Wagqibela nini ukuba nesibindi Yenza inyathelo lokuqala? Kutheni ungaphumi kuloo ndawo yentuthuzelo apho uziva ukhuselekile kodwa apho “akukho nto yakuze yenzeke”? Siyazi, ngamanye amaxesha akukho lula. Sonke sinokusikelwa umda, uloyiko lwethu, nokungakhuseleki kwethu.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba namhlanje kukho into egcwalisa amaphupha akho kwaye awufuni ukuzama, okanye uqale, siyakumema ukuba ufunde eli nqaku. Kukho into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyigcine engqondweni malunga nokukhula kwakho kwaye, ngokubanzi, ukuzithemba kwakho. Ubomi abulinganiswa neminyaka okanye ukuba sibadala kangakanani na. Ukuba akunjalo ngamava, kuba waphila ukufunda, nokuba ilungile okanye imbi. Mhlawumbi awufuni ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala ukuya kulaa nkwenkwana uyithandayo? Ngaba awuziva ukhuselekile ngokupheleleyo? Ungakhathazeki, sikunika iingcebiso ezincinci.
Phuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela!
Indawo yokuthuthuzela yiqamza elinoxolo. Kukho into esiyiyo, into esinayo yonke imihla. Konke kunjalo enokuxelwa kwangaphambili kwaye akukho mingcipheko. Akukho mntu unokuzivavanya okanye azuze amava ukuba akathabathi nenyathelo elinye elingaphaya komda waloo mqobo usikhuselayo.
Xa kuthethwa ngendawo yokuthuthuzela, kukho abantu abaninzi abangakwaziyo ukuzibamba kodwa babe nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wekhaya apho umntu ahlala enxibelelene nolo manyano lwentsapho. Nangona kunjalo, indawo yokuthuthuzela ihamba ngaphaya kwe Ukuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo umama okanye utata, ngamanye amaxesha, sithi, nangona sizimele, siqhubeke sizikhusela kwihlabathi.
1. Kutheni sisenza? Kutheni siqhubeka ngaphakathi kwendawo yokuthuthuzela?
- Ngenxa yokoyika yenza iimpazamo.
- Ngenxa yokoyika ukwenzakaliswa, ukubandezeleka.
- Kuba siphila tofotofo kubomi bemihla ngemihla yaye asifuni kutshintsha.
- Ngenxa yokuba ngamanye amaxesha, ukushiya indawo yokuthuthuzela kuyingozi, kwaye kubantu abaziva benesidingo sokugcina ubomi babo phantsi ulawuloOku kuyingozi. Ibenza bangazinzi.
- Ngenxa yokungabi nazigqibo.
- Ngeemodeli zemfundo. Ngamanye amaxesha bafaka kuthi umbono wokuba silumke kwaye sizivumele ukuba sihambe ngokwesiqhelo apho kungekho mingcipheko kwaye yonke into inokuqikelelwa.
2. Yintoni engaphaya kwendawo yokuthuthuzela?
Kufuneka kwakhona sikhumbule ukuba indawo yokuthuthuzela ayikho nje indawo esinika ukhuseleko kwaye apho yonke into ihlala izinzile. Ikwanguloo mlinganiso apho thina ngokwethu siqhubeka sifana njengamaxesha onke, apho sazi yonke into, kwaye sikhona, ukuthetha, ukuzicingela.
Ukuthatha umngcipheko, ukuthatha inyathelo elingaphaya kwalo mmandla wokhuseleko kuya kusinika yonke le milinganiselo:
- Ukuzivavanya ukuze sizazi ngcono.
- Sinike amacebo amakhulu okuphucula, ukusombulula iingxaki.
- Siba badala ubuchule beemvakalelo. Sifunda ukulawula uloyiko, ukungakhuseleki, uloyiko lokungaqiniseki.
- Sivula iimbono ezintsha zengqondo nezobuqu, kwaye sondle umdla wethu. Ukukhula kwethu ngokobuqu.
- Sizinika amathuba amakhulu okudibana nabantu, kwaye sizityebise ngenethiwekhi enkulu yoluntu.
- Ukuphuma kwinkqubo kukwayinto elungileyo kwimpilo yethu.
Ubomi bungaphaya komgca woloyiko
1. Wela umqobo woloyiko
Nabani na owoyikayo ubomi, woyika ukuphila, ukufumana amava, ukuthanda nokukhula njengomntu. Ngoku, uloyiko, njengemvakalelo yemvelo yomntu, izalisekisa umsebenzi osisiseko wokusinceda ukuba siphile kwaye siphephe. ingozi. Ithetha ntoni le nto?
Ukuba xa kuziwa ekuweleni loo ndawo yokuthuthuzela, kufuneka siyenze ngentloko kunye nokulinganisela. Kufuneka sikhusele ukuzithemba kwethu kunye nengqibelelo ngaphezu kwayo yonke enye into, oko kukuthi, akukho malunga siziphose ethubeni; kodwa ukutsiba ngeparashute kunye nebhanti lesihlalo.
Ukuba ndishiya indawo yam yokuthuthuzela kungenxa yokuba ndiyazi into endiyidingayo. Kwaye ke, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uthathe umtsi omkhulu wenkalipho kwaye yibalikroti, zibeke esichengeni. Ulahlekelwa yintoni ngokubuza umntu osebenza naye omthanda kangaka? Eyona nto imbi kakhulu enokuthi yenzeke kukuba bathi hayi, kodwa ayizukuba nzulu kangako kwaye umngcipheko ufanelekile. Kuthekani ukuba uthi ewe?
Ngoku, ukucela usuku akufani nokubhengeza uthando lwethu ngqo kwi-bat. Yonke into ithatha ixesha layo kwaye kufuneka silumke, silumke kwaye siyazi indlela yokuzikhusela. Yaye asiyi kushiya umsebenzi wethu okanye amakhaya ethu ngaphandle kokuba sicace gca ngento esifuna ukuyenza, okanye utshintsho esilufunayo lubonakala lunjani.
Shiya indawo yo thuzelo Kufuna inkalipho ukubekela ecaleni uloyiko lwethu, kodwa simele sicace gca ngesizathu sokuba sisilwela okanye siza kulushiyela bani uloyiko okanye iintloni zethu ukuze sithabathe inyathelo lokuqala.
Kwakhona khumbula ukuba ubomi buhamba ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha izinto ezinkulu zidlula phambi kwethu. mathuba loo nto ayinakuphinda iphindwe. Ke qaphela, jonga okungqongileyo, gcina ukuvuleka okuhle ngokwasemoyeni nasengqondweni kwaye ube nombono olungileyo.
Ubomi buhlala buzisa izinto ezilungileyo kwabo baziyo ukulinda kunye nabo banesibindi sokuwela umgca, ukulwela oko baphuphayo okanye abakunqwenelayo. Musa ukuvumela abanye bakuxelele indlela abavuya ngayo ngenxa yoko bakufezileyo. Phuma kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela namhlanje! Nokuba ixabisa wena, nokuba ucinga ukuba awuzukwazi. Ulonwabo lukwelinye icala loloyiko.