Los Ukuwola Zibonisa uthando phakathi kwabantu kunye nothando phakathi kwezibini. Banikezela ngokungenakuthelekiswa nanto izibonelelo zomzimba nezengqondo kwaye banjalo irhafu kwelo hlabathi lobuqu apho unxibelelwano kunye nokufudumala komnye kuhamba ngaphaya kweempahla zethu kunye nolusu lwethu ukusizisela ulungelelwano kunye nolonwabo. Ke, thatha umzuzwana ucinge ngayo: Zingaphi izihlandlo ngosuku owanga ngalo iqabane lakho?
Ngaba niyakhula phakathi kwenu ulwimi olungathethi ntetho kulo nabuphi na ubudlelwane? Iicaresses, iihug, izimbo zomzimba, ukujonga… zinamanqaku azele ngumculo asinika ubomi; Zizinto ezisisiseko kwaye kufuneka sizisebenzise nanini na apho sinakho.
Zininzi izifundo ezenziweyo ngalo mbandela. Kwanele ukubonisa, umzekelo, ukuba isalathiso se Ukwahlukana Kukhulu ngakumbi kwizibini ezitshatileyo apho elinye lamalungu lingakubonakalisi oku kusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni, kuba uthando lubonakala ngathi "alunakulinganiswa" kwaye elinye lazo lihlala lifuna ezo zingalo okanye ezo caresses ukuya kwinqanaba elikhulu. Ngapha koko, kukho ubungqina obucacileyo bokubonisa ukuba abo bantwana bakhuliswe kwaye bafundiswa kumakhaya eenkedama kwaye abakwazanga ukukhula kunye nawo ukunxibelelana ngokomzimba yabazali babo baqola ngenene ukusilela okubonakalayo ezihlala zikhokelela kwiingxaki ezithile zengqondo nezentlalo ezenza ukudityaniswa kwabo kube nzima.
Yiyo loo nto kukho imfuneko yokuqonda ukuba this ulwimi olungenantlonelo ye-caresses, ukwangana kunye nokujongeka, kubalulekile ukuba isibini siphumelele kwaye siphucule ubudlelwane babo.
Izibonelelo zokuwola kunye neendawo zokuthambisa
- Ukwanga okulula kuyasinciphisa amanqanaba oxinzelelo ngendlela ebaluleke kakhulu. Ngumzuzu wokuzola kunye nokuqina phakathi kwesi sibini kulawula uxinzelelo lwethu.
- Basinika ukhuseleko kwaye ukhuseleko.
- Uyathetha positivism, inkathalo nothando.
- Siphucula iifayile zethu imo.
- Eyethu uxinzelelo lwegazi.
- Yikholwe okanye ungakholelwa, ukwangana kunye nokucinywa kuphucula imeko yethu imemori: le meko yoxolo ibangela ukuba kugcinwe kuthotho lweeurotransmitters ezisombulula iinkumbulo zethu. Akukho nto ilunge ngaphezu komzuzwana wokuthula kwiimvakalelo zethu ukuqinisekisa ingcinga nganye.
- Eyethu endorphins, ezo zidibanisayo ezifihliweyo yingqondo yethu kwinqanaba le-pituitary, zisinika olo lonwabo kunye nokuzola.
Isidingo soqhakamshelwano lomzimba
Ukuwola, izandla, iminwe, ukufudumala kwe-caress... zizinto ezikhuthaza ngokukhawuleza ukuba umzimba wethu uthumele imiyalezo kwingqondo yethu, ngokusebenzisa izinto ezininzi Abamkeli esinayo kulusu lwethu. Kuya kufuneka sazi ukuba ingqondo yethu ingumatshini olungeleleneyo kwaye okrelekrele; Nguye osivuzayo xa senze into entle. Ukuphululwa okanye ukwanga kugweba njengokonwabisayo, njengokwenza imidlalo, kwaye kusinika inani elifanelekileyo le-endorphins ezabiwe emzimbeni wethu, zisinika imvakalelo yolonwabo.
Kufanele ukuba kuthiwe kwezi zibini apho olu lwimi "lungathethwayo" akukho mvumelwano ichanekileyo yokudibanisa ubudlelwane ngokwesiqhelo, ii-caresses zisisiseko kubudlelwane bezesondo, ukufikelela kwi-orgasm ...
Iziphumo zokuba "singathethi" nolusu lwethu
Inyani yokuphila ngaphandle kwe-caresses, ngaphandle kokuwolana, ngaphandle kwenqanaba eloneleyo lokudibana ngokwasemzimbeni kuhlala kukhokelela kuthotho lweziphumo ezibi kakhulu kungekuphela kwesi sibini, kodwa nakwamanye amalungu, ngakumbi kwabo bafuna oku kuchazwa. Zeziphi iziphumo esinokubandezeleka ngazo?
- Un ukunciphisa ukuzithemba kwethu: siqala ukucinga ukuba asifunwa, kwaye asinomtsalane ngokwaneleyo kwiqabane lethu.
- Ukungazithembi: xa kungekho kunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni sinokuqala ukucinga ukuba asenzi nto ilungileyo, ukuba iqabane lethu alonwabanga nathi kwaye sinomngcipheko wokushiywa.
- Ukuziphatha okuxhalabisayo: uloyiko, ukungazithembi okanye ukuzithemba ngamanye amaxesha kungakhokelela ekuziphatheni okungalunganga, njengokuqala ukutya ngaphezulu kwesiqhelo, ukutshaya ngaphezulu kwemfuneko okanye ukuqala nje ukutshintsha indlela esiziphatha ngayo kwanobuntu bethu.
Akukho mntu unokuyiphika loo nto ukwangana ngokunyanisekileyo ibonakaliswe ngexesha elifanelekileyo, inesidima sokuthomalalisa onke amathandabuzo kunye noloyiko. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka sive ukuba oku kuzinikela kuyinyani, kwaye kuhlawuliswa uthando. Kwaye ke kukuba ii-caresses kunye ne-hugs zinamandla okunyanga acacileyo, kungoko kufuneka sizisebenzise yonke imihla.
Ulwimi lweenkangeleko
Ukubambana akubonakalisi nje kuphela iimvakalelo; ukujonga okanye amehlo abhala ulwimi olungagungqiyo ebantwini bethu noluchaza ubudlelwane bethu. Kuxhomekeke kwindlela iqabane lethu elijonga ngayo, siza kuziva enqwenelekayo okanye hayi; Kuxhomekeke kukunyaniseka kwamehlo abo, ukuba bayasiphepha okanye bayasiphepha, siyakutolika ukuba bayasixoka okanye bathetha nathi ngokusuka entliziyweni ... Kuyinyani ukuba kukho abantu abaneentloni kunabanye, kukho abo bangakwaziyo ukugcina amehlo abo kuthi ngelixa esiya kubo, kodwa kunokuthiwa olu hlobo lokuqonda lusisiseko kwi ubudlelwane babini.
Inkangeleko yesiqinisekiso, ingqalelo nothando… yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yolwimi abantu abayakhayo kwaye, kwimeko yezibini, imi njengentsika esisiseko yokuphumelela ngeebhondi ezaneleyo zokuqinisekisa ulonwabo. Ungathandabuzi bonisa uthando lwakho yonke imihla, ukwangana kunye nokucinywa zezona ndawo zibalaseleyo zokuzisongela ukuze sifumane isiqinisekiso sothando, siziva sikhuselekile kwaye sanelisekile lulonwabo lwethu.