Ukungashadi akuyona into embi, kepha kubantu abaningi kungaba yinto eqhubekayo, ngoba abanabo ubudlelwano obugcinwayo noma abakwazi ukuxhumana nabanye abantu. Lokhu kwenza ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzizwe uwedwa bese bewela emgudwini wokucabanga ukuthi banebhadi othandweni, bengazi ukuthi kungani abanye abantu ababazungezile bethola umlingani kalula kanti bona abamtholi.
Kunezizathu ezithile ezingadala ukuthi siziqhelelanise nothando noma kusuka ithuba lokuthola umlingani ozokwabelana naye izikhathi. Kumele sikhumbule ukuthi ezinye zalezi zinto zingadala inkinga ukuthola umaqondana, ukuze siguqule ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha nemicabango esivala lo mnyango kithi.
Ukukhathazeka nesidingo sokuthola umlingani
Kukhona abantu abangakwazi ukuba bodwa futhi ngokushesha lapho beshiya umlingani wabo badinga ukuthola enye cishe ngokushesha. Ukufunda ukuba wedwa kungenye yezinqubo ezicebisa kakhulu ongadlula kuzo. Kuyindlela yokwazi amandla nobuthakathaka bethu nokwazi ukuthi umhlaba usibona kanjani nokuthi yini esingasiza ngayo. Ukwazi indlela yokuba wedwa nakho kusenza sikhange ngokwengeziwe emehlweni abanye, ngoba asinaso isidingo sokuncika komunye umuntu. Lokhu kukhathazeka ngokuthola umaqondana kuyabonakala, ngoba sinentshisekelo kakhulu emcabangweni wozakwethu hhayi kakhulu kumuntu esihlangana naye. Lokhu kusenza sigijimele ebudlelwaneni obungasilungele noma okusobala ukuthi ngeke busebenze ezimweni eziningi.
Ukulindela okuqinile
Ukulindela yilokho esifuna noma esethemba ukukufeza ngokuya ngophathina. Kodwa-ke, kwesinye isikhathi sinefayela le- umbono oqinile futhi ukude nokuyiqiniso. Kubalulekile ukuguquguquka uma kukhulunywa ngokuhlangana nabantu, ngoba kwesinye isikhathi singazithola sizwa okuthile kumuntu okungenzeka ukuthi empeleni akusitsheli okuningi. Uma kukhulunywa ngokuthola uthando, kuhle ukuba nomqondo ovulekile futhi uthole ukuthi abantu banjani nokuthi yini abangasiza ngayo kithi. Uma sinamathela ohlotsheni oluthile lomuntu onezici ezithile, singala abantu abathokozisayo endleleni.
Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana
Ukuhlangana nabantu kufanele ukhulume futhi lokhu kusho unamakhono athile omphakathi. Abantu abangenisiwe futhi abanamahloni kunzima ukuthola abantu futhi baxhumana nabantu abangabazi ngenxa yesimilo sabo. Kungakho kudingekile kakhulu ukuzijwayeza lapho uhlangana nabantu. Lezi zinhlobo zabantu zingathuthukisa namakhono abo okuzijwayeza ngokuzijwayeza, ngakho-ke kufanele bagweme ukuzivalela ekhaya noma bangashiyi indawo yabo yokunethezeka.
Ukunganaki ngokweqile
Abantu abafuna umlingani futhi abangazange bazuze lutho bavame ukuba nemicabango emibi ngalokhu. Lokhu ukunganaki kuyabonakala kithi futhi kukho konke esikwenzayo, kulokho esikudlulisayo. Abantu abanegege abathandeki kwabanye. Kumele sicabange ukuthi singakhangwa umuntu omuhle noma ojabulayo. Kumele sisho ukuthi injabulo ukukhetha, ngakho-ke kufanele sifunde ukuyeka ukuba nombono ongemuhle noma sibe nombono wokuhlukumeza walolu hlobo lwesimo. Labo abangakamtholi umlingani noma abaye bahluleka ubudlelwano kwesinye isikhathi nabo bavame ukuzibona beyizisulu, okubenza bangakhangi emehlweni abanye. Futhi, le mizwa emibili ayikaze ibe mihle kithi futhi ingaholela ekucindezelekeni, ngakho-ke kufanele siyisuse kude nathi. Uma uqala ukuba muhle ngokwengeziwe ebudlelwaneni bakho uzobona ukuthi ubadonsa kanjani abantu ngokwemvelo.