Kungenzeka ukuthi bobabili abazali bakho nabalingani bakho babangela ukungezwani ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ngendlela obumangalisa ngayo ubudlelwano, nabo bungaba nzima kakhulu. Okokugcina enikudingayo nobabili ukuthi abazali benu noma abasemzini benze izinto zingahambi kahle ebudlelwaneni benu. Noma kunjalo, ukuqaphela akulula njengoba kufanele kube njalo. Kunezinkinga eziningi ezivamile ezidalwa ngabazali bakho noma abasekhweni. Lezi zinkinga zidala ukungezwani okuningi, izingxabano, nokungavumelani ebudlelwaneni.
Uma uzizwa sengathi abazali bakho noma abasekhweni lakho ngandlela thile bangena ebuhlotsheni bobudlelwano bakho, funda uqhubeke ukuvimbela ukuthi kungenzeki.
Lapho zingena kakhulu
Ake sithi abazali bakho noma abasekhweni lakho bayaphazamisa kakhulu. Ziza zingabikelwanga ngaso sonke isikhathi, zizama njalo ukungena ezinhlelweni zakho, zihlasele isikhala sakho nesomlingani wakho. Kukholwe noma ungakukholwa, noma ngabe ama-sitcom nemithombo yezindaba kuveza lokhu njengokungafunwa yimibhangqwana, abazali bahlala bekwenza. Lokhu kuvamile impela.
Wena nomlingani wakho kufanele nikhulume ngalesi simo. Kubalulekile ukukhuluma utshele umlingani wakho ukuthi udinga ukwethembeka okungaphezulu nendawo phakathi kwenu. Uzodinga futhi ukugcizelela ukuthi ukuvakasha okungalindelekile kuzizwa kungenelela kanjani.
Kuzofanele ubacele ukuthi bashaye ucingo ngaphambi kokuba baye ekhaya futhi baye kancane uma kunesidingo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuzofanele ukhumbule imikhawulo nemithetho, ikakhulukazi uma uzwa ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi isendlini yakho. Ngale ndlela, nobabili nomlingani wakho ningajabulela ukuba nobumfihlo obuningi futhi isikhala ekhaya lakho.
Uma abazali noma abasekhweni bengakuhloniphi lokhu, kufanele ukugcizelele ngokwengeziwe, futhi ubatshele nokuthi bayeke ukuza isikhashana. Yebo, lokho kungaba nzima futhi ngabazali bakho noma abasekhweni, kepha udinga ukugxila futhi wenze okulungile ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Izipho ezinencazelo ephindwe kabili
Yize abazali bakho nabasekhweni lakho bengakunika izipho ezinhle njengamaholide, imali yendlu noma ukuthinta okuhle nje, kuza ngentengo. Lawo maholide anekamelo elihlanganayo, futhi indlu abakusiza kuyo bazoyivakashela nsuku zonke. Noma ungabakhokheleli ngemali, ubakhokhela ngokubayekela bangene futhi bakhungatheke.
Yize zinhle lezi zipho, okufanele ukwenze njengendlela yokukhokha kuhloniphekile. Lokhu sekuqala ukubalimaza kakhulu ubudlelwano bakho. Okusho ukuthi, wena nomlingani wakho kufanele niyeke ukwamukela lezi zipho futhi nibatshele ukuthi leso simo nizokwazi ukusisingatha ninodwa. Okungukuthi, Ngeke uzizwe uphoqelekile ukuthi ubekezelele le ndlela yokuziphatha edala ingcindezi ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Anibona abazali benu
Abazali bakho noma abasebukhweni bakho bangahle bangavumelani nezinqumo zakho. FUTHILokhu akusho ukuthi ukukhetha kwakho akulungile, empeleni, akukubi neze. Inkinga ukuthi lolu khetho yilona abangazange baluthathe noma abangalwamukelanga. Le yinkinga enkulu ngoba uma unezinkinga ngokukhetha kwakho, uzokwazi ukuzwa noma yimuphi umbono ngakho. Lokhu kudala ubunzima obukhulu empilweni yakho, kanye nobudlelwano.
Iningi labantu lithi abazali babo abasamukeli isinqumo sabo ngokuya ngomsebenzi wabo, lapho behlala khona, abakwenzayo nomlingani wabo, noma nendlela yabo yokuphila. Kunoma ikuphi, lokhu akufanele kube njalo. Nobabili kufanele nihlale phansi nikhulume nabo. Kufanele ubatshele ukuthi bakwenza uzizwe kanjani lapho benza lokhu, usebenzise izibonelo zalokho abakushilo, bese ubatshela ukuthi abayeke.
Kufanele ubatshele nokuthi impilo yakho, hhayi eyabo, nokuthi lezi zinqumo ngezakho hhayi ezabo. Kufanele futhi ugcizelele ukuthi ungathanda ukwesekwa kwabo, futhi uma ungenakho ngoba kuyinto abangeke bayenze, lapho-ke awudingi ukuzwa noma yimiphi imibono engemihle.