Kungashiwo ukuthi ukubanda ngokomzwelo kwabashadile kuyimbangela eyinhloko yokubhidlika kobudlelwane obuningi. Ukuzizwa unesizungu naphezu kokuba nomlingani kuyinto eyingozi kakhulu kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lobudlelwano futhi kubalulekile ukuthola imbangela ebangela lokho.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokhuluma nawe kabanzi mayelana nokubanda noma ukuqhelelana ngokomzwelo phakathi kwabashadikazi futhi okumele ukwenze ukugwema okufanayo.
Yiziphi izimbangela zokubanda ngokomzwelo phakathi kwabashadile
Akufani nokuthi ukuqhelelana okunjalo kwenzeka kusukela ekuqaleni kobudlelwano noma ukuthi kwenzeka esikhathini esithile kamuva. Kungenzeka ukuthi othandekayo unobuntu obubandayo futhi yingakho ukuqhelelana kungenzeka ngezinga lomzwelo. Into ibucayi kakhulu lapho kubanda kwenzeka ngemva kweminyaka yokuhlala ndawonye. Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukuthola imbangela yale nkinga futhi uthole isisombululo esingcono kakhulu. Ngemuva kwalokho sizokhuluma ngezinye zezizathu zokuthi kungani umuntu othile angabanda kakhulu nomlingani wakhe:
- Ukuntula uthando ebuntwaneni kungabangela umuntu okukhulunywa ngaye ukuthi athambekele ekubeninda kunokuvamile futhi angakwazi ukukhombisa imizwa ethile. Ukunamathela akwanele futhi kuyindlala futhi lokhu kuyaphindwa lapho sebekhulile, kungaba nabalingani babo noma nezingane zabo.
- Ukubanda ngokomzwelo kungabangelwa ukuqhela kumuntu ukuze azivikele emazingeni aphezulu okucindezeleka noma ukukhathazeka. Lezi zinhlobo zokuphazamiseka zivame ukwenzeka ebudlelwaneni uqobo futhi okuwukuphela kwendlela yokwenza lokhu ukuhoxa ngokomzwelo kumlingani wakho.
- Ukuhoxa ngokomzwelo komlingani nakho kungaba ngenxa yesenzo somuntu oqaphela ngokuphelele, ngaphambi kokunganeliseki okubangelwa umlingani uqobo kanye nokulahlekelwa uthando kuye.
Imiphumela yokubanda ngokomzwelo phakathi kwabashadile
Ukuhoxa ngokomzwelo phakathi kobudlelwane kunochungechunge lwemiphumela, lokho akulilungele ikusasa elihle labashadikazi abathi:
- Kudalwa umoya wokungezwani okungaguquki okungabazuzisi nhlobo abashadayo.
- Izimpi nezingxabano ziyanda phakathi kobudlelwano.
- Ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka.
- Ukuntula ukuzethemba kanye ukuzenyeza.
- Ukuthuthukiswa kwe isikhwele se-pathological.
Zonke lezi zici zenza ubudlelwane bulimale kakhulu futhi lokho kumiselwe ukuphela.
Okufanele ukwenze naphezu kokubanda kwemizwa yabashadile
Uma kuziwa ekuxazululeni le nkinga, kubalulekile ukuthi umbhangqwana uzimisele ukusindisa ubuhlobo.
- Okokuqala ukuhlala eduze kwabashadile uveze isimo. Kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi ukuqhelelana okunjalo kulimaza kakhulu ubudlelwano.
- Sungula uhlobo oluthile lwezinqubo ezibandakanya ukusondelana, kungaba ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo.
- Ukuya ekwelashweni kwezithandani Ingasiza ekuxazululeni izinto futhi iqinise izibopho ezingokomzwelo kakhulu.