Kwesinye isikhathi, isenzo sokushiya yonke into sisho okuthile okuhle: uzinike ithuba lokujabula. Siyazi ukuthi akulula ukwephula isibopho esiqine njengobudlelwano. Kodwa-ke, kunezikhathi ezimpilweni zethu zonke lapho ukuvalelisa kuyisenzo sokukhula okufanele sisenze.
Kumele sikhumbule ukuthi "ukuba umbhangqwana" akusho ukuthi ukuqiniseka ngokujabula. Ukuba ngabashadikazi kusho ukuthi amaqembu womabili asebenza nsuku zonke ebudlelwaneni, ukuthi kukhona ukubuyisana y la clara sensación de que para estar juntos, deben haber muchas más cosas que el amor: respeto, comunicación, complicidad… Si falla uno de estos pilares, falla todo. De ahí que debamos valorar nuevas opciones. Hoy en Bezzia te ayudamos a reflexionar sobre ello.
Nikeza ithuba elisha noma ushiye konke
Ngokuqinisekile nawe uye wazibona ukule ndlela eyinkimbinkimbi. Kwesinye isikhathi, ubudlelwano bethu sebuvele budlule ezinkingeni eziningi, lapho lapho, ngaphandle kokwazi kanjani, kukhona ohlala egcina elahlekile. Futhi lowo muntu nguwe.
- Uthethelele izinto eziningi. Izici ezingakabonwa kamuva noma, okubi kakhulu, ziyahlonishwa.
- Utshale isikhathi nomzamo kumuntu ongakwazisanga ukushiya umsebenzi ozele ukukwenza.
- Unikeze amathuba amaningi. Kufika lapho kufika isikhathi lapho ubona khona ukuthi lokho okunikelile ukuzethemba kwakho. Uzizwa ungenalutho ngazo zonke lezo zikhathi oye wazinikela kuzo, ngaphandle kokuthola imbuyiselo.
Kwesinye isikhathi senza iphutha lokucabanga ukuthi ukuthanda umuntu kunikela konke mahhala. Futhi lokhu kucabanga, lesi simo sengqondo ebudlelwaneni, kuyiphutha elingathí sina elikhuthazwa ngumqondo wakudala wothando lwezithandani.
Ukuthanda umuntu nokwakha ubudlelwano obunempilo kubandakanya lezi nsika eziyisisekelo.
- Uthando luyinkinga. Ngingumhlanganyeli wempilo yakho, wemicabango kanye nezidingo zakho. Ngokubambisana sakha indawo efanayo lapho kunokuqonda khona nalapho sazana futhi sinakekelana khona.
- Uthando ukuphindisela. Kukwazi ukuthi singanikela kanjani kulabo esibathandayo kepha nokuba selungelweni lethu lokuthola. Kuyinto yokushintshana ngokuhlanganyela lapho bobabili bewina futhi kungalahlekelwa muntu.
- Uthando luwukuxhumana okusebenzayo futhi okuthintekayo. Kukwazi ukulalela ngozwela, ukwazi ukuthi ungafinyelela kanjani ezivumelwaneni futhi umise inhlonipho lapho amagama angalimazi ngokwedelela noma ngokuhlekisa.
Uma kungekho kulokhu okuhlonishwayo, futhi ubona ukuthi lokho okuzwa nsuku zonke ukuhlupheka noma ukudumala, isenzo esihlakaniphe kakhulu ngokungangabazeki ukushiya konke. Noma kunjalo, lesi yisinqumo esingenziwa nguwe kuphela. Ungathatheki yilokho abanye abakutshela khona.
Naka lokho umndeni wakho nabangane abangakutshela khona. Noma kunjalo, sonke isenzo sesibindi sidinga ukwazi kahle ukuthi yini umuntu ayifunayo nokuthi yini ayidingayo. Isinqumo ngesakho, ngoba "ukushiya yonke into" ukuvumela ukuthi uphinde ujabule kepha kufanele uqale udubule kuqala. Lapho lapho ongacabanga khona ukulahlekelwa, ukuphoxeka nokuthi ungazithola kuphi futhi.
Ukushiya konke kusho ukuzinakekela futhi
Ukushiya yonke into akusho ukuqala ekuqaleni. Impela, ukushiya konke kusho ukuvuselela nokubuyisa hhayi kuphela injabulo yethu kusuka ngaphambili, kepha ukusivumela ukuthi sithuthuke ngokuhlakanipha okukhulu sihlanganisa isipiliyoni, futhi sizazi kangcono kangcono.
Impilo iyashintsha
Uma ubucabanga ukuthi impilo iyindlela eqondile lapho injabulo iqinisekiswa khona, uzobe usutholile kudala ukuthi akunjalo. Ini ukuphila kubandakanya ukuthatha izinqumo ezinzima, ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi siyawenza amaphutha noma sehluleke, nokuthi lokhu akufanele kusiphoqe ukuba sibuyele emuva, kepha sithuthuke ngokuhlakanipha okukhulu.
Yakha kabusha inhliziyo elimele
Ukushiya othile kusho ukuthi kufanele unqobe izici eziningi. Okokuqala, kuzofanele uthathe isicucu ngcezu zonke izingxenye zokuzethemba kwakho okuphukile noma okwephuliwe. Kuzothatha isikhathi ukupholisa lawo manxeba angabonwa muntu, kepha usuku nosuku izinhlungu zizoba zincane futhi kuzofika isikhathi lapho uyozizwa kahle ngawe.
Ukwakha kabusha inhliziyo elimele kungubuciko abaningi okufanele babenze izikhathi eziningi kukho konke ukuphila kwabo. Empeleni, EJapan kunobuciko obubizwa ngeKintsugi, lapho ababuthakathaka baba bahle futhi babe namandla futhi sisebenza njengesifaniso esihle kulokhu.
- Lapho into iphuka, izingcweti zihlanganisa izingcezu zayo negolide.
- Umphumela uba wobuhle obukhulu. EJapan, kukholakala ukuthi izinto ebeziphukile phambilini zifanelwe ukulungiswa ngegolide ukuze kubonakale amanxeba, ngoba angamanxeba ahlonipha into uqobo futhi ayenze ibe yinhle ngokwengeziwe.
- Kubuye kuthiwe lokho izinto ezilungisiwe futhi zaxhunyaniswa kabusha ku-Kintsugi, zingaphinde ziphume.
Lesi sifaniso kufanele sithathwe njengesakho. Kumayelana nokuqonda ukuthi ukwehluleka kwehlulekile akusho ukuthi kufanele sicabange ukuthi asikufanele ukujabula futhi, ukuthi izingcezu zethu eziphukile ngeke ziphinde zihlangane futhi zisivumele sijabule.
Impilo iyafunda, futhi kukho konke esinakho ukuthola ulwazi nokuhlakanipha. Kwesinye isikhathi ukushiya yonke into ukuphela kwendlela yokujabula, futhi sizokufeza ngokuhlanganisa ukuphoxeka nokudumala kwethu ngegolide ukuze siphume siqinisiwe futhi ngaphambi kokuphila.
Ngoba uthando luyinjabulo, hhayi ukuhlupheka. Y Sonke sifanelwe ukujabula futhi sithole lolo thando olusinika isithunzi njengomuntu. Kufanele sizinikeze amathuba wesibili futhi siphile ngokugcwele nsuku zonke zokuphila kwethu.