La ukuthatha izinqumo phakathi kwalabo abashadile kuyinto ebaluleke ngempela, ngoba ingabeka impumelelo yenyunyana noma ukwehluleka kwayo esikhathini eside esizayo. Kuyo yonke imibhangqwana kufanele uthathe izinqumo ngezikhathi ezithile, futhi ngenxa yalokhu kufanele uzilungiselele. Kunezici eziningana ezingaba nomthelela ekwenzeni izinqumo ezinhle.
para phambili kumbhangqwana bobabili kufanele babe yingxenye yezinqumo. Ukuhlala ndawonye, ukuba nengane noma ukungabi nayo kungezinye zezinqumo ezihlanganyelwe okumele zithathwe. Kungakho umbhangqwana kufanele ugcine engqondweni ezinye izihluthulelo zokwenza izinqumo ezingcono.
Gwema ukungazethembi
Uma a ingxenye yalaba abashadikazi ayivikelekile lokho kuzobonakala ekuthathweni kwezinqumo. Abantu abangazethembi bavamise ukushiyela abanye izinqumo ngoba bengazethembi izinqumo zabo nangenxa yokuthi bakhetha ukungathathi hlangothi lokwehluleka uma kukhona. Kufanele ukusebenzele lokho, ngoba lokhu kwenza isinqumo sigcine sithathe ingxenye eyodwa kuphela yabashadikazi, engagculisi. Kulokhu, kungenzeka ukuthi umuntu ongazethembi ulandela ngemuva komunye, ophephe kakhulu futhi onamandla kulabo abashadile. Kepha isinqumo esenziwe singahle singalingani nokufunayo noma okudingayo ngaleso sikhathi esinembile. Yingakho-ke sinenkinga evela ekutheni isinqumo asiyona eyamazwe amabili.
Yiba nokuzibophezela esikhathini esizayo
Uma kumbhangqwana oyedwa kulaba ababili engakwenzi inokuzibophezela esikhathini esizayo, ukuqhubeka nabashadikazi nokuthi kungokwasempilweni, izinqumo-ke ngeke zenziwe ngokuqwashisa okugcwele ngokufuna ukuzizuzisa ngokwazo, kodwa nokuzenzela wena. Lokhu kudala ukuthi imibhangqwana iziqhelelanise, ngoba iphrojekthi yesikhathi esizayo ayifani kubo bobabili, ngoba oyedwa noma bobabili abanayo leyo phrojekthi ngokufanayo. Uma singazibophezeli kuphrojekthi yesikhathi esizayo nomlingani wethu, umphumela uzoba ukuthi sizokwenza izinqumo sicabangele ukuthi yini ezuzisa kakhulu umuntu ngamunye ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kulokhu, lezi zithandani zingalimala ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngokungabi nephrojekthi yabo bobabili.
Yazi ukulalela
Ezikhathini eziningi okuhluleka kufayela le- imibhangqwana ukuxhumana. Ukwazi ukulalela nokwazi ukuzichaza izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu lapho uthatha izinqumo, ngoba kulapho kuphela lapho sizoqonda khona izinhloso zomunye futhi sizenze siqondwe. Kufanele ulalele izizathu bese uvumela omunye akhulume ngaphandle kokuphazamisa. Bobabili kumele bahlaziye futhi bakhulume imibono yabo ukuze isinqumo sithathwe ngonembeza ophelele. Imfihlo yokuxhumana okuhle ukulalela nokuphendula unombono womunye umuntu. Kuphela ngokuxhumana okuhle lapho impumelelo ingafinyelelwa ezinqumweni zombhangqwana.
I-Narcissism kulo mbhangqwana
Kwesinye isikhathi akwenzeki ukuthi umuntu aphephe, kepha lokho kukhona i-narcissist ngaphakathi kwezithandani. Lokho okwenzayo ukuthi lowo muntu uzinikela kuphela ekwenzeni izinqumo ngokususelwa kuzintshisekelo zakhe. Abantu be-narcissistic bangabantu abanobuthi abavame ukungqubuzana ebudlelwaneni babo ngenxa yokuzithanda kwabo. Uma kukhona umuntu onjengalokhu kuzithandani, kufanele wazi ukuthi ungamtshela kanjani ukuze azi ukuthi zinjani. Ukushintsha i-narcissist kunzima kakhulu, kepha uma lowo muntu ekhathalela umlingani wakhe, bangavula amehlo abo baqale ukucabangela abanye ngezinqumo zabo. Ngaphandle kwalokho lokhu kuzoletha kuphela izingxabano ebudlelwaneni.