa. Iithoyi ezahlukeneyo kunye nokunxiba kufanelekile ukuzama. Sukuyityeshela iimaski, ii-handcuffs kunye neesabhokhwe ukuba oku kukuthanda kwakho; yinto nje yovavanyo. Ukudlala kunye nokufuna uyolo olutsha kwimizimba yethu. Beka ecaleni iintloni kwaye ulinge nje. Yaphula izithintelo kwaye utshintshe iindima, namhlanje unokubalasela kwaye ngomso ungazenzi njengo-Anastasia Steele.
4. Iimpahla zokudlala kunye nezixhobo
Zizinto zehlabathi liphela zokufumanisa ukuba ziya kuthabatha umdla wakho ngokukhawuleza. Imalunga nesitayile sefashoni kunye nezixhobo ezinxulunyaniswa nehlabathi le-sadomasochism esiyibonayo kwi "50 Shades of Grey." Iingubo zeVinyl, iimpahla zangaphantsi ezicebisayo, izikhumba, i-latex, ii-corsets ezinomtsalane kunye nezinto ezahlukeneyo ekufuneka uzikhethile phakathi kwezi zimbini, okanye ukothuka. Unazo izinto zokudlala ezingapheliyo zokuzama, kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo ziya kubonelela ngeemeko ezintsha nezikhuthazayo kwintlanganiso yakho.
Ukuqukumbela, kufanelekile ukukhumbula okokuqala ukuba eyona nto ivuselelayo kwisini ngokuchanekileyo yingqondo kunye nengcinga yethu. Kufuneka kuthiwe indawo enkulu ye-EL James trilogy ihlala kwi-eroticism yayo, kwaye hayi kakhulu kwixesha layo "lesini esibi." Abasetyhini abaninzi banomdla kule profayile ye Ngwevu yamaKristu, indoda ehlala idlala kwaye ilungisa umhlaba. Ukulukuhla ukusuka ekuseni ukuya ngongcwalazi, ukufumana loo maxesha ezesondo kwakude kudala ngaphambi kokudibana. Ke, akufuneki silibale ukubaluleka kwemibono neminqweno. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, ukwaphulwa kweetaboos kunye neentloni.
Zama ngomlingane wakho ubuso ngobuso, ukhumbule ukuba isini sinokuqala kwangoko emini ngokuchaphazela, ukujonga, okanye igama. I-Foreplay ibaluleke kakhulu kulo naluphi na ulwalamano. KUNYE phucula, kuhlala kungumbono olungileyo ukunika amandla ngakumbi kubudlelwane bakho. Ukuqina ngakumbi kunye nolonwabo kubomi bakho bokwenyani, apho kungenjalo, iincwadi ezinje nge "50 Shades of Grey" zihlala zikhuthaza ukuba uxelise.
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ngakumbi malunga nencwadi entsha ye-50 Shades yeGrey, ungaphoswa zizo zonke iinkcukacha.