Ayinamsebenzi ukuba uneminyaka emingaphi, zithini izifundo zakho okanye ukuba ukhe wadibana nolwalamano olunye okanye nangaphezulu. Sonke sinokuwela kubudlelwane obunetyhefu ngaxa lithile. Isizathu soku sisoloko sithandana, kuba ngamanye amaxesha uthando oluyimfama olusenza silibale eyona nto iphambili: thina.
Ukuba sele unobuhlobo obunetyhefu Uya kwazi ukuba akukho lula ukuphuma kuzo, ukuba iqhina esiye sakha ngamanye amaxesha nomnye umntu lintsokothile kangangokuba side sifune uncedo lwabantu besithathu. Ungakhathazeki, kusoloko kunokwenzeka ukuba uqale phantsi. Namhlanje kwi Bezzia Siyakuxelela ukuba zeziphi iimpawu ezilumkisayo ekufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo.
Awuziva mnandi ngesiqu sakho
Luvakalelo lokuqala ekufuneka uluthathile ingqalelo. Ubudlelwane beemvakalelo abugcinwa kuphela ngothandoNgapha koko, zininzi izibini eziphelela ukohlukana ngelixa zisathandana.
Yintoni ubudlelwane ekufuneka busizisele yona kwindawo yokuqala yintlalontle yomntu, ukulinganisela kunye nokuzithemba. Umntu ohlala nathi makangaze "asuse" kuthi, kufuneka "afake isandla" kuthi.
Ukuba uziva yonke imihla ukuba awusebenzi ngokwexabiso lakho, oko awuziqapheli xa uthetha, xa unxiba okanye xa uthetha neqabane lakho, kukho into eyenzekayo. Awuziva mnandi ngesiqu sakho, kwaye leyo yinto yokuqala ebonisa ukuba ulwalamano olungenampilo. Ityhefu
Bavotela ukukhula kwakho
Yintoni esiyibiza ngokuba kukukhula komntu? Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubuthathele ingqalelo obu bungakanani:
- Ukukhula komntu uziva ulungelelwano kunye nawe
- Kulixabiso lokuqhubeka nokufunda yonke imihla, ukuba nemincili ngeziqu zethu nangobomi.
- Kukuba neeprojekthi zobuqu kunye nokubanakho ukuzifikelela.
- Kukuqhubeka nokukhula ngaphakathi, ukuba nemvakalelo yokuba amava onke kufanelekile.
Ukuba ecaleni kwakho unomntu obeka iindonga ezingaphezulu kweengcango, ukuba ubeka izithintelo kwiminqweno yakho, ukuba uyakuthintela ekukhuleni emsebenzini wakho okanye unxulumene nabantu ababalulekileyo kuwe: unobudlelwane obunetyhefu.
Izigqibo zihlala zivela kumntu omnye
Ayinamsebenzi nesigqibo esincinci ekufuneka sisenzile: Ngaba siya kule restyu? Ngaba ndiza kubona abahlobo bam ngale mvakwemini okanye ngomso? Ngaba siya kuhambo lokuya ebaleni kule mpelaveki? Siza kuyibona le movie?
- Ukhetho luya kuhlala luvela komnye umntu. Kwaye ngaphandle kokuba uluvo lwakho luviwe, kunokwenzeka ukuba uyakufumana ukugxekwa okanye ukugculelwa. Oku kuya kuyeka ukucebisa.
- Inokwenzeka kananjalo ukuba nangasiphi na isihlandlo uzinike ikhredithi ngokukhetha okanye isigqibo malunga nento, oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uthwale ityala elingenasiphelo kunye nobuso obubi. ("Ewe, njengoko ubufuna ukuya apha, ngoku kwenzeka ntoni", "Njengoko uhlala uneminqweno yakho, ngoku sonke sihlawula")
Ayilothando, kukuzingca, ukulawula kunye nokukhohlisa
Kungenzeka ukuba ekuqaleni, olo lwalamano lwanikezela ngeemvakalelo ezinkulu. Umnqweno wawuphezulu kakhulu, waziva wonwabile kwaye uqinisekile ukuba ekugqibeleni umfumene umntu wobomi bakho.
Ubudlelwane obunetyhefu buhlala buqala kulawulo lomntu onzima kakhulu. Bahlala bengamagcisa anobuchule bokugcungcuthekisa iimvakalelo. Bayathimba kwaye bayayazi indlela yokuchukumisa ezo ndawo zisonwabisa kakhulu, banobuhlobo kwiintsuku zokuqala, kodwa kancinci kancinci, siyabazi ngcono.
- Siyaqonda ukuba luthando olubuhlungu, olubangela iintlungu kwaye alutyebisi.
- Ukuchaphazeleka kwakhe kusekwe kukungathembani, kwaye abo bangathembiyo bafuna ukulawula. Ngenxa yoko, umona ophakamileyo kunye nesidingo sokulawula zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu ziyavela.
- Bahlala besebenzisa i-blackmail kunye nexhoba ukusigcina siphantsi kolawulo lwabo.
Bahlala bakwenza uzive unetyala
Ukuziva unetyala yimvakalelo yokuba asithandi ukushukuma kubudlelwane obunetyhefu. Kwaye i-jsutification iphindwe kabini:
- Kwelinye icala omnye umntu usenza sizive sinetyala ngokungayi kuzo, ngokungazithathi ingqalelo iimfuno zabo, izikhewu zabo, kunye nokusilela kwabo njengesibini, esingaziyo ukuba singakugubungela njani.
- Ukongeza, kwelinye icala, Siziva sinetyala ngathi. Unetyala lokungasabeli, ngokungafuni ukuphelisa olo lwalamano lusenza sonwabe, kwaye sinetyala lokuwela kubudlelwane obunetyhefu sazi yonke into esiyaziyo, nokuba ngabasetyhini abaqolileyo.
Musa ukuzibek 'ityala. Isibindi sokwenene kukuphuma kobu budlelwane nakwimfundo elandelayo esinayo kubo.
Ngaphandle kokwazi ukuba uhlala wedwa
Awazi ngenene ukuba kwenzeka njani, kodwa ukusuka kusuku olunye ukuya kolunye uyeke ukubona abahlobo bakho kakhulu, awusayi kutyelela usapho lwakho rhoqo kwaye usenokude uyeke nomsebenzi.
Ngokukhawuleza abafazi abaninzi baphela bengabathinjwa emakhayeni abo. Kwaye nangona ekuqaleni sicinga ukuba kufanelekile, ukuba sikunye nomntu esimthandayo, siyaqonda ukuba izinto esiziva ngaphakathi kuthi zikhulu kakhulu.
- Siba ziisathelayithi ezijikeleza umntu omnye.
- Izidingo zethu aziyonto iphambili, de sikholelwe ukuba ilizwi lethu alibalulekanga.
- Yonke loo nto kukhokelela kudano olukhulu kunye nelahleko enzulu kakhulu yokuzithemba
Musa ukuvumela ukuba kwenzeke. Sukukhukuliseka kubudlelwane obunetyhefu. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva abantu abakuthandayo baya kukuxelela ukuba intetho yakho ayisafani, ukuba utshintshile ... Ukuba eyona nto intle kukuzibeka phambili kwaye uphelise olo lwalamano luzisa iinyembezi ngakumbi kunoyolo.
Baphulaphule kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, nikela ingqalelo entliziyweni yakho. Ufanele ukonwaba, kufanelekile ukuba ube nguwe.