Mhlawumbe awuzange ube nenhlanhla ngobungani kepha ufuna ukwenza abangane abasha, Ngalokhu, kubalulekile ukuthi ube uhlobo lomuntu ofuna ukumheha empilweni yakho. Ungagxili ekubhekeni kwabanye kuphela ngezimfanelo ocabanga ukuthi zikulungela kakhulu, yiba yisibonelo salolo hlobo lomuntu!
Yenza abangane abasha
Lapho wenza abangane abasha, akunakugwenywa ukuthi uzoshiya abanye abangane bakho bakudala abangase bangabe besakunika konke okufanele noma uvele wabona ukuthi abakuphathi ngendlela efanele. Noma ungakuqapheli kuze kube yiminyaka kamuva, ukuphela kobungane kungaba kuhle ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Uma ungeke ukwazi ukubuyisana nomngani, ungabakhulula babenzele obunye ubungani nokuhlangenwe nakho okumangalisayo esikhathini esizayo. Ukuthola laba bangani abasha, okuhle ukuqala ngokuzibheka ngaphakathi kwakho nangokuzibuza imibuzo embalwa: Yiziphi ezinye izindinganiso ezibalulekile kuwe lapho ufuna abangane abasha? Yiziphi ezinye zezici ezibalulekile onazo, onethemba lokuthi nabangane bakho abasha banazo? Yimaphi amafulegi abomvu angakuxwayisa ukuthi abangane abasha kungenzeka bangabi nempilo?
Yenza njengabangani ofuna ukuheha
Lapho usukwazi ukuthi hlobo luni lwabangane olifunayo, indlela elula yokuheha lezo zinhlobo zabangane ukuthi ube yilolo hlobo lomngane. Ufuna futhi ukuzizungeza nabantu abakwemukela lokho oyikho ukuze wakhe ubungani beqiniso futhi obuhlala njalo.
Hlola ukuthi iyini incazelo yakho yobungani. Lapho usukwazi ukuthi ufuna ukubonwa futhi uzwakale kanjani, ungawubona kalula umehluko phakathi kobungane beqiniso nobo mbumbulu. Indlela enhle yokwazi uhlobo lwabantu ofuna ukuba umngani ukuzethula ngokujoyina amakilabhu, amaqembu, noma izinto zokuzilibazisa, okungakuvumela ukuthi uhlangane nabantu abasha.
Kumele futhi ukhulume nabantu ongeke ukhangwe kubo ngoba ungahle uhlangane nabo kakhulu kunendlela ocabanga ngayo. Yize kubalulekile ukuthi ube nokufana okuthile nabangane bakho, ukufuna 'iwele lakho lokuphila' akudingekile. Esikhundleni salokho, hlukanisa izinhlobo zabantu ohlanganyela nabo. Ngokwenza kanjalo, uzofunda kabanzi ngawe futhi izinhlobo zabangane ofuna ukuba nabo empilweni yakho.
Unquma ukubaluleka kwakho
Ngenkathi ufuna ukuba nabangane abakukhuthazayo futhi bengeze izindinganiso ezinhle empilweni yakho, ekugcineni, kufanele wazi ukuthi inani lakho alinqunywa abanye abantu. Uma othile ekhetha ukungabi umngani wakho, isikhathi esiningi kusuke kungukubonakaliswa kwakhe hhayi kwakho.
Ungavumeli umuntu wehlise ukuzihlonipha kwakho ngoba kunabantu abaningi abazokuthanda futhi bafune ukuba ngumngane wakho njengoba unjalo. Ufanele abangane abafuna ukuba sempilweni yakho. Ufanele ukuthandwa futhi ungowokwanele futhi wenele, njengoba unjalo. Ungazami ukuba yilokho ongekho ukuze nje uthokozise.
Noma ngabe ucabanga ukuthi unezinkinga zobungani noma ukuthi lezi zinkinga zikuthinta kakhulu kunesidingo, unganqikazi ukufuna usizo kuchwepheshe ukuze akuqondise ekuthuthukiseni amakhono akho kwezenhlalo.