Ungakoyisa njani ukuphoxeka ngokweemvakalelo

Xa sithetha nge a Ukudana okuchaphazelekayo Baza kungena ekuphoxekeni, ekungcatshweni, nakwilahleko abaninzi bethu abaye babandezeleka ngayo ebomini bethu. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba kude nokucinga ukuba ezi zinto ziyinyani njengeziganeko ezothusayo ezinokuthi "zikhubaze" ubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla, ziyinkqubo yeemvakalelo esinokufunda kuzo kwaye ekufuneka isifundisile ukuba somelele. Isibindi.

Nangona kunjalo, siyazi ukuba akusoloko kulula ukuyiphumeza. Konke ukuphoxeka ngokweemvakalelo kuhamba kunye nenani elikhulu leemvakalelo ezingalunganga kunye nokuthotywa kokuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba kwethu. Oko sasikholelwa kuko akusekho. Eyethu ukukhohlisa, ukuthembana kwethu kuye kwaphulwa kwaye kufuneka sifunde ukuzakha kwakhona nge "ziqwenga abasishiyileyo." Ngoku, siyakuqinisekisa ukuba ngokuzomelela nangokuphucula imeko yethu, sinokuyiphumeza. Sichaza njani

Iindlela zokoyisa ukuphoxeka ngokweemvakalelo

1. Yonke into iyadlula, iintlungu azihlali

Ingabonakala ngathi iyinto nje kuwe, kodwa gcinani engqondweni ukuba yonke into eyenzekayo kuthi, nakuphi na ukusilela esikufumanayo ebomini bethu kukwalithuba lokufunda. Ngoncedo lwakho, kuyacetyiswa ukuba usoloko ulikhumbula eli binzana: "Ayisiyonto eyenzekayo kuwe, yindlela ocinga ngayo ngayo". Ngamanye amagama, indlela esiqhuba ngayo thina ngokwethu kwenzeka kwaye sijongane nayo iya kusiphawula ngandlela thile.

Ukuba ndicinga ukuba bandishiyile kuba ndingakulungelanga, ndinomtsalane okanye ndingahlekisi, uyazenzakalisa.Iingcinga zakho lutshaba lwakho olukhulu kule meko. Ngoku, ukuba usondela kwinto eyenzekileyo njengenyaniso yokoyisa kwaye apho ungafunda khona ukuba ulumke ngakumbi okanye ngakumbi okhaliphileyo ixesha elizayo, iingcinga zakho ziluncedo kuwe.

Iintlungu ozivayo ngoku zezokwexeshana, ubomi buyahamba kwaye buyatshintsha yonke imihla, akukho nto iyakoyisa, nditsho nokubandezeleka okukuva ngoku ngenxa yokuphoxeka ngokweemvakalelo. Khumbula ukuba ngomso uya kuba lolunye usuku, kwaye ukuba ujolise ebomini bakho ekoyiseni nasekugxileni kwiindlela ezintsha kwaye ukukhohlisaUkuchacha kwakho kuya kukhawuleza kwaye kube sempilweni.

2. Gxila kuwe kwakhona

Uchithe ixesha elithile ugxile komnye umntu, ukhathazekile, ugcwele ixhala, amathandabuzo kunye noloyiko. Kude kube sekupheleni, ukudana kufikile kunye noxanduva lokumakisha mgama uhambe. Inxalenye yakho isabotshelelwe kuloo mntu uthile, kwaye kulapho indawo enkulu yokubandezeleka kwakho kwenzeka khona.

Thatha ixesha lakho, ukhale ukuba uyayifuna, jonga ukuba wedwa iiyure ezimbalwa okanye iintsuku, kodwa kamva, buyisa ubomi bakho ukuze ubunyaniseke kwakhona umlinganiswa ophambili wosuku lwakho ukuya kwimini. Ekuqaleni akuyi kuba lula, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uthembele kubahlobo nakusapho, ukuba ulonwabele ixesha lakho lasimahla, imisebenzi emitsha kunye nokufunda ... Konke oku kubaluleke kakhulu "ukwaphula" oko kudibana nomntu ukwenze buhlungu.

Kuya kufuneka ufumane ibhalansi yangaphakathi ngokuqinisa ukuzithemba kwakho, uzive ubalulekile kwaye uqinisekile ngesiqu sakho. Ungumntu ofanelwe ukonwaba kwakhona, kwaye, ukuthandwa ngumntu okufanele ngokwenene.

3. Yiba yeyona nguqulelo ibalaseleyo yesiqu sakho

Xa siphoxeka ngokweemvakalelo izinto ezininzi ngaphakathi kwethu ziyaphuka. Iinkalo zokuba ukungakhathali, ukungaphathi kakuhle, kunokusikhokelela kuxinzelelo, ke gcina olu luhlu lobungakanani engqondweni baphephe:

• Ukucinga ukuba akukho mntu unokusithanda.
• Ukucinga ukuba kungcono ungathandi kwakhona, kuba uthando luyafana nokubandezeleka.
• Ukufuna isithukuthezi, sicinga ukuba akukho mntu unokusiqonda, ukuba akukho mntu unokusinceda soyise ezo ntlungu zikhoyo kunye nezeemvakalelo.
• Yiba nesikrokro, woyike ukubuyela emhlabeni, cinga kakubi ngabo bonke abantu. Siya siethe-ethe ngaloo mini suku ngalunye sikhetha ukuzifihla kuthi, de ekugqibeleni, sikhethe ukungaphumi endlwini.

Zonke ezi zizathu zingasikhokelela ekubeni siwele kwimeko yoxinzelelo apho kuya kuba nzima ukuphuma kuthi. Kwakhona khumbula, "iingcinga zethu zingamadlelane ethu", ke isicwangciso esiliqili sokweyisa ukuphoxeka ngokweemvakalelo kukuzisebenzisa. iingcebiso.

• Abantu bahlala beneenjongo ezithile malunga nokuba ngubani oza kuba liqabane lethu elifanelekileyo, oko kukuthi, umntu ogqibeleleyo: umntu owonwabisayo, onethemba, osondeleyo, othetha-thethana, ngovelwano, ngokukhula ngokweemvakalelo nokuzithemba. Olu luhlu lweempawu zinokubonakala zigqibelele, kodwa kuthekani ukuba ngelixa silinde loo mntu avele, thina ngokwethu sifunda ukuzisebenzisa ebomini bethu? Ewe ngokwakho Uba yile nto uyikhangelayo kwiqabane eligqibeleleyo, sele ungumntu ofanele ukuba naye.

• Khangela okona kulungileyo kuwe, yonke into eyenzekileyo ayisiyonto ingumqobo nje omncinci kwindlela yakho yobomi, into yokoyisa ngamandla kunye nokuthembeka ukuze uqhubeke ujonge phambili ngolona hlobo lubalaseleyo lwethu. Kufuneka siqhubeke sinethemba, wethu ukuzithemba, kufuneka siqhubeke ukuncuma ebomini kunye nemibono emitsha.

Isenokuba bayakugatya, kodwa Into yokugqibela ekufuneka uyenzile kukuzicekisa. Nabani owakukhathaza wayengakufanelanga, nangona kunjalo, sele uyazi ukuba ufanele ntoni, uyazi ukuba ubomi buhlala busizisela amathuba abo bazi ukulinda. Nangona kunjalo, ayifanelekanga ukungxama, okoko nje iqabane elifanelekileyo lifika, siyakuhlala ngokugqibeleleyo, sonwabele ukuba singobani, yintoni esinayo nathi.