Mumwe muvanhu vatatu akabata nemumwe ane chepfu mudiwa kana nhengo yemhuri ine chepfu. Kusiya hukama hune chepfu hwakaoma, asi kugara muhumwe zvakatooma! Usati waenda mune ruzivo rwekuti ungazviparadzanise sei nevanhu ava, ngatitsanangure huturu kubva kune yakasarudzika maonero ... Kune mhando mbiri dzevanhu vari muhukama hune chepfu: iyo narcissistic uye empathic.
Iye narcissist munhu anozvibata-ega anogara achitsvaga mvumo uye anoshandisa nzira dzese dzinodiwa kuti awane chaanoda. Hunhu hwakadai hunosanganisira kubata, kushungurudza / kutuka, kutamba munhu akuvara, nezvimwe. Muhukama, narcissist inoshanduka kuita chamupupuri, kuyamwa ese akasimba emuviri uye emweya simba kubva kune chero iye waanotarisa kwaari.
Iyo empath ndeye munhu anowanzoisa kuisa zvinodiwa nevamwe pamberi kune zvako zvaunoda. Ivo vanhu vanofunga, vanonzwira tsitsi, uye vane rudo rwechokwadi vanhu vanomira pane chero chinhu kuunza mufaro kune avo vavanoda.
Kana iri mune ine chepfu mamiriro, iyo empath inowanzo tora ese asina kunaka simba (panyama uye nemanzwiro) uye pakupedzisira inodonha. Vanhu ava vanonzwa zvakanyanya kupfuura munhu wepakati uye zvakaoma kwavari kuti vapore pavanodhonzwa nanyaradzi.
Shamwari, vatinoshanda navo, vanun'una, hama dzemhuri dzakakura, uye kunyange vabereki vanogona kuwira mune chero ezvikamu uye zvakaoma kuona mumwe munhu padhuze newe achichinja zvakanyanya kubva kune akajeka uye anofara munhu achienda kugobvu ravo rekare. Neraki, pane tariro. Hapana chisingaperi. Kusiya hukama hune chepfu hakusi nyore, Asi kana iwe ukafamba zvachose nekusingaperi, hupenyu huchave hukuru zvakare.
Tarisa kuti munhu ane muchetura akaita sei chaizvo
Chero ani zvake anogona kuve munhu ane chepfu muhupenyu hwako. Ingori nyaya yekuwana maonero. Ukatarisa munhu uyu, unobva watanga kuona kuti munhu wacho haasi zvaanozviti iye. Hunhu hwese husina kunaka uye hunhu zvinowanzo kuratidza zviri nyore kwazvo paunotanga kuona uyu munhu muchiedza chitsva.
Funga nezvaJanus, mwari wechiRoma ane zviso zviviri. Munhu ane chepfu muhupenyu hwako anove aine mavara maviri: iyo yavanowanzo taridza pavanenge vainawe uye yakanyanyisa inonyangadza inobuda kune vamwe muhupenyu hwako. Paunoshandisa chirevo ichi chaJanus kune icho iwe chaunoda kuzviparadzanisa nacho kubva, chero chinongedzo chavanoisa pamberi pako chinoputsika uye chavo chaicho chinobuda.
Kusiya hukama hune chepfu panguva inononoka asi yakadzikama
Kusiya hukama hune chepfu hwakaoma sekusiya zvakaipa kamwechete. Kana iwe ukacheka zvisungo kamwechete, munhu ane chepfu anowanzo shanda zvakanyanya kukuchengeta uri pasi pavo. Y, kunge munhu akapindwa muropa achitsvaga mhinduro, iwe unozodzoreredza wobva wadzokera zvakare mumapatani akafanana zvakare.
Kutanga nekudzora huwandu hwenguva yaunoshandisa nemunhu uyu kune rimwe zuva / husiku pavhiki, wozochinja zvishoma nezvishoma kusvika kamwe chete mumasvondo maviri. Zvinotaridza kunge zvinorema pakutanga, asi kana ukashanda nesimba uye chengeta chinhambwe chako zvishoma nezvishoma, mamiriro acho anodzorwa zvishoma nezvishoma.
Shandisa chero pembedzo yaunofunga kufunga yekuganhurira iyo nguva yaunoshandisa nemunhu ane chepfu - iwe unofanirwa kungoona kuti zvine musoro kuti varege kubvuma zviri nyore zvirongwa zvako zvekuparadzana. Zvakare, sefa mafoni ako uye mameseji kana zvichidikanwa. Haisi mhosva kusarudza kusabatana nemumwe munhu. Hupenyu hwako ndehwako uye wakasununguka kurarama nahwo sezvaunoda.