La uvelwano lolunye lweempawu ezilungileyo zobukrelekrele bemvakalelo, esinceda ukuba sizibeke endaweni yomnye kunye nokuseka ubudlelwane obunempilo nobokuphindaphinda. Ngamanye amaxesha sinokuqonda ukuba kukho ubudlelwane obungasebenzi ngenxa yokuba asazi ukuba sinxibelelana njani nabanye abantu abasingqongileyo. Yiyo loo nto kukho iindlela zokuphucula uvelwano lomntu.
Nge uvelwano kunokwenzeka ukudala ubuhlobo kunye nabanye abantu kwaye uqhagamshele kunye nabo, ukongeza ekubancedeni bazive bebhetele kakhulu. Ukuphucula uvelwano kunokusinceda ukuba sibe nolwazi olubanzi lweemvakalelo, olulungele ubudlelwane bethu kunye neemeko zethu.
Izibonelelo zokuba novelwano ngakumbi
Uvelwano lusisondeza kwabanye kwaye lusebenza ukulawula ukuphucula ubudlelwane zonke iintlobo. Umntu onovelwano ngakumbi uwa ngcono kwabanye kuba eyazi indlela yokunxibelelana nabo kwaye eyiqonde. Sizizilwanyana zasentlalweni kwaye ukufunda ukuhlala eluntwini kubalulekile. Abantu abaxhonyiweyo bayathandwa kwaye bathambekele ekubeni nobomi ekuhlaleni. Ukongeza, uvelwano lusebenza ekuphuculeni izakhono zobunkokeli, kuba luyasinceda ukunxibelelana nokwazi ukwenza ezona zigqibo zibalulekileyo kuye wonke umntu. Ngokubanzi, ubudlelwane boluntu lwabantu ngovelwano lungcono kakhulu, kuba bayayazi indlela yokunxibelelana nabanye kwaye babaqonde.
Qala ngokuphulaphula ngenyameko
Ukumamela abanye ngendlela esebenzayo kubalulekile, kuba yindlela yokuzama ukuqonda abanye. Into abasixelela yona ibalulekile kubo. Abantu abangenalo uvelwano oluninzi basebenzisa nje oko abanye babaxelela ukuba bathethe ngako kwakhona. Lo ngumboniso wokuzingca kunye nokusilela okukhulu kovelwano. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka qala ukumamela abantu, bebuza malunga neengxaki zabo kwaye bezama ukuvelisa ingxelo, oko kukuthi, impendulo ukuze bakwazi ukubonakalisa ngcono iimvakalelo zabo.
Zama ukubona ngaphaya kwamagama
Thina bantu sikulungele bamba ulwimi olungasebenzisi ntetho nayo yonke into esixelela ngento eyenzekayo macala onke kuthi. Ukuba ufuna ukuphucula uvelwano lwakho, ungazama ukuthathela ingqalelo ulwimi lomntu ongathethiyo okwethutyana, hayi oko bakuthethayo kuphela. Ezi ntlobo zezimbo zomzimba ngamanye amaxesha zisibonisa okungaphezulu kunokuba sicinga, kodwa sikushiye ngasemva, ukuze kuthi kuphela ukuqonda kwethu kulwazi olungathethiyo.
Inkxaso, musa ukugweba
Umntu unendlela yokucinga engasoloko ifana naleyo yabanye abantu. Ingxaki kukuba ngamanye amaxesha sifuna wonke umntu ukuba acinge kwaye azive ngathi, into ekude kakhulu kuvelwano. Olu luvo ludlula Qonda enye nokuba asixeleli umbono wabo wehlabathi. Ukuze umntu aqonde ukuba sizama ukuqonda ubomi bakhe kunye neemvakalelo zakhe kufuneka siyixhase into ayithethayo okanye sibe nomdla kuyo, nokuba asiyibeli. Singabuza imibuzo okanye simnike uluvo lwethu, kodwa singaze simgwebe, kuba ukuba siyagweba asizukuyiqonda indlela avakalelwa ngayo, kodwa sidlula kwindawo yethu yokujonga izinto asicacisela zona.
Zama ukuqonda abanye yonke imihla
Ungalusebenzisa uvelwano lwakho ngokujonga abanye kwaye uzama ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ebakhuthazayo nokuba baziva njani, nokuba awubazi. Ukuba uyakwazi ukuyiqonda into oyibonayo kwindawo yokutyela okanye esitalatweni, mhlawumbi unovelwano, kuba uyakwazi ukufunda ulwimi oluvakalayo kuzo zonke iinkalo, nokuba umntu akakuxeleli indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngqo.