Wonke umuntu angathanda ukuthola uthando lwempilo yakhe futhi achithe impilo yakhe yonke ngokufana. Ngeshwa, iqiniso lihluke ngokuphelele. njengoba izixhumanisi eziningi ezidaliwe zigcina ngokuphuka. Lokhu kuyinto ebhekwa njengemvelo futhi evamile. Kodwa-ke, abantu abaningi bavame ukuphinda iphethini njalo nabalingani besikhathi esizayo.
Uma lokhu kwenzeka, Kufanele uthathe uchungechunge lwezinyathelo ukuze ungalenzi iphutha elifanayo futhi. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokukhombisa ezinye zezimbangela ezingabangela iphethini ukuthi iphindwe lapho kusungulwa ubudlelwano.
uthando ebuntwaneni
Ezikhathini eziningi, amaphethini aphindaphindiwe abonisa lokho okwenzeka ebuntwaneni. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakuwuthando olutholwa abazali noma uthando olukhona phakathi kwabo. Akufani nokukhulela ekhaya lapho izimpawu zothando nothando zingapheli kunokuhlala endlini ekhala nje kungekho zimpawu zothando phakathi kwabantu abathandanayo. Ukukhulela ekhaya elinothando kunemiphumela engemihle lapho usumdala. Kungenzeka ukungazinaki izimpawu ezihlukene ezibonisa ukuthi ubuhlobo bunobuthi futhi buyingozi futhi naphezu kwalokhu, ubekezelele isibopho nombhangqwana.
ukungaqondi kahle ngothando
Ukuba nombono oyiphutha noyiphutha ngothando kungabangela umuntu ukuthi aphindaphinde iphethini, naphezu kokuhluleka nazo zonke izithandani. Uthando alufani ekuqaleni kobudlelwane njengalapho sekudlule iminyaka embalwa. Inhloso yasekuqaleni kumele ivule indlela othandweni oluvuthwe kakhudlwana olusekelwe ekuzibophezeleni nasekuhlonipheni umbhangqwana.
Kumelwe sihlaziye izinkolelo ezihlukahlukene
Uma lo mkhuba uphindaphindwa njalo, kuhle ukuthi ume futhi uhlaziye izinkolelo ezihlukahlukene ngawe nangabanye. Kwesinye isikhathi umuntu usuke entula ukuzethemba nokuzethemba, okwenza ubudlelwano obuhlukene buhluleke bulandelana. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, ukuzethemba okuphansi kungabangela ukuthi bahlale befuna uhlobo olufanayo lozakwethu: i-narcissistic kanye ne-manipulative. Konke lokhu kuhumusheka ebuhlotsheni lapho ukuntuleka kwenhlonipho kusemini futhi ukuhlukunyezwa kuyaqhubeka.
Ngaphezu kwalokhu, lokho okucabangayo ngothando nakho kungase kube umthwalo omkhulu futhi kubangele iphethini ukuba iphindeke nakuba kungenampilo ngangokunokwenzeka. Yilokhu okwenzekayo lapho kukholelwa ukuthi uthando luwumhlatshelo nokuzinikela ngokuphelele komunye umuntu.
Ngamafuphi, Ukuphindaphinda iphethini kubo bonke ubudlelwano akukuhle noma akunempilo nhlobo. Ukuze ugweme lokhu, kufanele uthole inkinga ngokwakho futhi kusukela lapho ubeke isixazululo esingcono kakhulu. Akulungile ukusola abanye abantu ngoba ukwesaba kwakho nezinkolelo zakho ezikuphoqa ukuthi uphinde umkhuba naphezu kokwehluleka ebudlelwaneni.