Ayizizo zonke iintlobo zokuncamathisela ezifanayo kwaye ezinye zazo zinokubangela iingxaki ezithile xa kuziwa ekugcineni ubudlelwane obuthile. Kwimeko yokubandezeleka okuqhotyoshelweyo okunqandayo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntu ohluphekayo angakwazi ukugcina iqabane elizinzile.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kuthetha nawe ngendlela eneenkcukacha yokuncamathisela kunye nendlela oluchaphazela ngayo ubudlelwane besibini.
Yintoni ukuncamathela okunqandayo?
Olu hlobo lokuncamathela luhlala lusenzeka kubantu abathatha isiqalo sobudlelwane njengento engaqhelekanga nengaqhelekanga. kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha baziva becaphukile kwaye abagqibanga ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane obuxeliweyo.
Kolu hlobo lokuncamathela akukho mfuneko enkulu yokuba kunye neqabane. Kukho imvakalelo enamandla yokuba ukongamela kunikwe into yokuba kukho ubudlelwane bothando nomnye umntu. Ngenxa yolu qhotyoshelweyo, umntu ukhetha ukuba yedwa kunokuba achithe ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye nomntu othandekayo. Akacingi ukwabelana ngamaxesha kunye okanye ukuhlala phantsi kophahla olufanayo.
Indlela aziphatha ngayo umntu onqabisekileyo kubudlelwane
Kukho inani lezinto kunye neentshukumo ezinokunceda ukuchonga kumntu othe wancamathela:
- Cinga rhoqo nangazo zonke iiyure, ukuba awukakulungeli ukuzibophelela komnye umntu.
- Akanakwamkela iziphene ukuba isibini sibe nayo.
- hlala ucinga malunga nobudlelwane bexesha elidlulileyo kunye thelekisa nale yangoku.
- Akadli ngokuthetha amabinzana othando kwesi sibini, njengokuba kunjalo "Ndiyakuthandana"
- Kuphephe ukugcina ngamaxesha onke ukusondela okuthile kwesi sibini.
- Ukugcina ubudlelwane obungenakamva njengokuba kunjalo ngomntu otshatileyo.
Yintoni omele uyenze ukuba unengxaki yokuncamathela
Akulula ukugcina ubudlelwane xa unengxaki yolu hlobo lokuncamathela. Imiboniso yothando kunye nothando ayikho kwaye le yinto enefuthe elibi kwikamva elihle lesi sibini. Kule meko kulungile ukugcina engqondweni uthotho lweengcebiso okanye iingcebiso:
- Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqaphela kwaye ukuqaphela ipateni yeemvakalelo ephindwa ngokuqhubekayo.
- Kuhle ukuchaza oko uziva uziva ngokweemvakalelo xa isibini sisondelelene kakhulu.
- Kubalulekile ukuzithanda kwaye ugcine engqondweni yonke uloyiko olunokukhokelela ekubeni ubudlelwane bufike esiphelweni.
Kwimeko apho isibini esinengxaki yokuphepha ukuncamathela, Kuhle ukuqwalasela uluhlu lwamacebiso:
- Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba iqabane lakho lihamba kancinci kancinciKuhle ukuba umxelele indlela omthanda ngayo kodwa ngaphandle kokumoyisa.
- Kuhle ukuba unendawo yakho yobuqu ukuze ungaziva ucinezelekile nangaliphi na ixesha.
- Ukuba umgama mkhulu kakhulu kwaye imeko iya isiba mandundu, kuyacetyiswa ukuba amenze abone ukuba ubudlelwane abunakamva kwaye kulunge ngakumbi ukuba kupheliswe.
- Kwakhona kufuneka wazi ukuba ungakuphepha njani ngamaxesha athile kunye nawe, ngenjongo yokwenza isibini sikhululeke ngakumbi yaye ubuhlobo abukho sengozini.
Ngamafutshane, akukho lula ukuba nobudlelwane xa ukuncamathisela okunqandayo kukho. Olu hlobo lokuncamathela lubangela ukuba umntu arhoxe kubudlelwane kunye ungaziva ukhululekile xa ukunye nomntu omthandayo. Kunzima ukugcina ubudlelwane obuthile xa kungekho mpawu zothando okanye uthando komnye wamaqela. Ukunikezelwa oku, kungcono ukuhlala ecaleni kweso sibini, uthethe ngendlela ezolileyo kwaye ekhululekile malunga nombandela kwaye ufune uncedo kwingcali ekwaziyo ukujongana nengxaki enjalo.