Kukangaphi ume phambi kwesipili kwaye uthi ngaphakathi, 'Andiwuthandi umzimba wam'? Ukuba uphendule uninzi, kuya kufuneka ufunde yonke into ebesiyicingile ingakumbi namhlanje. Kungenxa yokuba kubonakala ngathi iingqondo zethu kunye neemvakalelo zethu ziya kuhlala zilungisa kuyo yonke into embi, okanye encinci elungileyo, esinayo.
Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kunjalo, kodwa siqhele ukuthatha loo ndlela. Ke ngoko, kufuneka sifumane iingcebiso ezininzi ezisikhokelela kwindlela eyahlukileyo. Komnye apho ukuzithemba kuphezulu, apho kusenza sijongane ngamehlo alungileyo kwaye siziva, ngcono kakhulu. Ngaba uyafuna ukufumanisa ukuba ingantoni?
Kutheni ndingawuthandi umzimba wam
Yinto eyenzeka rhoqo kunokuba besicinga. Ngaphezulu komntu omnye kwaye ngaphezulu kwesihlandlo esinye bathi 'andiwuthandi umzimba wam' ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Oku kuqala kunakho konke kuba asithandani ngendlela esimele sithandane ngayo. Ngaphandle kokucinga ngomnye umntu, singabokuqala kwaye kufuneka sizamkele kwaye ukongeza kuloo nto, sizame ukubona konke okuhle esinako kwaye singasoloko sigxila kokubi. Kuya kufuneka ufumane icala elifanelekileyo kwaye oku kuyasebenza ngokuzithemba okuphezulu. Ke, ukuba ayisiyiyo, iya kuba yindawo yokuqala yokujongana nayo. Siza kuba neziphene ezininzi kodwa nobuhle. Kufuneka sicinge ngazo kwaye siziphucule kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Ungawamkela njani umzimba wam
Sixoxile ngayo, kodwa inyathelo lokuqala eliza kukuthatha kukuqaqambisa yonke into oyithandayo, soloko ujonga kwicandelo elilungileyo kwaye ushiye okungalunganga. Elinye inqaku elibalulekileyo ekufuneka lithathelwe ingqalelo lelo akufuneki uzithelekise nomnye umntu. Yenza uluhlu lwazo zonke izinto ezilungileyo onazo kwaye uqalise ukusebenza ngazo nangakumbi, ukuze izinto ezintle zibe zezona zigqwesa zonke ezinye.
Ukuba kukho into ongayithandiyo, zama ukufumana isisombululo esisesandleni sakho. Ungaqala ukutshintsha indlela yokunxiba, ukuyenza icace ngakumbi okanye ukhethe impilo esempilweni kodwa ungaze uyeke ukutya okanye utye kakhulu. Kungenxa yokuba ekugqibeleni siya kuzifumana sineengxaki ezinkulu zokubuyela umva okanye mhlawumbi, zokonakalisa imizimba yethu ngeendlela ezingasebenziyo. Soloko uthembele kusapho lwakho okanye kubahlobo bakho kwaye uzame ukubona ezona zinto zibalulekileyo ebomini, ugxile kwiinjongo zakho. Sukucinga kwaye ungavumeli mntu akuxelele ukuba ubakha njani ubomi bakho.
Ungawuphucula njani umzimba ngokwakho
Sele sithathe amanyathelo okuqala kwinqanaba elidlulileyo kwaye ngoku siza kuwagqibezela, kuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ushiye ngasemva ukuba andiwuthandi umzimba wam kwaye ndiqala ukukhankanya amanye amabinzana amahle.
- Fumana ukugxila kwale 'ngxaki' isengqondweni yakho. Kungenxa yokuba nganye inokusonjululwa. Ngoncedo, ngotshintsho lwembono, mhlawumbi ngobomi obunempilo, njl.
- Yinike ukubalasela okufanelwe ngumzimba wakho. Ngaba uyazi ukuba yonke imihla inoluhlu loxanduva olukugcina apho? Ewe, funda ukubabulela.
- Utshintsho olunye lomfanekiso alunakuba luncedo ekuhambeni kwexesha kodwa luya kujonga iimpahla, izimbo kunye nokunye okusenza siziva sikhululekile.
- Kuya kufuneka ubeke ecaleni zonke izimvo, iifashoni kunye nezimvo zoluntu ukuba ubona. Ke akulunganga ukuzithelekisa. Umntu ngamnye kuthi uyazikhanyisela kwaye olo khanyiso kufuneka silugcine ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Kuyinyani ukuba bubomi obunye kuphela kwaye sichitha isiqingatha silele, ngoko ke kufuneka sisebenzise konke okuseleyo. Ukusebenza kweendlela zethu, izimvo zethu kunye nokuzithemba ngokubanzi, siya kufezekisa iinjongo zethu. Ngaba siza kuqala?