La umehluko weminyaka Kungaba enye yalezo zinto ezivimbela umbhangqwana. Namuhla sinezibonelo eziningi zemibhangqwana yobudala obuhlukile futhi okuthi, naphezu kwakho konke, ingajabulela ukuxhumana okuhle. Kunezici eziningi kakhulu kuneminyaka yobudala lapho ukhetha umlingani, ngakho-ke akuhlali njalo kuthatha isinqumo.
Uma sicabangela ezinye ungabaza ukuthi kungani kungenzeka umlingani bancane noma ngaphezulu ukwedlula okwethu, kungadingeka ukuthi sicabange ngalokho esikufunayo ngempela kulowo muntu. Yize kunezinto okufanele uzigcine engqondweni, kumele uhlale ukhumbula ukuthi uthando alwazi iminyaka.
Ubandlululo lomphakathi
Sonke siphila emphakathini futhi sinakho idinga ukwamukelwa kuye. Kungakho ezikhathini eziningi sishukunyiswa ngokunembile yilezo zinhlanga. Emphakathini kunezinkolelo ezithile ezizungeze lezi zithandani lapho kunokwehluka ngokweminyaka. Kusukela embonweni wokuthi omunye wabo usebenzisa isimo samandla phezu komunye, okucatshangwa ukuthi unezidingo ezingokomzwelo noma zezomnotho, kuya emcabangweni wokuthi umuntu omdala angafuna ukubuyela ebusheni. Kufanele wazi izisusa zomuntu ngamunye ukuze ukwazi ukwahlulela umbhangqwana ngamunye, ngoba ngamunye uhlukile futhi unenhloso ehlukile. Kwesinye isikhathi siphinde sigweme ukuthandana nomuntu wobudala ohlukile ngokwesaba ukwahlulelwa ngaphansi kwalokhu kucwaswa.
Amanani abalulekile
Yize iminyaka yobudala ihlobene kakhulu nendlela oyibona ngayo impilo, lokhu akuhlali kunjalo. Kunabantu abavuthwa ekuqaleni kanti abanye bahlala njengezingane yize iminyaka iqhubeka. Ngalo mqondo, kubalulekile ukuthi amanani nemibono yalaba bantu ababili ihlangane. Kuyisici esivame ukudlula iminyaka. Uma sinamanani afanayo, sizoqondana naphezu koshintsho lwezizukulwane.
Indlela yokuphila
Kuleli qophelo kungahle kube nokushayisana okuthile. Yebo, zombili banendlela efanayo yokuphila, kujwayelekile ukuthi bazwisisane kangcono kakhulu. Abantu abasha bavame ukuzijabulisa ngokwengeziwe futhi banikeze ukubaluleka kwempilo yomphakathi ngaphandle kwekhaya, ngenkathi ngeminyaka befuna indlela yokuphila enokuthula nenokuthula. Uma bengavumelani ngalokhu, izingxabano zingaphela phakathi kwalaba bobabili.
Izinga lokuvuthwa
Ukuvuthwa kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu, ngoba uma umuntu engakakhuli akakakufundeli lokho bamba umthwalo wemfanelo futhi uzimele. Abantu ababili abanezinga lokuvuthwa elihluke kakhulu bazothola igebe elithile phakathi kwabo, ngoba ngeke baziqonde njalo izinqumo zomunye. Kungakho umahluko weminyaka kwesinye isikhathi kunokungabikho kokuvuthwa kohlangothi lwabo, okuholela ekuxabaneni phakathi kwabashadikazi.
Jabulela izinto zokuzilibazisa ezivamile
Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi nobabili ninakho izinto zokuzilibazisa ezivamile ozozijabulela zezikhathi ezithokozisayo sindawonye. Kunzima ngokwengeziwe uma izizukulwane zihlukile, kepha intshisekelo efanayo ingatholwa leyo eyodwa kulaba abashadile. Kunezinto zokuzilibazisa ezingenayo iminyaka, kusukela ekuya emamuvini kuya ezincwadini zokufunda, ngakho-ke singagxila kulezi zinhlobo zezinto ukuze sizizwe sisondelene nalowo muntu.
Okokuqala thokozela
Kukhona lokho khohlwa ukuthi bazothini nangemibono yabanye, ngoba yithina kuphela esingabanikazi bezinto esizizwayo. Uma sithanda umuntu kufanele sibe nesibindi sokuzama, noma kungaphumi kahle, ngoba singamthola umphefumulo womlingani, noma ngabe uvela kwesinye isizukulwane.