Xelela Sala kakuhle Kungaphezulu kokuvalelisa. Kukuvala umjikelo nokuphelisa inqanaba lobomi bethu elasizisela ulonwabo olungakumbi okanye olungaphantsi. Isidingo sokwazi xa kufanelekile ukuthatha inyathelo akulula kwaye kufuna inkalipho nokuqonda okucacileyo koko kusilungeleyo.
Vala isangqa kuloo nto ubudlelwane obunomdla, ukuba ukusebenza komsebenzi okanye ukuhamba kude nobuhlobo obusinika ukungonwabi ngaphezu kokwaneliseka, ngokungathandabuzekiyo ngamaxesha abalulekileyo esiye sajamelana nawo ngexesha elithile. Makhe sicamngce ngayo namhlanje kwindawo yethu, sifunde iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokujongana nesigqibo esinzima sokuvalelisa.
Ukuvalelisa kungaphezulu kokuphela kweqonga
Kukho ndlela-ntle eziyimfuneko kwaye kukho enye indlela yokuvalelisa eya kuhlala isilimaza ngaphezu kwabanye. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka siqonde ukuba umjikelo wethu wobomi, kude nokuba liqumrhu elizinzileyo apho yonke inkalo ikhuseleke ngokupheleleyo, yinkqubo entsonkothileyo yokuzama nokuyeka.
Makhe sihlalutye yonke imiba ebandakanyekayo ngokunzulu ngakumbi.
1. Ukuvalelisa kukwasisiqalo sento entsha
Sisenokukufumanisa kunzima ukuyibona. Kungenzeka ukuba okwangoku sithatha isigqibo sokuthatha inyathelo kwaye sithi, ukwesaba kunye nokubandezeleka kubonakala kunokwaneliseka.
Ngoku, kufuneka ucace le milinganiselo:
- Akho amaxesha ebomini bethu apho siziva sitshonile kwaye sibambekile. Akuyomfuneko ukuhlala kubudlelwane obubi, ngamanye amaxesha umsebenzi wethu okanye wethu ukungoneliseki kwakhe kwemihla ngemihla Isenza sibone ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo. Asikukhuthazi ukukhula kwethu, asiziva sichulumancile kwaye oku kusishukumisela ukuba sigqibe iqonga kwaye siqale "into entsha." Oku kwakhona ndlela-ntle.
- Makhe sithethe ngobudlelwane. Akuyimfuneko ukuba neqabane "elinobuthi", umntu osilimazayo okanye osenza singonwabi. Kukho amaxesha apho siye sivakalelwe ngaloo ndlela Olo lwalamano ngokwalo aluyiyo le nto siyifunayo.. Nangona uthando, nangona uthando, kukho "into engalunganga" kwaye asazi ukuba siyichaza njani. Ukunganeliseki yinto eqhelekileyo kubudlelwane besibini, kwaye, kwakhona, inxulumene nesidingo sokukhula ngaphakathi, ukufumana ezinye izinto, ukuya kwelinye inqanaba.
- Ngale mibono sifuna ukukuxelela ukuba ndlela-ntle ayisoloko inesizathu esicacileyo: ukungcatshwa, ukukhohlisa, ukuphoxeka ... Kukho amaxesha apho kuyimfuneko yethu ukuqalisa utshintsho olukhuthaza isidingo sokuthetha kakuhle. Kwaye kule meko, ndlela-ntle inethuba lokuqala into entsha.
2. Thatha inyathelo kwaye ungalindeli izinto ezimbi kuphela
Abanye abantu ungakhe ulinge ukuthatha elo nyathelo ukuya phambili kwaye ulibazise ukuvalwa kwalo mnyango, olo lwalamano okanye elo nqanaba lobomi bakho kule miba ilandelayo:
- Ngenxa yoloyiko
- Ngenxa yokungabi nazigqibo
- Ukucinga ukuba okwenzekayo emva koko kuya kuba kubi kwaye kubi ngakumbi kunale nto inayo ngoku.
- Ngenxa yokoyika oko abanye bakucingayo okanye indlela abasabela ngayo.
Ngenxa yoko, eyona nto siyenzayo kukulindela ikamva ngokuzondla ngokungabi nazigqibo kwethu. Ingqondo yokusebenza kwengqondo Isixelela ukuba kuxhomekeka kwindlela esicinga ngayo siya kuvakalelwa ngokweemvakalelo. Ke, ukuba ucinga ngokulindela iintlekele, uya kondla uloyiko ngakumbi.
- Cinga ngokuvalelisa njengesenzo sokukhulula.
- Lithuba eliya kukuzisela izinto ezintsha apho uya kuziva ungcono. Ukuzithemba ngakumbi kwaye uzingca ngakumbi ngawe.
- Ukuvalelisa kuthetha ukushiya izinto esiziqhelileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kubo bonke ubomi bethu kuyimfuneko ukushiya le mimandla yokuthuthuzela ukuze sikhule ngokweemvakalelo nangomntu. Ngumsebenzi wamagorha kwaye, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, ungomnye wabo.
3. Vala izangqa ngaphandle kweenkumbulo ezimbi
Ukuvalelisa kuye kuthetha ukuba kufuneka lawula iimvakalelo ezininzi, kuzo, ayizizo zonke eziqinisekileyo. Imvakalelo yokuba singena kwinqanaba elitsha kwaye lonke utshintsho ngokungathandabuzekiyo luya kuzisa into elungileyo kuthi ayidli ngokufika ekuqaleni.
Umzuzu wokuvalelisa, wokuvalwa kwaloo mjikelo wobomi, kuthetha ukuba nawo kufuneka enze njalo ijonge ngaphambili le milinganiselo:
- Siziqhawule kwinto, kude kube mva nje, yasichonga kwaye yade yasichaza: obo budlelwane, loo msebenzi, obo buhlobo, eso sixeko sasihlala kuso.
- Izizathu zokuba sishiye into ngamanye amaxesha zinxulunyaniswa nayo amava amabi. Ezi zezona ziyingozi kakhulu, kuba kuthetha ukuba kufuneka kuphele inqanaba ngelixa kufuneka "uphilise" ingaphakathi lethu kumava amabi, ukuphoxeka, ukungcatshwa kunye nosizi.
- Ukuthatha inqanaba elitsha ngamandla, amandla kunye nethemba, kufuneka sijongane nezi mvakalelo zingalunganga. Ukwenza oku, into yokuqala esimele siyenze kukungabakhanyeli. Yiyeke i-steam, ikhulule loo ntlungu, yamkele kwaye emva koko, uxolele. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba basiphathe kakubi, kodwa ukuba akunjalo siyaxolela "Siza kuhlala singamabanjwa" kwezo nkumbulo kunye nezo mvakalelo ixesha elide.
- Uxolelo yeyona ndlela yonyango yokuthi ndlela-ntle. Kuthetha ukushiya ngaphandle kwentiyo kunye namandla ahlaziyiweyo, ukuzithemba kwaye ukwala ukuba ngamakhoboka ebandla inzondo, yeenkumbulo ezimbi esiye sazifumana kunye naloo mava athe, kangangexesha elithile, alwa nokukhula kwethu ngokobuqu.
Ubomi yinkqubo ende ye vuma ndikhulule, ukucinga ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukuthi sithi ndlela-ntle ukuze silungelwe thina. Kwaye nangona kubuhlungu, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba kokona kulungileyo.