Ukuba ngumama kuzaliswe ngamaxesha angenakulibaleka, amanye alungile kwaye amanye abuhlungu, anjengokujongana nokukhubazeka komntwana. Xa uphupha ngabantwana bakho, uba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wabo ngendlela ethile, umbala weenwele zabo, ukumila kwempumlo okanye umlomo wabo. Nditsho, ucinga ukuba ikamva lakhe lobuchwephesha liya kuba njani, yonke into ongathanda ukumfundisa yona okanye indlela yokunceda umntwana wakho abe nempumelelo enkulu ebomini.
Yonke loo nto iba luzizi xa ngenye imini kufike ukuxilongwa kokukhubazeka. Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, nokuba kukukhubazeka ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasengqondweni, isibetho siyingozi. Kodwa omnye usengumama, usesichengeni kwaye ufuna inkxaso yakho ukuze uqhubeke ukhula njengomntwana. Ukukunceda kule nkqubo, sikushiyela ezi zicwangciso zokujongana nokukhubazeka komntwana.
Unyana wam unesiphene, kutheni mna?
Kuqhelekile ukuba lo ngumbuzo wokuqala oza entlokweni yakho, awuzicingeli kwaphela. Kukusabela okusengqiqweni komntu obandezelekayo ngenxa yeyona nto ayifunayo ebomini. Ukufumana iindaba kubuhlungu, kuyakukhubaza, kukushiya unxunguphele, ungazi ukuba uthini na. Yonke into isisiphumo sokungaqiniseki kokungazi ukuba ikamva lilindele ntoni unyana wakho, ngokuba yeyona nto yoyikekayo.
Kodwa ikamva aliqinisekanga kuyo nayiphi na imeko kwaye yinto yokuqala ekufuneka uyivavanye ukuze ujongane nokukhubazeka komntwana. Umntu unokwenza izicwangciso, kodwa awusoze wazi ukuba ikamva likuphathele ntoni kwaye akukho mntu unokukuqinisekisa. Ke musa ukufela ukholo ekuhambeni kwexesha, phila imihla ngemihla kwaye uncede umntwana wakho ukuba aphumelele umzuzu ngamnye. Kumbuzo othi ngokuqinisekileyo iyakukhathaza, mhlawumbi impendulo ikukuba ikuchukumisile kuba ungoyena mntu ufezekileyo ukoyisa le meko nomntwana wakho.
Cela uncedo lobungcali
Ukulawula ingxaki yobukhulu obunjalo akulula kwaye ukuyiyeka ikutshone ngokupheleleyo kuyingozi kuwe nakwintlalo-ntle yomntwana wakho. Ukuba awuphilanga awuzukwazi ukunceda unyana wakho kwaye uyakudinga kakhulu. Ngoko ungaphoswa lithuba lokucela uncedo lweengcali. Unyango lubalulekile ukukhulula intlungu yakho, ukwenza ingqiqo yento oyivayo kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ukufumana izixhobo zokulawula le meko inzima.
Umntwana wakho usengumntwana, eso siphene asibugqubutheleli ubuntwana bakhe
Umntwana akaqondi ukuba unesiphene, akaziva ngahlukileyo, ngomnye nje umntwana odinga abazali bakhe nabantu abathenjiweyo ukuze akhule kwaye onwabe. Isiphene sibuhlungu, kodwa lolunye uphawu lomntwana wakho. Musa ukuvumela ingxaki yakhe igqume okanye ithintele ubuntwana bakhe, bakhangele iindlela ezizezinye ngokweemfuno zabo baze bancede baphile ubomi bobuntwana obonwabisayo.
Musa ukuyifihla ingxaki kwabanye
Ingakumbi xa ukukhubazeka kungabonakali okanye kuphawuleka ngeso lenyama, oomama badla ngokuyifihla le ngxaki kwabanye abantu ukuze bangamtyhili umntwana wabo. Asikokuthetha naye nabani na ngeemfuno zomntwana wakho, ngumbandela nje wokulungisa imeko yakho. Yonke into ekwenza wahluke ikwenza ube unique nawe, ungayifihli okanye uyifihle, xa uthetha ngayo, iya kuba yesiqhelo kuye wonke umntu.
Ukulungelelanisa iinkqubo kwaye uqhubeke
Xa beqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki, umzuzu ongathandekiyo wokuqhuba iinkqubo zolawulo ezibuhlungu uyafika. Ngokuqinisekileyo unomnqweno wokulibazisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba zingaphi iimvakalelo kunye nokuziva unetyala. Kodwa loo manyathelo ayimfuneko kuya kufuneka eze kungekudala okanye kamva, Ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyilungise, ngokukhawuleza unokuqhubeka..
Cela ukuqeshwa okufanelekileyo, lawula iqondo lokukhubazeka kwaye ufumanise malunga nalo lonke uncedo olukhoyo unyana wakho kwisixeko sakho okanye uluntu oluZimeleyo. Yonke into onokuyifumana ukuphucula ubomi bakho kunye nekamva lakho, kufuneka ifike ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba kufuneka ukhale, yenze, kodwa sula iinyembezi zakho Uyonwabele unyana wakho oya kuba ngunaphakade.