Ungazenza kanjani izitha zakho zikuthande

cela umusa

Ukuba nezitha kuyingxenye yempilo. Inzondo ingahlanganiswa ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene futhi ingavela kubangani, umndeni, osebenza nabo noma ofunda nabo, ophathina noma ama-troll ongawathola ku-inthanethi. Imvamisa izitha ziyingxenye engemihle kakhulu yempumelelo, uma unokuthile okuhle empilweni yakho, abanye bazokuhalela bese beqala ukukuzonda.

Uma uhlakaniphile, unomzimba omuhle, unezimpahla ezibonakalayo ezinomona, awushadile, unomsebenzi owuthandayo… Noma yisiphi isizathu sanele ukuthi umuntu onomona aqale ukukuzonda. Kepha ungakhathazeki, ngoba noma yini oyenzayo kuyohlale kunomuntu ofuna ukukugxeka noma akuzonde.

Ungakuqaphela ngezinkulumo ezibhuqayo, ukubukeka kabi, imibono engemihle ezinkundleni zokuxhumana noma uze uzizwe uxinekile lapho ukhuluma nomuntu okucatshangwa ukuthi ungumngane wakho bese uthola ukuthi ngokuzumayo, uqala ukukugxeka ngemuva. Abantu abaningi bazokutshela ukuthi ungazinaki izitha zakho, futhi lokho kulungile. Bayingxenye yempilo, kepha ungaba nokuhlakanipha okukhulu bese uguqula ezinye zalezo zitha zibe abangane. Ngisho nabo ngeke bakholwe.

Cela umusa; kulula kanjalo

Indlela esheshayo nelula yokuguqula isitha sibe ngumngani ukubacela umusa. Kuyindlela ecwaningwe kahle yokusebenza kwengqondo. Uma ucela abantu ongabasekeli ukuthi bakusize, shintsha umbono wabo ngobudlelwano futhi kubenza bakubone njengomngane kunokuba isitha.

Ukucela umusa kwenziwa kuphela kubangani. Awuwenzi umusa noma uwacele ezitheni noma kumuntu ongamthandi. Konke lokhu kuhlobene nokudideka kwengqondo. Kunokuthambekela kwabantu kokumisa ukungaguquguquki okuthile ezinkolelweni zabo, emigomweni nasemibonweni yabo, lapho izimo zengqondo nokuziphatha kungahambelani, bese kuvela ukungaboni ngaso linye.

Ubuchopho budinga ukuqeda i-dissonance. Ubuchopho buziphatha njengomuntu obuka ngaphandle. Qhubeka ubheke futhi uhlolisise izenzo zakho bese udala izincazelo zokuthi kungani wenza lokho okwenzayo. I-Dissonance yenzeka kakhulu ezimweni lapho umuntu kufanele akhethe phakathi kwezinkolelo ezimbili noma izenzo ezingahambelani. Ngakho-ke kulokhu, inkolelo enengqondo ukuthi ukuthandwa kungokwabangani. Lapho ucela umusa ezitheni, udala ukungajabuli futhi isitha kufanele siguqule umbono waso ngawe ukuze sizibuze lowo mbuzo futhi siqede ukungahambelani.

abesifazane nabangane

Ukucela umusa nakho kuyindlela ecashile yokuthopha. Ukucela umusa kuvumela isitha ukuthi sizizwe sengathi sinokuthile esingenakho. Linganisa inkundla yokudlala engqondweni yakho. Kwenza nesitha sizizwe sithandwa futhi sihlonishwa. Ngakho-ke abafuni ukukusiza kuphela kepha futhi bazoqala ukukubona ngokuhlukile. Inzondo iyashabalala unganakile.

Usuvele ucabangele ukuthi ngubani ozocela umusa kusukela manje? Ungacabangi ukuthi uyehlisa wena, usebenza kuphela iqembu labangane bakho ngakho-ke akudingeki uzizwe sengathi othile ukuzonda, nganoma yisiphi isizathu. Khumbula ukwazisa usizo olutholile.


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  1. Ubhekele imininingwane: Miguel Ángel Gatón
  2. Inhloso yedatha: Lawula Ugaxekile, ukuphathwa kwamazwana.
  3. Ukusemthethweni: Imvume yakho
  4. Ukuxhumana kwemininingwane: Imininingwane ngeke idluliselwe kubantu besithathu ngaphandle kwesibopho esisemthethweni.
  5. Isitoreji sedatha: Idatabase ebanjwe yi-Occentus Networks (EU)
  6. Amalungelo: Nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ungakhawulela, uthole futhi ususe imininingwane yakho.