Ngubani ngaphezulu kwaye ngubani ongaphantsi oye waba ne iphupha elivuselela inkanuko nokuba kanye ebomini bakhe. Masifumanise kunye ukuba kutheni la maphupha esenzeka kwaye zeziphi iintsingiselo anazo.
"Ndihlala ndiphupha ngoAntonio Banderas - wavuma umbhali u-Isabel Allende kudliwano-ndlebe. Kodwa andikwazi ukutsho ukuba njani… Angakhubeka.”
Isandi ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nabadlali befilimu okanye abantu abangabaziyo abangalindelekanga amava anzima ukubalisa Ekuvukeni kwakho, ngakumbi iqabane elilele lingekho zingqondweni ecaleni kwakho.
Abanye abantu, uninzi lwabasetyhini, bafumana ezi ntlobo zamaphupha kunye ukuziva unetyala (okanye iintloni) ukuze ube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni weziganeko ezinje. Yintoni umsebenzi, ukuba ukhona, kwezi iintelekelelo zasebusuku?
Amaphupha avuselela inkanuko abonakalisa a ukusilela kwi-affective kunye ne-sexual sphere. Kwaye oku kwenzeka rhoqo kokukhona le mpembelelo icinezelwa.
ke kuya kuba ngcono imida izithintelo ngokukhawuleza ngokungxamisekile, nasemaphupheni, kuba kungenjalo umnqweno wokubandakanyeka ngokweemvakalelo unokuzibonakalisa "ufihliwe".
Eyona ndawo inzulu yamaphupha
Xa singena kwi-REM, esona sigaba sinzulu, sonke siyaphupha. Kuphela sihlala silibala amaphupha ethu xa sivuka.
Umsebenzi wephupha unomdla kumntu ukususela kumaxesha amandulo: ababhali, izazi zefilosofi, izazinzulu zihlala zivakalisa uluvo lwabo malunga nento eyenzekayo ngexesha lokulala. Kwakutheni ukuze kwenzeke oku? Ngaba amaphupha ethu athetha nantoni na ?.
Ukuchazwa kwamaphupha yindlela nje ekhawulezayo yokufumanisa ukuba ngawaphi amanani oza kudlala kwilotho. Omnye weengcali zengqondo ezinkulu ezikhoyo, uSigmund Freud, wada wabhala umsebenzi wegama elifanayo apho.
Kukho iintlobo ezininzi zamaphupha, ahlala ethandana, ngamanye amaxesha ade abe nokungxama...
Kodwaavela phi la maphupha avuselela inkanuko? Iingcali zengqondo ziyavuma ukuba la maphupha ayenzekanga ngamabona-ndenzile, kodwa aya kuba sisiphumo seminqweno engazi nto eyenziwa emini.
Amaphupha e-Erotic, kwakhona ngokukaFreud, ke akhulula kakhulu, ngokuchanekileyo kuba avumela ukufezekiswa, nangexesha lokulala, iminqweno yesini esiyicinezela ngelixa siphaphile.
Kodwa, yintoni intsingiselo yeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zamaphupha avuselela inkanuko ?
Imifanekiso engenabungozi ebhekiselele kwisini
Ngapha koko, ayiqhelekanga into yokungazi kwethu ukuba sicebise imifanekiso ebusuku ibonakala ingenabungozi ngesimboli esifihlakeleyo sezesondo.
Kwezinye iimeko 'umsebenzi wamaphupha' -uchaza ingcali- ophetheyo ukufihla el umxholo profundo yale minqweno ukuvumela ukuba imiyalezo engekho zingqondweni ukufika kwi Inxalenye eyaziyo ye-ego yethu.
Umzekelo wephupha elivuselela inkanuko yesini linokuba kukuhamba nje ukuya nokubuya epakini.
umgudu womzimba, ngakumbi ukuba yenziwa ngababini kunye nentshukumo ye-synchronous, ihlala ibonisa ubudlelwane bezesondo. Yintoni egqithisile, amaphupha kunye nesibane esibomvu inokuvela kuqala ibonwa ngaphandle kwentsingiselo ecacileyo.
Makhe sijonge imizekelo yeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zamaphupha.
Phupha ngokulala nomntu ongamaziyo
Yenye yezona zixhaphake kakhulu kwaye inokutolikwa ngeendlela ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Kwelinye icala, "ongaziwayo" unokuthathwa njengenxalenye yeyakhe "I" engaziwa kwaye kunzima ukuyamkela, kwelinye icala inokuba sisivuseleli esisuka kwi-subconscious ukuba siphile ubomi obusenyongweni. indlela eyahlukileyo.
Phupha ulala nelungu losapho
Ukwabelana ngesondo nelungu losapho kwakhona liphupha eliqhelekileyo. Luchazwa luthando oluthi, eneneni, sondla ngeenkalo ezithile zobuntu bomntu esiphupha ngokuba neentlobano zesini naye, ukuba ngandlel’ ithile “sizenza ezethu” ngeentlobano zesini.
Phupha ukujongwa ngelixa usabelana ngesondo
Liphupha eliqhelekileyo kwabasetyhini kunamadoda, kuba i-exhibitionist kunye ne-voyeuristic aspect igxininiswe ngakumbi kubo. Ngolu hlobo lwephupha, umfazi ubonisa umnqweno wakhe wokuxabisa nokwamkelwa, ukuba "ubonwe" ebufazini bakhe njengento enqwenelekayo.
Phupha ulala neqabane lomhlobo wakho
Kungenzeka ukuba umhlobo wethu usixelele izinto ezininzi ezintle malunga neqabane lakhe kangangokuba ngokungazi sidlulisele umtsalane kuye, nangona ngokusengqiqweni asinakuze senze into enjalo.
Phupha ngokwabelana ngesondo kwigumbi lokulala
Imeko yephupha nayo inokubaluleka kwayo. Ukuphupha ulala ngesondo kwigumbi lokulala linikeza ulwazi malunga nobomi bomntu njengesibini: ukuba igumbi lingcolile, umzuzu wokuba umanyano kunye nesibini sihamba nzima. Ukuba kumnyama kunokuthetha umzuzwana wenguqu, esingekabinayo neengcamango ezicacileyo.
Ukuphupha ulala nomntu ongasitsaleliyo
Kunokwenzeka ukuba uphuphe usiba neentlobano zesini nomntu ongasitsaleliyo ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokweemvakalelo. Olu hlobo lwephupha luya kubonisa umnqweno omkhulu wokutshintsha.
Phupha ulala nomntu obhinqileyo
Abasetyhini abaninzi abavumi, kodwa kuyenzeka ukuba uphuphe ngokulala nabanye abafazi, nokuba ngaba uthandana nesini esingafaniyo. Oku kunokuvela kubudlelwane obungonelisiyo kunye neqabane lakho, elinokuthi lingabi mnandi okanye lingabi naluthando, linike imfuneko yobudlelwane obusekelwe kolunye uhlobo lobudlelwane obusondeleyo.