Uthando nokudabuka ... Ngabe kuhambisana njalo?

Uthando nokudabuka (Kopisha)

Uma ungomunye walabo abacabanga ukuthi uthando nokudabuka kuhlala kuhlobene ngandlela thile, lapho-ke kungukuthi sisondela ebudlelwaneni bethu obuthintekayo ngendlela engafanele. Yize kuliqiniso ukuthi imibhangqwana eminingi iyaluthola lolu muzwa, lokhu akuyona into okufanele siyilindele. Ukuba yizithandani kuyaceba, kuyakhula nsuku zonke futhi kujabulela ibhalansi yethu ngabanye kanye nokuhlangene.

Uthando nokudabuka akufanele kuhlobene. Uma sihlangabezana nalo muzwa, ngukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle, ngukuthi kunesici esithile okufanele sizame ukusixazulula nomlingani wethu. Usizi olwamukelwayo futhi oluhlala isikhathi eside, lusigwebela imizwa engemihle lokho kungasigcwalisa ngokungabi nathemba ebudlelwaneni bethu obuthintekayo ngokujwayelekile, noma kusifake ekucindezelekeni. Ungakuvumeli lokho kwenzeke.

Uthando nokudabuka, inhlanganisela ebhubhisayo

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Kwesinye isikhathi sikujwayela lokho kudana okuncane kwansuku zonke. Siyavala umlomo, asisho lutho futhi siyakuvumela kudlule ngoba uthando lunamandla futhi sizitshela lokho "Ukuthi ukwesula emsebenzini kuwufanele."

Akufanelekile, sichaza ukuthi kungani:

  • Umqondo wokuthi uthando nokudabuka kuhlobene njalo kuvela kumqondo wakudala futhi ongasasebenzi "wothando lwezithandani." Ngokwalo mbono wakudala, umbono wagcinwa wokuthi lapho uhlupheka kakhulu, ukuthanda kakhulu. Lo mbhangqwana uhlala ebudlelwaneni lapho ukuncika kuphelele, futhi lapho umona, ngokwesibonelo, uyisibonakaliso sothando lwabo.
  • Noma yikuphi ukwesula okwenzela umlingani wakho kumele kuvunyelwane ngakho nobabili. Uma unikela, kungokushintshana ngokuthize. Ungesabi ukubona le ndlela njengento ewubugovu, ngoba bonke ubudlelwano obunempilo busho ukufinyelela ezivumelwaneni, kusho ukuba yiqembu hhayi amalungu amabili lapho elinye liwina elinye lihlala lilahlekelwa njalo.
  • Uma kunokuthile okukuphatha kabi, okukucasulayo noma okwephula izindinganiso zakho, kuveze ngokuzwakalayo. Kuyadingeka ukuthi sixhumane nakho konke okusizwisa ubuhlungu, ngoba uma kungenjalo, baba amanxeba angaphakathi aphula ukuzethemba kwethu.

Yini esiyiqondayo ngokudabuka ebudlelwaneni bethu obuthintekayo?

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Sonke sazi kahle kamhlophe ukuthi kunjani lapho usizi lusisinda. Kuyacaca ukuthi yilowo nalowo uzohlangabezana nakho ngandlela thile, kukhona labo abasebenza ngokuqina, basebenzise amasu afanele, nalabo labo, ngokwesigaba sabo, badinga isikhathi sokuhlukaniswa "ukuze bakhe kabusha."

Manje, kumongo wobudlelwano balezi zithandani, ukudabuka cishe kuhlala kunqunywa ngezindlela ezimbili:

Ukudabuka ngokuqeda ubuhlobo

Kungokuhlangenwe nakho okuvame kakhulu, futhi ngandlela thile obehlale kwenza "uthando nokudabuka" kuxhumene kakhulu:

  • Sithola ukudumala, ukuhlulwa, kanye nokulahlekelwa ngumdlandla wokuqala ubudlelwano obusha.
  • Usizi olubhekana nobudlelwano obuhlulekile alunqotshwanga kusuka osukwini olulodwa kuye kolandelayo. Kudinga inqubo yokwenza ngcono lapho sidinga amasu amaningi angaphakathi, futhi kwesinye isikhathi nokuxhaswa kwangaphandle.
  • Indlela esinqobe ngayo izosenza sigcine umbono owodwa noma omunye ngobudlelwano obuthintekayo. Noma ngubani okunqobile ngobuqotho, ezuza ukufunda ngalokho abahlangabezane nakho, uzokwazi ukubuyisa inkohliso yothando.
  • Obambe igqubu, uyisigqila semizwa yakhe, ngakho-ke kuvamile ukuhlobanisa "uthando nokudabuka." Akufanelekile, akufanele sisondele kukho konke okuhlangenwe nakho ngombono ovulekile, lapho sifunda khona, lapho siphuma siqiniswe nganoma iyiphi indlela.

Uthando nokudabuka ebudlelwaneni obuthembele kuye

Imibhangqwana eyaziyo ngokudabuka kwayo, ukuphoxeka kwayo kwansuku zonke futhi engazixazululi izinkinga zayo, iyisibonelo esicacile sobudlelwano obuthembele.

  • Kwesinye isikhathi siyasungula ubudlelwano lapho yize sazi ukuthi "asizizwa kahle", ukuthi "kunezinyembezi eziningi kunokumamatheka", asikwazi ukusabela. Isizathu? Siyaqhubeka nokumthanda lowo muntu, yize kuyimbangela yokudabuka kwethu.
  • Ukuzizwa udabukile, udumele noma unesizungu, akuhambisani neqiniso lokuthi usemathandweni. Futhi kulele lapho inkinga yangempela. Kwesinye isikhathi asifuni ukubuphula ubudlelwano ngoba ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa othandekayo kudlula nokungajabuli kwethu. Kuyinto enzima kakhulu.

Ubudlelwano budinga ukuqashelwa, ukuhloniphana nokuphindana njalo okususelwa kwimizwa emihle.

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Akekho umuntu ofanelwe ubudlelwano lapho kunezinsuku ezimpunga kakhulu kunezikhathi zokugcwaliseka. Ukuba nomuntu ukujabula, ukuqala indlela ejwayelekile lapho siphumelela khona sobabili futhi kungalahlekelwa muntu.

  • Awukuvumeli ukunqotshwa ubudlelwano obungaphumelelanga. Okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle, lapho othile ekuzwise ubuhlungu noma engazange abe yilokho obukulindele, akufanele kuvale amathemba akho unomphela.
  • Uthando nokudabuka akufanele kuhambisane. Lo mbono ungowezincwadi, wama-movie wokuphela okubuhlungu. Ubudlelwano bezithandani kufanele bujabulele ukucebiswa nsuku zonke, futhi uma ukudabuka kufika kwesinye isikhathi, kungumthwalo wethu ukubhekana nakho.
  • Imizwelo engemihle iyizitha ezimbi kakhulu ekuzethembeni nasekuthembekeni kwethu. Ungalokothi ucabange ukuthi kuyinto ejwayelekile ukudabuka ngokuthanda umuntu, noma ukuthi ukudabuka kufanele kube yingxenye yempilo yakho lapho nihlukana.

Zijabulise ngawe, ukhathazeke ngenhlalakahle yakho nangebhalansi yakho. Uma ujabulile futhi uyaziqhenya ngawe, uzokwazi ukunikeza injabulo kwabanye, futhi, uzosabela ngamandla kulezo zimo ezimbi impilo engasiletha zona ngezikhathi ezithile.


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  1.   UCatalina Sagredo kusho

    Ngiyavuma ukuthi uthando olunempilo alusoze lwaba nokuhlupheka, ukuncika kanye nokusula emsebenzini. Kodwa-ke, ngicabanga ukuthi lokho abanye abantu abakuqondayo "ngothando lwezithandani" akuchazwa kahle. Ukuba nothando akukona ukuzithoba, ungathanda impilo futhi ube nothando. Ukwanga!