Njengoko igama libonisa, sithetha ngomzuzu obaluleke kakhulu kunye noxinzelelo oluphezulu oluhlala luvela emva kwevili. Inyani yile yokuba kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuba ungacinga kuba umsindo womqhubi Iya kusikhokelela kwinqanaba lomsindo, elinokusibangela iingxaki ngakumbi kunokuba sicinga.
Nangona kuyinyani oko ukuqhuba yenye yezinto esiqhele ukuzenza, akusoloko kumnandi njengoko sinokucinga. Kuba uxinzelelo lunokukhula ngokukhawuleza emzimbeni wethu kwaye lukhokelele kwiimvakalelo ezichaseneyo kunye nokuphendula. Fumanisa yonke into oyifunayo!
Yintoni ingqumbo yomqhubi
Ngulo mzuzu, okanye la maxesha, apho uxinzelelo luthatha umzimba wethu kunye nomsindo noxinzelelo. Nangona ingengabo bonke ababonisa ngokulinganayo, kuyinyani ukuba abantu abaninzi bayenzeka ngalo lonke ixesha bengena emotweni. Kungenxa yokuba abayinyamezeli kakhulu into eyenziwa ngabanye abaqhubi, kuba banexinzelelo. Xa siziva sikhathazekile kuba sifuna ukufezekisa into kodwa asikwazi, elona candelo lethu libi liyaphuma, kuba leyo yinto enokwenzeka nakwivili. Akukho mntu uthanda ukuba imoto inqumle ujikeleze umgaqo ochanekileyo okanye xa kufuneka sichithe ixesha elide kwezithuthi.
Ke sihlala senza ntoni? Ewe, ngokuchaseneyo noko kufanelekileyo kuba sinikwe ukukhalisa uphondo ukongeza ukuthukisa kakhulu kodwa nokwenza umqondiso ngokungathi ngomso awukho. Kwiimeko ezithile, umsindo uphakame nangakumbi kwaye bacaphukisa enye imoto ngokusondela ngakumbi kunokuba kufanelekile okanye ngokumcela ukuba ayeke ukuphikisana ubuso ngobuso.
Oonobangela bomsindo wendlela
Sitshilo nje ezinye zeemeko apho zihlala zisasazeka. Kodwa kuyinyani ukuba esinye sezizathu ezibalulekileyo kukuba umntu sele ethambekele ekubeni nomsindo ngakumbi kwaye angabi namonde. Kuba ngamanye amaxesha, umsindo womqhubi awumi ngaphandle xa kukho into ebaluleke kakhulu endleleni, kodwa ngenxa yeenkcukacha ezihlala zenzeka amatyeli amaninzi kwaye oko kungulolosuku. Naxa umntu ohamba ngeenyawo ewela engakhange ajonge, nditsho kwindlela yokuwela. Yinto engenakuphepheka eyenzekayo kodwa nokuziphatha kwethu nako. Ngoba? Emva koko kuba siphila ubomi obunoxinzelelo kwaye ezona nkcukacha zincinci zenza uxinzelelo luxhume. Yiyo loo nto, ingamangalisi into yokuba unyamezelo lusezantsi kakhulu kuloo mntu kwaye lukhokelela kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezingahambelaniyo.
Ikwayiloo nto sihlala sitolika yonke into ngokwahlukileyo kunaleyo yenzeka ngokwenyani. Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba sibona imiqondiso apho kungekho khona. Kodwa ukuba siyayifumana loo mbono, kunzima ukuyikhupha entloko. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka sizame ukulumka kancinci kwaye singasoloko sicinga ukuba bonke abaqhubi bayasijikela ukuze bonakalise usuku lwethu, kuba ukuba sicinga ngokungakhathali siyazi ukuba akunjalo.
Sifanele sizilawule njani
Ayisiyonto ilula ukuyenza, nangona ihlala iyinto yokuthetha. Ke ngoko, siya kuzama kwakhona thintela umsindo womqhubi ukuba ungaphumi pores zethu. Ngeyiphi indlela? Ewe, uzama ukuphumla kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Xa uhleli emva kwevili, zama ukuphefumla kwaye uhlale ucinga okuhle. Ukubeka umculo owuthandayo uhlala lelinye lawona manyathelo abonisiweyo. Kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba awusoloko uza kuba nebhedi yeeroses, ngokoqobo. Kodwa ayisosizathu sokuba ufanele ukukhathazeka. Ngenxa yokuba into ebalulekileyo kukufika kwindawo oya kuyo kodwa ukonwabele nohambo. Ungaziboni izinto apho sinazo kwaye ngenxa yeso sizathu, kungcono ungatoliki kwaye uhlale uqhubeka nohambo lwethu iintloko zethu ziphakanyisiwe.