Naphezu kokuba evamile futhi evamile, Ubudlelwano obunobuthi bulimaza kakhulu impilo engokomzwelo yamalungu abo. Ubuthi buveza imizwa eyingozi ngempela kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lombhangqwana, njengokungajabuli. Nokho, abantu abaningi bakuthola kunzima ukuphuma kulobu budlelwano obunobuthi nabo bonke ububi obuhambisana nalokhu.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo sikunikeza uchungechunge lweziqondisos ukukwazi ukuqeda ubuhlobo obunobuthi.
Kungani kunabantu abahlala ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi?
- Banethemba lokuthi abashadikazi bazoshintsha. Nokho, lokhu akukhuthazwa nhlobo, ikakhulukazi uma umuntu onobuthi engenzi ingxenye yakhe ukuze ashintshe.
- Abantu abaningi bakholelwa efilimini noma othandweni olungelona lwangempela nhlobo olungahlangene neqiniso. Abakucabangi ukudumala empilweni yabo futhi bancamela ukuqhubeka nobudlelwano obunobuthi noma obungemukeleki naphezu kokungajabuli.
- Ukwesaba kungesinye isizathu esenza abantu abaningi bangakwazi ukuqeda ubuhlobo obunobuthi. Ukwesaba ukuba wedwa noma lokho abanye abangase bakusho kuyizici ezenza umuntu ahlale ngokuphelele nomlingani onobuthi.
- Kwezinye izimo, ukuntula ukulondeka noma ukuzethemba kungemuva womuntu oqhubeka nobudlelwano obunobuthi noma obungenampilo.
- Ukukhohlisa kanye nokukhwabanisa ngokomzwelo Kungezinye izizathu ezenza umuntu aqhubeke nophathina wakhe yize enobuthi.
Izinkombandlela okufanele zilandelwe ukuqeda uzakwethu onobuthi
- Kubalulekile ukuzibheka futhi ungahlali ucabanga ngophathina wakho. Uma ubuhlobo bunganikezi injabulo noma inhlalakahle, kungcono ukubuqeda. Kungcono kakhulu ukuba wedwa kunomlingani ongenampilo.
- Kuhle ukwabelana ngemizwa nemizwelo eyahlukene nabantu osondelene nabo. Zizwe ukhululekile ukukhuluma ngendlela ozizwa ngayo nobabili abangani nomndeni.
- Ubuhlobo abukwazi ukudala imizwa efana nokuhlupheka noma ukudumazeka. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, into etuseka kakhulu ukuqeda ubuhlobo obunobuthi.
- Uthando onalo ngabashadikazi angeke lube izaba zokuqhubeka nobudlelwano. Akufanele ubekezele ngenxa yokuthi uthando lukhona.
- Uma ungaziboni unamandla ngokwanele ukuqeda ubuhlobo, ungangabazi ukuya kuchwepheshe. Ukwelashwa kungakusiza ukwakha ukuzethemba nokuzethemba kwakho. Lokhu kuyisihluthulelo lapho wenza izinqumo futhi uqeda ngokuphelele ubudlelwano.
Ngamafuphi, Ngeshwa namuhla baningi abantu abasahleli ebudlelwaneni yize bengaphilile. Ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukene, umuntu akakwazi ukuvalelisa kumlingani futhi abekezelele naphezu kokungajabuli okubangelwa. Awukwazi futhi akufanele uvunyelwe ukuba nomuntu onobuthi onganakekeli uthando, hhayi ubuhlobo.