Sonke sidlulile izikhathi ezinzima ngenxa yokulahlekelwa noma ubudlelwano obuhlulekile lapho sigcine sihlupheka khona. Umuntu ufunda kokuhlangenwe nakho yingakho ubudlelwano obusha bungeke bufane nobokuqala noma bangaphambilini. Kuyinto yethu ukuthi sifunde kokuhle futhi sigweme okubi, sikhule ngokuhlangenwe nakho futhi singabavumeli basisize uma kukhulunywa ngokujabulela ubudlelwano obuhle.
Uma uke wahlupheka ngokwehlukana futhi uyakwesaba kungenzeka kobudlelwano obusha, kungadingeka ukuthi ume ukuze ucabange futhi usethe kabusha. Lesi yisikhathi esibalulekile sokukhula komuntu okungafanele sithathwe kalula, njengoba wonke umuntu edinga umzuzu wosizi nokuphulukiswa ukuqala kabusha ubudlelwano nomunye umuntu.
Ubudlelwano ohlulekile
Uma ubudlelwano bakho behlulekile futhi uhlupheke nabo, kungaba ngoba bekushiyile noma ngoba konke sekuphelile, iqiniso ukuthi lokhu kungakwenza asambe ukwenza amaphutha afanayo futhi futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ukuhlupheka futhi. Uma usenomuzwa wokuthi awukabunqobi ngokuphelele ubudlelwano bangaphambilini, iseluleko sethu akusikho ukuthi ungagxumela kobusha ngethemba lokuthi kuzogcwalisa igebe elashiywa owedlule. Lokhu akusebenzi ngenxa yokuthi kufanele kube nguyena ogcwalisa leli gebe nalokhu okungenalutho, ukuze akwazi ukuqala ubudlelwane obunempilo ngokuphelele ngaphandle kokuncika komunye umuntu.
Isikhathi sokuphulukisa
Ungazithola usesikhathini lapho ubuhlungu sebudambe okuthile futhi usuqala ukugxila ezintweni ezintsha. Lokhu yi umzuzwana wakho lapho uzoqala khona ukuthola lezo zinto othanda ukuzenza wedwa, izinto zokuzilibazisa okade uzikhohliwe nezinselelo ezintsha kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho. Kungumzuzu okufanele wonke umuntu adlule kuwo, ngoba ngaphandle kwalokhu sizophinde sibe nokwesaba okukhulu ukuthi ubudlelwano buzokwehluleka futhi sizoba sodwa futhi. Lapho ukukhula kwethu kungokomuntu siqu, siphinde sibe nokuzwelana nathi futhi sithandane ngokwanele, ngeke kuphinde kudingeke ukuba sibe sodwa futhi, ngoba lokhu kwanele. Sizothatha ubudlelwano njengendlela yokukhula nomuntu, sihambe ngakubo futhi sijabulele izinto ezintsha, kepha sihlala sikhumbula ukuthi simunye, siphelele. Ukuyekela lokho kwesaba ukuba wedwa kuyinto enabantu abambalwa abangayenza, kepha ngalokho kufanele sifunde ukuthi isizungu singaba yinto enhle uma sazi ukuthi singakusebenzisa kanjani.
Funda ekuhlulekeni
Ebudlelwaneni bakho bangaphambilini, kungenzeka wenze amaphutha athile ongafuni ukuwenza futhi. Kuhle ukufunda ezintweni ezenzekile, ubheka ukuthi singumuntu ovuthiwe futhi okhulile, nokuthi futhi umuntu omusha ozosinika izinto ezihlukile. Akufanele sesabe ukuthi kuzokwenzeka into efanayo noma ukuthi ubudlelwano buzohluleka futhi sizolimala futhi. Ngokuhlangenwe nakho sizokwazi ukuthi singazikhomba kanjani izinto ngaphambili futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke sixazulule izingxabano ezingase zenzeke phambilini. Lokhu kuzosenza sizizwe silondeke kakhudlwana kulobu budlelwano obusha, kepha kulokhu kufanele sibhekane nokwesaba kwethu.
Jabulela wonke umzuzu
Ubudlelwano obusha bunezikhathi ezintsha. Akufanele siqhathanise njalo neyangaphambilini kepha kufanele sizivulele izinto ezintsha kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho, sihlale sikhumbula ukuthi sesivele siyazi ukuthi singazenzela kanjani okuhle ngathi. Lokhu kuzosinika ukukhula ngokwanele ukuthi sikwazi ukujabulela izikhathi ezimnandi nomlingani wethu ngokujulile. Uma singazivumeli izipoki zesikhathi esedlule zisidalele ukwesaba okungenasisekelo, singaba nobudlelwano obunempilo futhi obuvuthiwe.