Abantu abaningi banebhadi othandweni futhi bavame ukuzibuza, yini imfihlo yalezo zithandani ezisebenza ngokuphelele futhi banobudlelwano obuhlala isikhathi eside. Akukho mqondo oqondile ngakho futhi lokho ukuthi umbhangqwana ngamunye ungumhlaba, onemikhuba yawo noma amanani awo.
Bonke ubudlelwano kumele busekelwe ochungechungeni lwamagugu abenza bungabi buthakathaka futhi buqine. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizozama ukukutshela ukuthi yini imfihlo yokuthi ubudlelwano obuthile busebenze kahle futhi ihlala iminyaka neminyaka.
Yini imfihlo yokuthi izithandani zisebenze
Kukhona okhiye abaningi, ezenza ubudlelwano obuthile buhlale ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi kusebenza ngokuphelele:
- Ukuthembela kuzakwethu kubalulekile futhi kubalulekile ukuze kuqhubeke ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Uma ungathembani phakathi kwabantu bobabili, kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ubudlelwano buyawohloka buphele ngokuphelele.
- Ukuze umbhangqwana uphumelele futhi uqine ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kubalulekile ukuthi bobabili abantu bazizwe bethandana kakhulu ngomunye nomunye. Kumele kuqhakanjiswe izimfanelo zalowo othandekayo ukuze bazizwe beqondwa futhi bethandwa.
- Ukuhlekisa nokubona impilo ngombono omuhle nakho kusiza ubudlelwano ukuthatha isikhathi. Ayikho into emnandi njengokwazi ukuhleka nothandekayo wakho.
- Uzwela luyigugu elibalulekile kunoma yimuphi umuntu futhi ebudlelwaneni ngeke luntuleke. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungazifaka kanjani ezicathulweni zothandekayo futhi uzwe yonke imizwa nemizwa yabo. Ukuzwela kusiza ekuqiniseni isibopho nokuvumela abashadikazi ukuthi bakhule baqine ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
- Ubudlelwano abunakuhlala ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uma kungekho nhlobo yenhlonipho yanoma yiliphi iqembu. Uma kukhona inhlonipho, kukhona ukuphepha nokwethembana, into ebalulekile ukuze izithandani zingahlukani.
- Umbhangqwana kufanele uhlale ukhona, ngezikhathi ezinhle nezikhathi ezimbi. Ukwesekwa kubalulekile ukuze umuntu osenkingeni azi ukuthi akayedwa nokuthi bangathembela kumlingani wakhe noma ngabe yini.
- Ngaphandle kocansi, ukukhonjiswa kothando nokuthandana kuvumela ubudlelwane ukuthi buqine futhi buqine kakhulu. Ngaphandle kothando futhi ngaphandle kothando, alukho uhlobo lozakwethu olungagcinwa.
Ngamafuphi, kunezihluthulelo eziningi zokuthi umbhangqwana usebenze futhi ungoni ngokuhamba kweminyaka. Ngaphandle kwalokho okubonwayo, kubalulekile futhi ukuthi izithandani zisebenze, ukuthi bobabili abantu babe nesikhala sabo kude nempilo njengabantu abashadile. Akuyona into enhle ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nomlingani wakho, ngoba uma lokhu kwenzeka kungenzeka kube khona ukuwohloka okuphawulekayo kubo futhi kuqede ubudlelwano uqobo. Ungakhohlwa futhi ukuthi kufanele wazi ukuthi ungathethelela kanjani futhi ubeke eceleni ukuziqhenya. Ngalokhu, lo mbhangqwana ungachuma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi uqine kakhulu.