Mhando yekunamatira iyo mwana anogashira kubva kuvabereki vake ichava nesimba rakananga pakukura nekukura kwemwana. Ndicho chikonzero nei tichifanira kupa kukosha kwakakosha kune yakataurwa kubatanidzwa uye chisungo chakagadzirwa panguva yehudiki.
Muchinyorwa chinotevera tinotaura nezvemhando dzakasiyana dzekunamatira dziripo uye yehunhu hweumwe neumwe wavo.
Attachment uye makirasi ayo
Kubatana hachisi chinhu kunze kwechisungo chinozosimbiswa pakati pemwana nevabereki vake. Hazvisi zvese zvakabatanidzwa zvakafanana nekuti pachange paine akati wandei ane hunhu hwavo uye mutsauko:
Chibatiso chakachengeteka
Murudzi urwu rwekubatana mune kutaurirana kukuru uye nguva dzose kuratidza rudo pakati pevabereki nevana. Mukubatana kwakachengeteka, vana vane kuzvivimba kukuru, sezvo vachiziva kuti havasi voga uye kuti vanovimba nerubatsiro rwevabereki nguva dzose. Mirangariro inogoverwa navose vari vaviri vana navabereki vamene. Mukusungirirwa kwakachengeteka, kuzvimiririra uye kusununguka kwevaduku kunotsvakwa. Pasina kupokana ndiyo inokurudzirwa uye inokurudzirwa kubatana maererano nedzidzo yevana.
kusachengeteka attachment
Murudzi urwu rwekubatana hakuna kuratidzwa kwakawanda kwerudo pakati pevabereki nevana. Izvi zvinokonzera kusachengeteka kukuru uye kushaya chivimbo mudiki, zvinogona kutungamirira kumamiriro ekufunganya. Mukati meiyi kirasi yekubatanidza mune kusachengeteka-kudzivisa kusungirirwa uye kusachengeteka-kushushikana-ambivalent kusungirirwa. Muchiitiko chekutanga, mudiki anodzivirira nhamba yevabereki zvakanyanya sezvinobvira. Muchiitiko chechipiri, mwana haakwanisi kuita chero rudzi rwekuita pasina rubatsiro rwevabereki vavo uye anoratidza kushayikwa kwakajeka uye kwakajeka kwekuzvimirira.
disorganized attachment
Rudzi urwu rwekubatanidza runowanzo kupihwa kune mamiriro akadai sekubatwa zvisina kunaka kana kushungurudzwa nevabereki. Vana vanoona baba vacho semunhu ane ngozi, zvichikonzera kufunganya kukuru kana kutya. Kubatana kwerudzi urwu kune kukanganisa kwakashata pakukura kwevana, zvichiita kuti vatambure nezvinetso zvakakomba zvemaitiro uye maitiro.
Kuti rudzi rwekunamatira rwunokanganisa sei hupenyu hwevanhu vakuru
Pane hukama hwakananga pakati pekunamatirwa uko vana vanogashira muhuduku uye kukura kwemamwe magariro epfungwa pavanosvika pakukura. Munyaya yekusungirirwa kwakachengeteka kune kugadzikana kukuru pahutano hwepfungwa uye kuzviremekedza kwakasimba uye kuzvivimba. Izvi zvichabatsira mwana kuti abudirire muhupenyu uye akure achifunga zvakakosha zvakakosha setsitsi, ruremekedzo kana rudo.
Muchiitiko chekubatana kusina kuchengeteka, mwana paanosvika pakukura angave ane matambudziko nekuchengeteka uye vanotambura nezvimwe zvirwere zvine chokuita nekuzvidya mwoyo kana kuora mwoyo.
Kusarongeka kubatanidzwa kunogona kukonzera kumwe kuomerwa mukudzora manzwiro uye kutsamira kwakasimba mupfungwa kune wawakaroorana naye ari mukuru. Kune zvimwe zviitiko zvakanyanyisa izvo zvinogona kukura zvimwe zvirwere zvakakomba zvakadai sebipolar.
Muchidimbu, Kunamatira kunoita basa rinokosha mukukura kwemunhu sezvaanokura. Vabereki vanofanira kuve nechokwadi nguva dzose kugadzira chisungo nevana vavo kubva murudo nerudo uye kukurudzira kuzvimiririra kwevana vavo. Mukati memhando dzekubatanidza dziripo, kusungirirwa kwakachengeteka ndiko kwakanyanya kufanira kuiswa mukuita panguva yehudiki.