Uninzi lwexesha, ngakumbi ngexesha lokuqala, asifuni kubona ulwalamano kubudlelwane bethu.. Inyaniso yokuba oku kuyenzeka ngokungathandabuzekiyo kungenxa yezizathu ezininzi, kodwa into ekufuneka siyikhumbule kukuba ayisiyongozi okanye ayifanelekanga ukugcina imeko yezi mpawu ixesha elide.
Ngokukhawuleza xa sikubona oku kupholisa, eyona nto ifanelekileyo ukuyenza kukuqhubeka nonxibelelwano kunye nencoko. Qonda isizathu. Ukuba sithatha amanyathelo, ukuba sizama kwakhona ngokujoyina imikhosi kunye nomyolelo, ubudlelwane bunokomelezwa. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ithuba lesibini alizisi ngaphezu kwemigama emitsha, kuya kufuneka sithathe isigqibo. Namhlanje kwi Bezzia te damos 5 pistas de esta realidad.
Siyayeka ukwenza izinto kunye
Kukho umsebenzi, ukudinwa, kwaye nokwazi ukuba iqabane lethu lidinga iindawo zabo kwaye banelungelo lokuhlala nabahlobo babo, ukuba nezinto zokuzonwabisa abazenza bodwa. Nangona kunjalo, Isibini siyayazi indlela yokonwabela iindawo eziqhelekileyo, kwaye siyakonwabela ukwenza imisebenzi kunye.
Ukuya kwisidlo sangokuhlwa, ukudibana emva komsebenzi, ukwenza uhambo olungalindelekanga ngaphandle kwendawo esisigxina… Ezi zezinto ngokungathandabuzekiyo ebezisoloko zisichaza kwaye zakha ubudlelwane bethu. Ukuba namhlanje uyabona ukuba kukho izizathu zesicelo ngasinye, khangela ukuba kutheni kusenzeka oko.
- Mhlawumbi kungenxa yobunzima besiqhelo.
- Sukuyikhupha ingxaki yobuqu enokubakho: ukungakhathali okanye ukudodobala ngenxa yokungabinamsebenzi, ukuziva ungavumi ngenxa yolwalamano ngokwalo, kodwa ngenxa yokwehla kokuzithemba nokuzithemba.
- Kuyimfuneko ukwazi ukuba yintoni ebangela oku kusilela kwempindezelo xa ucebisa ukwenza izinto ngokufanayo.
Ukungabikho kwembuyekezo
Sichaze le nto kuwe ngaphambili. Olunye lweempawu ezibonakalayo zokuhamba kukungabikho kwembuyekezo ngesiquphe. Kwaye siya kuyibona kwezi zinto:
- Ukungabikho kwengqwalaselo kwimihla ngemihla, ukuqonda ukuba asiviwa, ukuba akukho luvelwano xa sithetha. Ukuba abasijongi ebusweni.
- Ukungabikho kwenkxalabo. Kwanele ukujonga emva ukuze uqonde ukuba akusekho mdla ungako ekuzazeni ukuba siwuchithe kanjani usuku, sazi into esiyifunayo, izinto ezisixhalabisayo.
- Imizamo ayihlawulwa. Kuyenzeka ukuba kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, ngalo lonke ixesha unenkcukacha malunga neqabane lakho, ngalo lonke ixesha unikezela ngento yokumnceda, ukumkhathalela, akukho nanye kuyo eyaziwayo okanye exabisekileyo. Yinto ebangela ukubandezeleka okukhulu.
Ukuziva ulilolo nangona uneqabane lethu ecaleni
Ukuba semzimbeni nomntu akuthethi ukuba ubekho. Ukusixelela ewe ngobuso babo akuthethi kuthi basimamele. Ukubakho kuthetha ukuba zonke ezi zinto:
- Yazi ukuba ungaya kanjani kwaye unonophele.
- Ukwazi indlela yokumamela, ukubonisa ukusondelelana, ukwabelana ngokuhleka, ukwakha incoko ehamba ngaphezu kwamagama kwaye ibonwa kwizimbo zomzimba.
- Ukubakho kukwathetha ukuqonda ukuba iqabane lethu liziva lonwabile nathi, yazi ukuba awufuni ukuba kwenye indawo. Qaphela ukuba ingqondo yakho, njengomzimba wakho, ikunye nathi.
Ukusetyenziswa okuyingozi kovelwano olubuyela umva
Ukusetyenziswa kovelwano olubuyela umva sesinye sezizathu ezibangela ukuhla nokwahlukana. Luhlobo olubi kakhulu lolwimi olubuhlungu, kwaye esilwenza kwezi zigaba apho kungasekho kuqonda.
- Uvelwano oluphindaphindiweyo lwenzeka xa iqabane lakho lenze into esingayithandiyo. Endaweni yokumxelela, endaweni yokuthetha, sikhetha xelisa indlela aziphethe ngayo ukuze naye eve ubunzima.
- Singayenza bobabini thina kunye nabo. Kwaye esi sicwangciso sifuna "ukuba novelwano" ngentlungu. Ukuba awundiphulaphulanga imini yonke, ndenza njengawe. Ukuba awuphendulanga kumyalezo endikhathazeke ngawo ngawe, ngoku ndiyeka ukuphendula kuyo yonke imiyalezo yakho ukuze "ndikwenze ube nkulu ngakumbi".
- Luhlobo olubi kakhulu lokukhohlisa ekungafanelekanga ukuba siwele kulo. Ukuba kukho into esikhathazayo, ukuba asiyithandi into, yitsho ngokuvakalayo.
Siqala ukwenza ezinye izicwangciso, sineemfuno ezintsha
Kwaye ngaphandle kokwazi nyani ukuba, imini iyafika xa sidinga ezinye izinto. Sifuna ukudibana nabantu abatsha, sitshintshe imisebenzi, uhambo ... Abanye banokuthi "khuthaza ukukhula kwethu", abanye, "Ufuna ukuchitha ixesha kubudlelwane."
Nokuba kunjani, konke oku kuthetha umgama ocacileyo. Ukwenza isibini, ukuzibophelela kuthetha ukufuna ukukhula kunye, ukuhlonipha indawo nganye kodwa wenze iprojekthi efanayo. Ngexesha lokuzibophelela kubeka umthwalo kuthi, nokuba kukwinqanaba lobungcali okanye lomntu, ukuhamba kuya kube sekuqalile.
- Ukuba siyayiva le nto, ukuba le mvakalelo iyakhula ngaphakathi kwethu ukuba sidinga enye into, kuyakufuneka sime kwaye siyazi ukuba yeyantoni na.
- Kungenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane esinabo ngoku abusenzi sonwabe. Elula njengaleyo. Ukuthanda umntu akusoloko kufana nolonwabo, kwaye ke, nokuba siqala amaqhinga amatsha okuphucula okanye obobudlelwane, okanye siyabuphelisa ukunqanda ukubandezeleka kwixa elizayo.
Abantu banokuba neemfuno ezintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha kuba sibona ukuba asiphilanga, ukuba siphoswa yinto kwaye olu lwalamano alusiniki oko sikufunayo. Ukwazi indlela yokuyibona kubalulekile.
Ukuqonda ukuhamba kumanqanaba okuqala kubalulekile. Kuyasinyanzela ukuba sithethe, sithathe izigqibo zokuvuselela isigqibo, okanye ngokulula, ukukhetha ukwahlukana ukuze nako, musa ukuvelisa iimeko ezinokutshabalalisa kakhulu.