Ukucindezeleka kungaba yinto evamile, kodwa futhi kuyinkinga enkulu. Uma umlingani wakho ecindezelekile kufanele wazi ukuthi ungamsiza, futhi sizokutshela ukuthi ukwenze kanjani. Umshado uyamangalisa, kepha kukhona nezikhathi ezinzima nezimbi eziyingxenye yempilo yethu yansuku zonke. Lokhu kwehla nokwehla yikhona okungabuthinta kalula ubudlelwano bakho futhi kudale ingcindezi kini nobabili.
Ezinye izingcindezi ezingaba imbangela enkulu yengcindezi empilweni yomlingani wakho kungaba yimali, umsebenzi wakhe, umsebenzi wakhe, izingane, ukungezwani komndeni, ubuhlobo bakho, abangane bakhe, impilo yakhe, indlu, njll. Noma ngabe uyazi ukuthi yini ecindezela umlingani wakho, ungahle ungazi ukuthi wenzeni. Kepha ungakwazi futhi sizokhuluma nawe ngalokhu manje.
Wazi kanjani ukuthi umlingani wakho ucindezelekile?
Ezinye izinkomba ezinhle zokubona ukuthi ngabe umlingani wakho ucindezelekile ukuqhathanisa indlela oziphatha ngayo njengamanje nendlela ajwayele ukwenza ngayo kuwe. Uma uqhathanisa ukuziphatha kwakho kwamanje nokwakho okujwayelekile, kufanele ubheke ukuthi ukhuluma kanjani, imibhalo yakhe, ulimi lomzimba wakhe, imizwa yakhe ngisho nempilo yakhe, uma kuqhathaniswa nesimo sakhe samanje. Ezinye izimpawu zokuthi umlingani wakho ucindezelekile yilezi:
- Xoxa kakhulu nawe
- Kuya ngokugxeka kakhulu
- Akakutsheli ukuthi kukhona okumphethe kabi kodwa unesimo esingesihle
- Kubukeka sengathi ezothando akuyona into yakho
- Kungaba nezinkinga zempilo njalo
- Ihlukanisiwe
- Ayenzi izinhlelo nawe
- Akakuniki uthando njengoba akunika lona ngaphambilini
- Uzizwa ungakhululekile uma unabo futhi awazi ukuthi kungani
Ungamsiza kanjani umlingani wakho ocindezelekile?
Umazi kahle umlingani wakho futhi uyazi ukuthi ziyini izimpawu zabo zokucindezeleka. Uzokwazi ukuthi ungamsiza kanjani uma umnaka kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, abesifazane abaningi abanomlingani ocindezelekile Bazozibuza ukuthi bangakusiza kanjani futhi, ngenxa yokukhathazeka okubadlayo, bayazicindezela.
Futhi, abesifazane abaningi baqala izingxoxo nabangane babo ngokusho "Uzakwethu unengcindezi", bese beqhubeka bekhuluma ngokuthi kubathinta kanjani bona nomshado wabo ngoba abazi ukuthi bangakusiza kanjani. Ukugwema lezo zingxoxo nokuthi uzizwa ungakhululekile ngenkathi ungaqiniseki ukuthi wenzeni, landela lawa macebiso:
- Yidla ukudla okunempilo
- Ukuzivocavoca ngokuzimela noma njengezithandani
- Yiba nemikhuba yasendlini kodwa uguquguquke
- Msize azizwe engcono
- Chithani isikhathi sekhwalithi ndawonye
- Yiba nemininingwane yothando
- Thuthukisa ukuxhumana phakathi kwakho
- Inike isikhala esidingayo
Noma ngabe lokhu kubonakala njengokuphikisana, akunjalo. Eqinisweni, lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngokusiza umlingani wakho ocindezelekile. Ungahle ufune isikhathi esithe xaxa sokucabanga, ukuphefumula, futhi ube nguwe. Sekela umlingani wakho ngaphandle kokukuqeda.
Yiba ngumlingani wakhe, hhayi umama wakhe
Ungamthumeli noma umthethise. Ungamhluphi noma ufune ukumenzela yonke into. Esikhundleni salokho, kufanele ube eceleni kwakhe ukuze umnakekele njengoba nje nawe efuna ukuthi akunakekele. Noma kuzwakala kanjani ukuthi udinga ukwenza okuthile komama, ungakwenzi, futhi uma wenza kanjalo, kufake ngothando nokunakekela, futhi kukugcine kukuncane ukuze kube ngothando kube nguzakwenu. Kepha ngaphezu kwakho konke, kubalulekile ukuthi ubonise ukubekezela.