Ngabe umlingani wakho wakutshela ukuthi uyakuthanda futhi engazi ukuthi kungani enyamalele empilweni yakho? Sikutshela okungenzeka ukuthi kwenzekile ukuze kususwe. Akukho okungaba kubi ukwedlula ukubuka umfana, amasonto noma mhlawumbe izinyanga bese kuthi usuku olulodwa, linyamalale ngokuzumayo. Ukuma kwezingcingo, imiyalezo evame kakhulu, futhi awusoze wambona. Lapho nje izinto ziqhubeka kahle, yonke into iyama futhi akasekho.
Uma lokhu kwenzeka, ukusabela kwethu kokuqala ukufuna ukwazi ukuthi kungani. Sifuna izizathu; sifuna ukukhuluma ngakho ukuze siyiqonde kangcono. Lapho-ke usuyakwazi, ungaqhubeka.
Kungani inyamalale?
Okokuqala, ukhiye ukuthola imbangela yokunyamalala kwakhe kungazelelwe. Ngabe bekunciphisa kancane ukuxhumana nawe isikhathi esithile, kunyamalala kancane kancane empilweni yakho? Noma ingabe ivele ngokuzumayo, ngaphandle kwesixwayiso? Kungaba nezizathu eziningi ezahlukahlukene zokuthi kungani kukushiye uphakeme futhi womile.
Ungahle wesabe ukuzibophezela. Bangase bathande ukungashadi ngokweqile futhi abafuni ukukuyeka. Kwesinye isikhathi abesilisa bathanda ukungashadi, ngakho-ke baba nomuzwa wokuthi basebenzisa ngokugcwele ubusha babo. Bangase bangafuni ukuzizwa sengathi baboshiwe noma babhajwe ebudlelwaneni, ngakho-ke banqume ukuhlehla kancane.
Noma mhlawumbe kungenzeka ukuthi ukusondela lapho ezwa khona kusondela kuwe, ukusabela kwakhe kwemvelo kwaba ukuhamba nokuzivikela ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi angazilimaza ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Mhlawumbe wazizwa engakhululekile ukuxoxa ngokuthile nawe, ngakho-ke ukusabela kwakhe edolweni kwakuwukukuxosha. Wake walinyazwa esikhathini esedlule? Ingabe ukulungele ubuhlobo? Ukwesaba ukuzibophezela kwesikhathi eside? Lena yonke imibuzo okufanele uzibuze yona.
Ngokuqinisekile kuyisizathu esingahle sichaze ukunyamalala kwabo, kepha uwena kuphela umuntu ozoba nomqondo omuhle uma kunjalo. Kungenzeka angakuthandi ngendlela efanele. Kuzwakala kunokhahlo futhi kunjalo, kepha akuhlangene nakancane nawe. Ngesizathu esithile, angahle abone ukuthi akakuthandi njengoba ebecabanga kuqala.
Mhlawumbe uhlangane nomunye umuntu noma wabona ukuthi awubonanga izinto ziya noma kuphi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi wavele wanyamalala. Imvamisa ukwehlukana namantombazane kuyingxoxo abafana abayesabayo, ngakho-ke bafuna ukuthatha indlela elula yokuphuma futhi bagweme isihloko ngokuphelele.
Bafuna ukuqhubekela phambili, futhi kwesinye isikhathi bangahle bangazi kahle ukuthi kungani bengaseneliseki ngobudlelwano babo. Abafuni ukuvuma ukuthi abanazo zonke izimpendulo, ngakho-ke vele ushiye izinto zingaphenduliwe. Kungenzeka ukuthi ubonile ukuthi usuqala ukukhombisa intshisekelo ethe xaxa futhi yena waphela intshisekelo. Mhlawumbe wayegajwe yilolo thakazelo. Udinga ukuxhumana njengomuntu ovela endaweni eqinile, ngakho-ke kwenze kucace ukuthi uyamthanda kepha ukuthi awukulungele ukuhlala ulinde, ngaphandle kokuthi bazizwe ngendlela efanayo ngawe.
Lapho nje othile ecabanga ukuthi umile, kulapho asusa khona unyawo ku-pedal. Baqala ukucabanga ukuthi uzohlala ukhona, noma yini eyenzekayo, futhi yilapho beyeka khona ukujaha bese beqala ukunyamalala.