Kunokwenzeka ukuba, ukufa komntu omthandayo olona vavanyo lunzima sonke ekufuneka siloyisile ebomini. Utata wethu, umama wethu, iqabane lethu, umhlobo osenyongweni… Ngawo nawuphi na umzuzu, ngelishwa, kungenzeka kwaye kulapho siva ukuba loo mntu uthathiwe kuthi. Zininzi iimvakalelo neemvakalelo esinokuziva, zombini kumzuzu omnye nokwenzekayo kunye neentsuku, iiveki kunye neenyanga kamva, oko ke kudala iluphu yoxinzelelo kunye nentliziyo ebuhlungu.
Iimvakalelo zisenokusuka kolona lusizi lunzulu kuye kolona lushushu umsindo,… Kukungaqondi, ukucinga ukuba ngekunjani ngokwahlukileyo, ukulila xa ukukhumbula, ukwala kunye nokungamkeli ilahleko.
Ukuba ngelishwa ngoku uphulukene nomntu omthandayo kwaye awukwazi ukuphuma "kumngxuma" apho uzibona uzinze khona, qhubeka ufunda eli nqaku kwaye mhlawumbi uqala "ukuqonda" okanye ubuncinci, yamkela yonke into oziva ngayo ngoku.
Izigaba zentlungu
Ukuphika nokungamkeli isigaba
Sisigaba sokuqala esihlala sidlula kuso xa siphulukene nomntu esimthandayo. Asikholwa, asicingi ukuba le nto iyenzeka kuthi, siziva ngathi singene ngaphakathi 'wothuka' kwaye ngamanye amaxesha enobuso obuqhelekileyo ngaphandle kokubonisa uphawu olunye losizi kuba khange siyithathele ingqalelo ilahleko okwangoku. Eli nqanaba lihlala liphela kwaye elilandelayo liqala ngokuhamba kweentsuku nangokwamkelwa kokuba sikhe sonyamezele oko kulahleka. Kulapho i ira, la ukungabi namandla, la rabiye...
Isigaba somnqweno
Kweli nqanaba i lusizi ngokusoloko ndilahleka loo mntu ... Yonke into izokukhumbuza ngaye, ukusuka kwisitulo awayehleli kuso ukuya kumanqaku ahleli esekhaya kunye nombhalo wakhe wesandla ... Uya kungena egumbini lakhe ukhangele into yakhe, mhlawumbi into ethi ikunika ithemba lokuhlala unxiba ukugcina inkumbulo yakhe nawe kuphela, kodwa ubukho bakhe, ... Mhlawumbi into esathwele ivumba lakhe, iringi ayithandayo, okanye enye yeetshefu zakhe ...
Oko ukulangazelela ukuba uziva ukuba kwesi sigaba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngokupheleleyo kwaye ayifuni sigqibo. Akukho nasinye isigaba oziva ukuba kufuneka sephulwe ngenkani. Eyona nto isempilweni kukuhamba nganye nganye, ewe, ngaphandle kokumisa ixesha elide kuba inokuba yingozi kwimpilo yethu yeemvakalelo.
Isiphithiphithi kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba
Kweli nqanaba kunokwenzeka ukuba sibe neempawu ezifanayo kakhulu ne Inkqubo yoxinzelelo: ukungakhathali, ukungakhathali, ukungafuni ukushiya ikhaya kwaye ndingafuni ukudibana nabani, kulala kunye nokulahleka kwentsingiselo yobomi. Konke oku kuhamba kunye neenkumbulo ezinxulumene nomntu ongasekhoyo. Esona sigaba sinzima ukusoyisa kunye nokuhlala ixesha elide.
Inqanaba lokuhlengahlengisa
Nangona inkumbulo yomntu isekhona, nokuba ihlala ihleli kwaye rhoqo, iintlungu zelahleko ziyancipha. Kunokuthiwa ukuhamba kwexesha kwenza umsebenzi wendalo wokuvumela iimvakalelo zihlale. Kule nqanaba sinokufumana uvuyo kunye nosizi xa kuziwa kwimemori ethile esinayo ngaye okanye sabelana nomnye umntu. Apho ngaphambili bekukho iinyembezi, ngoku kukho uncumo olunothando ... Umntu oye wehlelwa yilahleko uqala ngokuqalisa ubomi bakhe kwakhona ithemba elithilenangona umntu oswelekileyo esengqondweni yakho imihla ngemihla.
Izinto zokukunceda uqhubeke
Nangona eyona nto iphambili eyenza ukuba woyise usizi lixesha, unokwenza ezinye izinto ukumelana nelahleko ngendlela esempilweni:
- Thetha nabahlobo kunye nosapho Malunga nomntu ongasekhoyo, malunga neemvakalelo zakho neemvakalelo zakho, njl.
- Yamkela iimvakalelo ukuba uhlala ngamaxesha onke, nokuba alungile, mabi okanye ayaphikisana.
- Yiba nendlela yokuphila esempilweni yonke imihla: lala kakuhle, dlala imidlalo, yitya kakuhle, yabelana ngamaxesha kunye nabantu obathandayo ... Konke oku kuyakubuyisela ubomi bakho kwimeko yozinzo.
- Yenza into kwimemori yakhe: Njengokuba lowo umthandayo uya kuhlala ekumemori yakho, ungamenzela into. Mhlawumbi unokwenza umnikelo ukuze ufumane inzuzo kwi-NGO ayilandelayo, tyala igadi encinci ngegama lakhe, bhala incwadi okanye incwadana yokubhalela owabelana kuphela nabo basondeleyo kuwe, njl.
Vumela ixesha lisebenze kwaye uzame ukuqhubeka nobomi bakho obuqhelekileyo kancinci kancinci. Nangona iintlungu zisenokunganyamezeleki kwasekuqaleni, kodwa ziya kuphela ekunciphiseni iinyanga nangoncedo nenkxaso yabantu abakuthandayo. Vumela ukuba uthandwe!